Why does my ex-fling keep looking me up on LinkedIn?

[Anonymous]

I had a fling with a guy earlier this year and he did not want to commit. I ended things and blocked him (because he wouldn’t take no for an answer). Now every few weeks, I seem to him on my “who’s viewed my profile”.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is weird that your ex-fling keeps looking you up on LinkedIn even though you blocked him elsewhere. A few possibilities for what could be going on:

- He's still not over you and is checking up to see what you're up to/if your status has changed even though he didn't want a relationship before.

- LinkedIn is more of a professional platform so maybe he thinks looking there is "safe" since you won't know it's him as easily as other social media.

- He could be curious if your job or life is different in a way that makes you more available now compared to when you were together.

- It's possible he regrets how things ended and is hoping your profile gives hints you may be open to talking again.

Either way, it does seem like he's still hung up on you if he keeps searching you out. I'd just ignore it - don't change privacy settings to notify him you know. Let him look without getting a reaction. Maybe he'll get the hint that ship has sailed and stop creeping eventually! Guys can be stubborn when they want something they can't have.

[_Maya_]

Simple. He wants to know what you are up to and that might be (sounds like) the only way he can view any sort of info on you. I am not on LinkedIn so I don't know how much info is really shared. I was under the impression it was a professional networking site and not social media type thing that you would update a lot. So I don't know what he has to gain from checking your profile there unless you are constantly updating it which makes no sense to me. So really it comes down to that is the only way he can see into your life since you blocked him (presumably) everywhere else. That is my best guess of what he is up to.

[Asker]

Yeah. It is a professional site. I don’t really post anything except for on work anniversaries and if I get a new job/promotion (I did last month).

I guess I’m just confused as to why a person who did not want a relationship with me is keeping tabs on me.

[_Maya_]

That is the mystery... why people do weird things like this guy is doing.