Why do most people believe a guy and a girl can’t stay friends without it becoming more?

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Aakash_Hangargi · Accepted Answer

Offcourse true in one or other form.

Now why do I say this, it's because of you interact with your enemy or even an unwanted person for couple of days or weeks it's in our nature to see and appreciate somethings they do better or we say oh they did things right.

Now the chemistry between men and women is different if I can see that I am comfortable with a women whose a friend and is single with whom I can share and laugh with who matches the vibe its clearly visible in my mind that what more do I want in partner here truly people will see personality more than beauty as well.

So why not will try to at least date and let's see where it goes and people give it a try.
There are plenty of stories where friends have become life partners.

The only time a person feels that a girl and boy can be friends after maturing is when they think they are beneath us or not at the same level as them or they donot have sex appeal or someone is less attractive.

I am not sure if that's a good thing individually speaking.

Also someone spoke about self control if one has to self control then still inside a person's mind and heart their is a thought a feeling which they are hiding or trying to control and they lie then still your above question holds true.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Because there's guys and there's girls that both don't want that to happen they want that relationship and what they have to do is make a deal I've gone out with girls because I wanted one thing well maybe two things I like that person but I also wanted to get in their pants so I have to be honest with myself do I want to get into her pants and somewhere down the road are the relationships going to fail and we're not going to be friends anymore or what do I cherish more friendship or me being selfish and wanting in her pants well me being me I choose friendship I have gotten some of the most beautiful best friends they're girls because I made a choice to be their friends and not try to get into their pants or get into a fake relationship because I want into their pants. We all have to grow up someday and we all have to make choices I know for a fact that I can have girls that are friends for a long long period of time without doing anything because that's who we both choose to be we've had the conversation we both chose that same thing and a friendship and a bond comes out of that it's unbelievable. It's beautiful and you become a better person

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I feel like personally from my own experience that if you find the opposite gender attractive personality wise or physically whatever it is that catches there attention to you, I’m telling you already beforehand that like it or not you’re gonna feel some kinda attraction towards that person sooner or later and may catch feelings so I rather recommend you that if you feel like you already find that person attractive don’t risk it don’t get you’re heart broken been there done that!! Now on the other hand if you like to communicate just for the passing or in general but do not find or see that person attractive for you enough to catch feelings or just feel like he ain’t you’re type than you can communicate and be friends I doubt I’ll lead to anything more unless he finds you attractive but you don’t than it’s still easy to not catch any feelings as long as you don’t find that person attractive! Bc I’m dealing with one guy who I find attractive and I can’t see my self being friends with him and I keep pushing him away but it’s hard and than there is another guy I don’t find him attractive just like to talk to him so yeaa

Account · Accepted Answer

People form an opinion on such things by solely focusing on their own experience (s) and observations. If they notice that something does not and cannot work for them, they automatically assume that is the case for others.

MisterWack · Answer

Because people are immature.
Maybe the two friends do everything together, been friends since childhood, and are awesome together… Though people need to get it through their collective heads that girls & boys, women & men can be friends with no strings attached damn it.

What is worst is when classmates poke fun, tease, or try to ‘ship’ two friends which slowly drifts them apart all because of school drama or whatever…..

ManOnFire · Answer

It's natural for male and female friends to become attracted to each other over time. That's usually how a lot of serious relationships come about, and I think it's a good thing. Most men want sex or a relationship with their female friends, and most women end up having feelings for their male friends. Perfectly okay to me. That's a lot better than hooking up with complete strangers.

Friendship allows you to learn about each other in the beginning because you're comfortable with one another and more open than just two people dating off the bat, who tend to feel like they're feeling their way with the other person.

imtiaz45 · Answer

Many people believe that a guy and a girl can’t stay just friends because of societal norms and media portrayals that emphasize romantic or sexual tension between opposite genders. This belief is reinforced by the idea that attraction, even if unacknowledged, will eventually complicate the relationship. Additionally, cultural expectations often suggest that deep emotional connections naturally evolve into something more, leading to skepticism about purely platonic friendships. However, many friendships do remain strictly platonic, challenging this common assumption and showing that mutual respect, clear boundaries, and honest communication can sustain such relationships without romantic involvement.

cheapshotbob · Answer

because either the guy or girl depending on the situation might think the other person wants more and treat them like that and never really be friendly with them. a perfect example of this is this girl I'm friends with

she is a single mom and everything and we're really good friends. me and her son get along fine etc

but every time I ask her out for some lunch you know just to go get something to eat taste. it is me trying to hit on her and she makes up some kind of excuse to go out someone else.

is actually quite silly but it is what it is because some people are like that because they can't see it for what it is an actual friend asking you out for lunch or something nothing more.

some people just have to see something more when there's nothing there so they can feel better about themselves I suppose I don't know really.

but that's just my opinion

Empery · Answer

In my teen years, it was possible to be platonic friends. But not these days when guys of younger generations get their female friend drunk and raped her then took pictures and circulated it around in school.

After those years, I have concluded it's not possible to be friends with the opposite gender especially olddddd people that includes females, speaking as a female. Guys like being with guy friends and do male things. It's possible to be friends with a guy who isn't romantically attracted to you. But I have made a real friend off Gag. We been friends since 2013. He's found a wife and it didn't hinder our friendship. He's my only male friend in real life.

Anonymous · Answer

It just depends on the friends honestly. Men and women can be friends, but there are some people who can’t. It depends on their level of self control.

Does it happen where one person catches feelings and the other does not? It does happen. Men and women sometimes develop feelings for one another it’s natural and relationships between two best friends are the strongest.

