I just found out that my fiance was trying to catfish and blackmail a girl for nudes five years ago?

[Jaimelapastque]

I have been with my fiance 1 1/2 years.

I looked through my partner’s phone today, he had pages up and down with searches on women on facebook. In his old messages from before me he texted soooo many girls from there.

He was texting one women in 2019, they exchanged selfies, then suddenly he sent her nude pictures of herself, she asks him how he got them, he said that he made a fake profil of a white man (she lived in Congo at the time and he was in Maroc but also originally from Congo) and he said she sent it from there. He said he would share the pictures on facebook and whatsapp because why she don’t want to be with her own people and go for white men, he also said if you don’t give me what I want (nudes) I will do that. He never did it.

But I am scared. I am like who is this person.

Yesterday we had an argument he was telling me how he didn’t feel cared for and respected while I feel like I do so it was very hurtful to think everything is alright and give 100% to hear that. I was crying. At first he didn’t care. Later he came to comfort me and it felt like things were alright.

Now today I see this and I don’t know what to do with this information after going through his phone and I am scared, who is this person?

I always saw him being shy, kind, gentle and loving. Now I don’t know any more, everything is falling apart

I need to confront him; leave, i am so confused. How do i talk to him

[Anonymous]

My response: People can change and people can evolve. Everyone has done something that was awful, vile, and mean at some time or another….
I think you should tell him you looked at his phone and saw the thing that was disgusting, awful, and terrible see how he feels about it now / if he isn’t that weirdo anymore and is the man you dated & shared your special feelings.

Basically, sit him down and talk about it. Be upfront and honest, see if he can change your mind and remind you of the guy you dated & fell head over heels for & wanted to marry & spend the rest of your life with.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Unless there is a defining moment that caused a change in someone's life, the past is never just the past. Show me your past and I'll show you your future.

[molonski2]

Never trust the quiet ones , he has a massive agenda , far better to know now , he is not for you he wants others.

[slatyb]

1. Call off the engagement.
2. Tell him why, or don't. Up to you.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

You cannot trust him anymore.

[Jaimelapastque]

Yes it destroyed it

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Beware of hidden cameras in areas where you'd have sex with him.

Keep your eyes open in case he sneaks shots of you while having sex with him.

You'll never want to sleep nude or sparsely clothed anymore when he's around.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Besides the voyeurism, perversion and extortion, how can you trust with with other aspects of your life that'll fall in his hands?

Before you kick his ass out of your life, make sure you clean up anything & everything that's available which he might use against you someday.

[KostasKouvalis]

When you date people from backwards third world countries, this happens. You made your bed, you can lay in it

[Jaimelapastque]

Put your name if you want to be a racis pos. I am biracial, thanks😘

[KostasKouvalis]

I don't think it's racist to acknowledge that certain groups of people have certain traits and behaviors. It's a cultural thing. Congolese isn't a race.

Also, what's wrong with being racist?

[KostasKouvalis]

Why are you gettng defesive about this guy?

[Jaimelapastque]

I don’t discuss with racists byeeeeee

[KostasKouvalis]

That's fine. I don't discuss with chocolate lovers either

[DrPepper12]

🚩🚩🚩 proceed at your own risk

[Iron_Man]

Are you going to end the relationship?

[thearchjoker]

Congo living up to is bad reputation

[thearchjoker]

*its

[Jaimelapastque]

Racists living up to their expectations.. anybody on here who has something intelligent to say that’s not about race?

[thearchjoker]

Kongo is the Florida/Ohio of Africa the wildest stories all come from there. if you want to call it racist so be it but its not about race or nationality but more about the regions wild reputation for bizarre stories

[thearchjoker]

*Congo

[Anonymous]

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