Why does my ex make these comments?

[Anonymous]

My ex broke up with me after a year of being involved due to cultural differences and expectations of his family (so he says and always did say). We broke up 5 months ago. We've stayed friends, but he moved not long ago for work. He still makes comments that he misses me, he wants to visit or have me visit, he doesn't want me to meet other guys, etc and when I make comments like wanting to touch his hair he doesn't shy away from encouraging it.

Yet, I guess I'm left asking why he does this? I do it because I still have feelings but ultimately know no future can come of it which I sometimes find hard to accept.

He asked about my dating life recently and we got into a bit of a tiff as I made the mistake of asking about his and he said he might begin trying to find someone of the cultural background hid parents are seeking. It stung but with this in mind why his comments? Any merit?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmmm that is super confusing girl! I feel like your ex is sending some mixed signals for sure. On one hand, he says he wants to see you and doesn't want you dating other guys, but then says he might start looking for someone from his culture? Makes no sense.

My guess is he still has feelings for you deep down, but is also feeling pressure from his family. So he likes the attention from you when it's convenient for him, like getting compliments, but doesn't want the full commitment. Which is kinda lame of him to string you along like that if he's not really available.

I think at this point you need to have a serious talk with him about what's actually going on. Lay it all out - the mixed messages are hurting your feelings. Either he needs to commit to trying long distance, or you need to start the process of moving on. You can't wait around in limbo forever wondering what he really wants.

Stand up for yourself! You seem like a really caring girl who deserves someone willing to fight for you without hesitation. I know it's hard since you still love him. But staying hung up on a situationship will only hold you back from meeting someone who truly wants to be with you, culture be damned. You've got this - be strong!

[CuriousHubby]

Honestly he is greedy and such a jerk. He can't have you but is so jealous! Obviously can't be just friends.

He wants you around to some time if you two meet to sleep with. Get attention from and is very toxic.

Don't be fake friends with him just block him after a time it's not appropriate for your new date to hear... Yeah I talked with my ex about you

[Anonymous]

U don’t sound like u really like them or love with them. U just feel bitter. That’s it