People who marry their best friend tend to have much happier, fulfilling, and longer lasting marriages. Then people who marry for the wrong reasons.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Because they can't. Someone always wants more. Typically the man thinks he can win her over by being a boyfriend without the sex and she'll eventually give in. The woman is almost always certain she's not interested.

For a man to be able to have a platonic friendship with an attractive women he would have to have a plethora of options available, and she would have to have some utility. Ie a business relationship or something. Women can always be platonic friends with men because they gain from male friends at no cost to them.

serious · Answer

It is possible but it becomes tough if the friendship has been there for years and more so if either one or both of them are very attractive (physically).

The reason it becomes tough is I think it is because they start caring for each other more and so feelings come into play.

The exact reason why a guy and girl can't just stay friends is not known. Maybe there is no exact reason.

Anonymous · Answer

Because young guys and girls NEED to fuck. So if they're not both getting regularly serviced, they're going to be looking to do so and very likely one of them will want to get it on with the other.

And if the ARE both getting regularly serviced, they're probably not spending too much time together doing things that friends do, since they'll be busy getting it on with their partners.

So that's why most people don't believe a guy and girl can stay friends (especially close friends) without one at least wanting more.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

When someone sees a guy and girl just friends they always have this negative impact that they are more than friends, and it's not true I have been texting a Lady friend from this website for 4 years, and we are just friends, and she is younger than me, but it doesn't matter to the both of us.

sawno · Answer

The real factor is if its pointless that it stays just friends.
If both are single, both get along well and both are attracted to each other why not make that more than friends?

The times guys and girls can stay friends just fine is when either one isn't interested in the other romantically/sexually or if one of them is taken. Then they can stay friends just fine.

Twalli · Answer

Because they only befriend people of the opposite gender they find attractive. So all their friends who aren't the same gender are potential romantic partners. Of all my female friends, I've only found 2 attractive (some were hot, but not someone I wanted to date). I am dating one of them now

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have no idea. It is not something I hear in the real world, but I read it all the time online. It is truly bizarre.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Because that's how we are created, you have a very small chance to stay friends with a man but just know that this particular friend is controlling himself so hard stay as your friend untik he reaches his goal or something else but no man would be a friend with a woman and his mind is 100% clear about her!

avery58 · Answer

As long as they're single, who cares. Maybe it will, maybe not. But why would I want to risk my relationship just to act like everything in life is equal and fair?

matchrestore · Answer

I don't know. My best friend is a girl I've been friends with for 18 years now. If something was going to happen, don't you think it would have already?

johnknoxxx · Answer

Because usually at least one has bad intentions, or would like something more, or, they're cute together and television doesn't help. Love stories? People suggesting or thinking they're dating and how well they get along. If you're mine, you're mine. I don't want others thinking that I'm letting my girl out with some other dude. No

Redwolf4821 · Answer

I have guy friends I am just friends with, but also guy friends who we both knew wanted more. A natural chemistry that was already there that built over time. I think it's assumed that chemistry builds in every male/female relationship when some can truly be platonic.

luvstoned4him · Answer

I could do it but every guy I want as a friend ends up wanting more... whether its a relationship or just sex They are weak when it comes to women I guess

ManInChains · Answer

Because of women’s bodies which they claim are so sacred and important yet they’re shaking their asses all over the internet and in public while filming TikTok videos.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

You can but there can't be a mutual attraction cause if there is it's only a matter of time before they cross the line

jshm2 · Answer

Because they are right. While it doesn't always happen, relationships develop when working closely with others.

RingOfFire · Answer

Because nature always wins. And nature designed man and women to pair up and make families. It's the most powerful force in human relationships, more powerful than friendship.

Xawyx · Answer

I'm not sure why, but lots of people are ignorant.  I'm certain that a guy and a girl can be friends without becoming more.  But that's probably because I have been friendzoned so many times.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I see no evidences that most people would believe in what you said they believe in

Kaamraj · Answer

They can be platonic friends as long as there is no sexual attraction.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Guys saying they can't are just thinking with their dick and haven't had sex in a while.

Yannae · Answer

Once you're physically attracted to a friend a lot of people find it challenging to keep it just at a friendship level.

lorenzomichael · Answer

That’s not true I believe that it’s possible. Just as long as one of them are gay or very, very unattractive

soe11 · Answer

All depending upon person to person, intention and objectives.

Rapport · Answer

Because of all the situationships, cheating stories and shit you hear about.

clampfan101 · Answer

Because most people today are sexoholics? That’s how it feels, anyway.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Because those people are incapable of controlling themselves.

Dat-Alpha-Lion · Answer

Because guys and girls are socialized to like different things growing up. Really they can primarily become friends if one or both of them is taken.

Chthou95 · Answer

Because most of the time someone always likes the other more than a friend. Besides male and female friendships are pointless

Uknomysteezz · Answer

Because either the guy has had feelings for the girl or once did. Or eventually both the woman or man end up catching feelings.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Yes , a girl and guy can stay as :friends: without sex

Kelley1 · Answer

The question is a lie.

Anonymous · Answer

Men think no, women think yes

Anonymous · Answer

Because most guys can't keep their distance and they usually befriend women because they feel attracted to them.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Here for the replies. lmao

MemeSupreme · Answer

bc people lack control

MasterKS · Answer

because sex harmones make it more!

DtMe89 · Answer

Because it doesn't. Why do girls think it can

jahaims · Answer

Most people are too immature to handle it

dudeinohio · Answer

Because it's mostly true

justabuddy · Answer

Because it's more rare than people think.

Agape93 · Answer

No idea

Anonymous · Answer

Personal experience.

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When someone sees a guy and girl just friends they always have this negative impact that they are more than friends, and it's not true I have been texting a Lady friend from this website for 4 years, and we are just friends, and she is younger than me, but it doesn't matter to the both of us.

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