Can a guy who only sees you as a friend change his mind eventually?

[Anonymous]

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Yep. It's called a glow-up:

https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-have-a-glow-up/

You know when the girl next door shows up at a party and the guy hasn't seen her in five years? That.

It requires a ton of effort, but it can be done. If you are reasonably fit and cute, it should be easy to do. But if you are toxic, a guy will still avoid you, even if you look like a knock-out physically. If you genuinely work through issues and develop yourself into the person you want to be, with a positive mentality, you might have a chance.

But remember, you can't do much about your facial structure and symmetry, so that's kind of where the rubber meets the road. You can have great skin, perfect hair, and good teeth, but bone structure is not really something that can be corrected without a huge expense (which probably won't improve things anyway).

Here's the lowdown:

Physical: fitness, healthy diet, teeth, hair (long hair, always), hygiene, wax, neat nails, Find your style and curate your wardrobe. Less clothing and better quality and fit is usually a good place to start.

Mental: Read three types of books/information; personal growth, current events, educational/history. Sign up for therapy, relearning thought patterns, etc.

Spiritual: Meditation and journaling, if you aren't religious. It calms the mind and has a host of benefits.

Behavioral: Watch and copy the behaviors and mannerisms of feminine women (Gal Gadot, Monica Ballucci). It might feel weird at first, but you'll find your stride. Learn to enunciate and practice speaking (Toastmasters is a great place to learn and practice). Take a dance class or adult ballet and learn to walk and move gracefully.

Emotional: Practice kindness, learn to count to ten, practice expressing your position calmly.

Practical: Learn to cook and plan meals simply and well. Get your life organized; hire a professional organizer to help. Work with your local banker to learn how to budget and manage finances more effectively. Set goals.

Whatever you do, make sure he doesn't see you until you've got it all together. Then, glam up and show up at a mutual gathering. Voila!

This is what men want in women, pretty much. No pressure, LOL. :D

But, in all honesty, you'll benefit from investing in yourself, regardless of his response to it. And, you might find that your dating options increase exponentially as a side benefit. But the most important piece of this is creating new habits and building your lifestyle.

I wish you luck!

[DishLady]

Maybe, for one of two reasons:


He was crazy about you anyway and just biding his time….


He’s been through a ton of other relationships and knows you’re a better option.


There are a few levels in between, but these are the two major “ballpark” reasons.

[Summeroflove]

Absolutely! It can for women too who see a guy as a friend. Sometimes it’s getting to know someone better created by far a stronger attraction since you genuinely know them for them. Not creating this fake person in your head about how perfect she or he is. Then to meet then and realize that they aren’t st all who you thought they were.

Im not saying it always happens some people will only see one another as friends and that’s okay too. Just remember what’s meant to be will be. If you have directly expressed interest and they turned it down. Leave it be. The balls in their court if they wanted to pursue it they will come around. It’s best to start moving on

[imtiaz45]

Yes, it’s possible for a guy who initially sees you as just a friend to develop romantic feelings over time. As people get to know each other better, their feelings can evolve. Shared experiences, deeper emotional connections, and increased comfort with one another can sometimes lead to a shift in perspective. However, this isn’t guaranteed, and it's important to approach the situation with patience and without expectation. Maintaining open communication is key, and if feelings do change, it's essential to ensure that both parties are on the same page to avoid misunderstandings or hurt feelings.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/UkSnQFpba2E

[Datboi65]

This is the reason why I think friendships are absolutely stupid between men and women. One person catches feelings, the other leads them on and they both pretend that everything is OK until eventually one gets tired and leaves.

I don't have any female friends, just acquaintances. I keep my distance precisely for this reason. I can tell when a girl has a crush on me, and the ones that do are usually friends of my friends, but not in my circle. I don't lead them on or show interest so not to waste their time since I don't feel the same way about them.

I think you either need to let him know how you feel, or just ghost (I wouldn't recommend it but it's an option).

[Anonymous]

Well, there's a guy who asked me out back in 2019 but I rejected him, I later on developed a huge crush on him but he friend zoned me, I was in the friendzone for 4 years - infact we stopped talking in 2020 until I initiated contact again in 2022, although I initiated contact in 2022, I was still in the friendzone until 2023, and after that I got out of it and now he's my boyfriend and we are planning to get married in 2 years. I just don't understand if this is fate or something, even when I developed that crush back in 2019, I had this feeling that this guy is the one for me, later on as we stopped talking to each other , I thought perhaps I was wrong but the strong feeling that I felt for him in 2019 never faded , he was still in my heart, which led me to initiate contact in 2022.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I mean, yes he can. But he also may never. I have guy friends that would probably never see me as more than a friend (I'm fine with this though, as I feel the same).

[RebelinSteel]

Yes, I tend to view girls as friends until I work out if there is a level of emotional attraction, can be a pain for some girls wanting a relationship.

[BetaBucks]

If she becomes more attractive or more mentally stable, sure. Not a guarantee, but it's a possibility.

[molonski2]

Nope , highly highly unlikely , it ain't going to happen.

[WhitneySnow]

Sure. It can happen. It might not happen, but then again it might.

[ProbablyClueless]

He might. But I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you.

[nawtee_me]

Can women change their mind eventually? I ask because if women can then men can too and if women won’t change their minds then it is a good indicator why men rarely do.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It can happen, but I don't recommend it. You're either his type or you're not.

[paledreams]

Doubt it. Same goes when it's men on the other foot - she ain't gonna change her mind 😭😆 lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's possible but it doesn't seem like a common outcome

[Surferboi_02]

Yes if they possess the ability to see the good and notice you

[LiamJHayden]

Yes.

[Intheclouds00]

Guys aren't friends with girls they don't like. He likes the attention or knows he has the option.

[ChiTown33]

Yeah, but I wouldn't waste your time WAITING on it. It also might NEVER happen.

[Whitesmith85]

Yes absolutely. It's happened to me. Infact I actually fell in love with her but then I left for the military and when I cam back she was with another guy.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Lots of dudes go from seeing a chick as a girl bud to a girlfriend.

[dudegreat91]

No that means he doesn't find you physically attractive

[Anonymous]

Why does he have female friends in the first place? Is he gay?

[Hulk30]

Yea that's possible but ya definitely gotta show him nonsexual quality

[midnightmoon05]

Most of the time no. There are exceptions

[bowenw]

Anything is possible.

[thearchjoker]

Very rare, not impossible but ultra hard

[zoomio]

Show cleavage.

[AmeerX]

It can happen but not always

[elaphe]

It has happened to me.

[Anonymous]

Sure. But it's cheaper to keep you as a friend.

[Anonymous]

I did. Just sayin.

[luvstoned4him]

Sometimes not always

[Cheerfull009]

Yes yes mostly it happens

[MasterKS]

yes its possible!