Why he ghosted and then came back? Is there something shady here?

[Ranya234]

We matched on Hinge in middle of June. I don't know what made me swipe because I found him a bit shady. He used a random word instead of a name. But I am new to Online dating so I assume a lot of people do that for privacy. We started talking, he asked for my facebook because we discussed a possible hookup or maybe date (he wasn't looking for anything serious from what he said). As every woman does, I checked his FB and on the about section I saw that he is older than what he claimed his aged to be on Hinge profile.

On facebook he responded to my stories (pics with me). I messaged him after a few days to see what is he up to. He answered right away and then I asked him if he lives in Chicago ( my city). He didn't answer. Ghosted me for over a month. I didn't think too much of it although it felt weird... but I guess online dating is a numbers game. OK, I went on dates with other guys and forgot about him. He didn't only ghost me, he stopped posting for an entire month. Then, randomly, after a month he opened our old conversation that ended with my question about him living in Chicago and liked my previous message, when I was telling him about my favourite kind of pasta. I found it weird. Why do that after ghosting. And still not answer my question. Then he replied to my story with a DM. But he doesn't talk to me lol. I was a bit curious so asked him how he is. He answered but didn't ask about me.

Is this shady? I thought I could propose to meet but it feels weird. What you think?

[CuriousHubby]

Very shady but also happens. It's a sick and twisted game every one online plays differently.

He probably got a date and after meeting learned how shady he was after getting knocked up.

Now he is going back to you cause you actually talked to him and might be friends with benefits...

An easy lay for him who is kinda blind to the shady sis guy!

Please stay safe and be very careful who you meet! Also how you meet them and what they can learn. They might stall you latter!

[Ranya234]

Yes, it turned out that we don't actually live both in Chicago. So I think he was interested in me but I was too far. He asked for my facebook not to talk to me but to be able to inform each other when/if we are in each other city (that's what he said. He was the one who proposed this. To hit each other up). Do you think I could hit him up to meet when I go to his city? Or will he reject me?

[CuriousHubby]

I think it would be a mistake to meet such a suspicious person! After so many lies!

[strateguy632]

Nothing shady here.

What you called ghosting, was just him busy. He deserves better than you.

[DishLady]

"We matched on hinge..." -- Your first mistake is thinking some guy from some app will drop everything to be with you 100% like a real guy you actually know.

"On facebook he responded to my stories..." -- again, you're filtering everything through some app. STEP AWAY from the apps and go meet a REAL GUY.

Is he shady? The whole setup is shady... all the apps just give both you and him more of a chance to be desperate AND shady.

Leave this guy alone.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Let the ghost rest in peace. 👻⚰️ Keep moving forward with your life.

[Staximus]

Why are you even bothering with this guy? Are you that desperate for attention or sex? Forget about that wishy-washy fucking weirdo and get on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Many people are wishy-washy and they don’t really want to lose you so they come back

[noohair]

Social media has ruined dating and courtship.

[Malwi93]

maybe he never ghoted

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

Booty call.

[Ranya234]

we are not that close

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

It’s the same idea, though.

[Ranya234]

I mean we live in different cities

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

You’re taking it very literally.

[Daredevil00]

Because men are complicated