He said no need to be sorry after I apologized?

[Anonymous]

The guy I’m seeing and i had a really bad argument and the next morning i apologized and he said “no need to be sorry i think we both needed that”
What does that supposed to mean?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that response from him is a bit weird and ambiguous after you apologized. A few things it could possibly mean:

- He's trying not to escalate things further by accepting your apology fully. Like keeping things calmer by saying no need to be sorry on both sides.

- He may still be a bit annoyed or defensive himself from the argument, so saying you both needed it is a way to deflect taking full responsibility.

- Could mean he thinks the argument was kindaproductive in a way to get things out in the open, even if it was heated. But that's still an odd way to respond to an apology.

- At worst, it comes across like he's not really sorry himself and is brushing off fully acknowledging or taking accountability for his part.

I'd say keep an eye on it and see how he acts going forward. If he's still distant or argumentative, then he may not have learned from it. But give it time too - maybe he just handled the aftermath awkwardly. Communication is key, so discuss what you're both comfortable with to avoid big fights happening again. His response was kinda weird though for sure!

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It means the argument exposed things you both needed to address and you hadn’t up until that moment, especially when it wasn’t related to the original reason why you started arguing to begin with. Much like how “Why don’t you ever do this chore” turns into “Why do you never show me you love me in a way I can understand.”
It’s a sign that you can both learn to communicate better and can take steps to do that