Do men actually care about miscarriages?

[Justneedtokno]

Like does it actually bother men when women have miscarriages as well? Does it emotionally bother them too?

[Anonymous]

Depends on her relationship to me. If it's my wife, I'd be devistated. Anyone else I do not care.

[Justneedtokno]

This is the most honest answer thank you

[Opinion Owner]

Welcome. It's not that I don't care about anyone but my wife, it's that my wife's situation and life are the only life and situation that directly effect my own.

I should expand that if female family members had miscarriages I'd offer my sympathy, but that would be the limit.

If it's a friend, same thing as female family members.

But random woman on the street, I do not care.

[Justneedtokno]

🤔 we’ll see now that makes more sense because at first it was as if nobody else in the room you wouldn’t even offer condolences if you hear about it the family member almost

[John_Cobretti]

If that's his kid , then obviously

[Justneedtokno]

But it’s not always obvious

[John_Cobretti]

Why would a man not be sad when his wife just had a miscarriage and they just lost their child?

[Justneedtokno]

Because some men hold their emotions in just to be strong and they don’t always say it so we don’t know how you’re feeling

[John_Cobretti]

Ok so you wish men express it more rather than holding it in?

[Justneedtokno]

When it comes to something as deep as this type of conversation, I would like to know from my partner how would you feel on this other subject matters especially if we’re building a life together

[MisterWack]

One: We care about our spouses going through a heartache especially when it is the loss of a planned pregnancy….. It happens all of sudden, out of nowhere, you feel loss of words & you are shaken to your core… You feel vulnerable, sad, despair, and anguish. It is a tragedy and must be treated like one.

Two: If my SO had a miscarriage I would support her, comfort her, bring flowers and treat her like a Queen…. It is a sad tragedy and it will take time to heal, it may never heal though there is time for normalcy later right now she needs me.

[DannyUk2017]

If He is a Player? No way! He actually will be happy that it won't have to "contribute" financially to the upbringing of the child.

If he is Family oriented then yes, it will break him, as he might know that "he's running out of time and he will want to have a child to leave something behind...

[molonski2]

FCKEN hell.. YES..

Sure you can't carry the baby , but having been though one , and 3 phantom pregnancies' , it hurts when you are committed absolutely..

Fortunately I have my two girls now , who are grown women , doing stuff all over the world , and I do often think.. What if they didn't happen? I then I get extremely sad..

IN the case you describe , its tough for men to show what they really feel , its a support role , its tough.

[Justneedtokno]

Thank you for your insight

[Lliam]

My wife had two shortly after we were married.
I had never been that interested in having kids, but I was excited when she got pregnant.

She got to feel life growing inside her. Then, at one of the checkups, maybe three months or four along, they couldn't detect a heartbeat. That happened twice.

The miscarriages were heart ripping. She was shattered and I was really, really sad. I felt particularly bad for her and helped her to mourn. She and I even created private ceremonies/funerals each time to honor the lost ones and deal with the grief.

[Berethor]

It bother men so much that they prefer young women, who has low risk for miscarriages.

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/age-and-fertility

[PeachyPie93]

Are you dumb? Plenty of women have miscarriages in there 20's and teens have birth defects too.. so yes it maybe harder to get pregnant later in life for woman but that has nothing to do with the likely hood of miscarriage. You are getting old yourself so I don't know how you are judging woman when no young VIRGIN woman is gonna want to be stuck in a marriage to you. Go touch grass and got off the internet.

[msc545]

Yes of course we do. When my ex-wife and I were expecting a child and she was pregnant when we were having tests to make sure the child didn't have any defects. We were both very nervous about it. Let me emphasize that included both of us, not just her. Luckily there was nothing wrong with the baby and our daughter is quite healthy.

[hahahmm]

Of course it bothers a guy BUT men are not women. We do not show our feelings like women do and we are not controlled by our feelings. If we were you would call us 'pussies' and date the other guy who actually can be a dependable shoulder to cry on in hard times or a guy who will actually be protective of you when danger shows up instead of hiding behind you.

[PeachyPie93]

Yes, if he is dating the person and happily expecting a kid then yeah it would bother them.
But I personally could never relate to people who take it SUPER hard, like yes it is sad and would hurt because it is your kid but I would never hold onto it that badly because it technically never came into being, it isn't like you knew the baby or their personality. It's just a thing that died.

[DizzyDesii]

If the guy wanted the kid or if he knew how much she wanted the kid, yes. The only guy who probably wouldn't be bothered is one who wanted nothing to do with the situation and/or wanted her to abort

[avery58]

I mean yeah, if they had started to make plans of what their family would be like. And also to see their partner go through something as difficult as a miscarriage must also hurt.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the nature of the relationship I suppose. My brother's wife had a miscarriage and I think he was more devastated than she was. But I'm closer with him so he shared a lot more with me than she did. But in any case, it's been very hard on him.

[elaphe]

I've never experienced this personally, but I would think that it would for two reasons. First, it is his child that has died as well as the women's. I can't imagine what pain that would be. Two, my partner's pain during that loss would upset me.

[AviatorTom]

Yes we men do. Let me just say it took more than 3 pregnancies to have our 3 kids. It's important to learn about heartbreak... together.

[LazerBean]

If they cared about their child, then yes if course.

[Agape93]

It can yeah. Happened to a friend of mine and his wife. They wanted the baby and when it miscarried, obviously she broke down but he was destroyed. He was so excited and now that was gone. Eventually had one but it still upsets them

[ProbablyClueless]

Absolutely. It's not anything close to what the woman goes through, of course, but we get hit really hard by miscarriages too.

[MasterKS]

It will if you are in relationship, although i take abortion very normal but miscarriage is sad accident! I can feel it!

[Justneedtokno]

Separating abortion from a miscarriage how it is an unintentional occurrence child not being developed properly or the body couldn’t handle it properly the misfortunate event that happened

[MasterKS]

@Justneedtokno i think miscarriage more serious issue!

[Grond21]

Of course we care. Our child just died. It may not be the same as women, but most men are different than most women.

[Wiredone]

My wife had a miscarriage. He was a twin. The other boy was delivered but he had a heart issue. The doctors ended up killing him. We were both equally devastated about both boys. I wonder every day what type of kids they would have been

[jahaims]

Depends on the guy. We don't share universal thoughts and feelings.

[LiamJHayden]

At least some do. Phil Keaggy wrote a song about it.

[DrPepper12]

What a callous question!! Of course we do!! It's the same for us except for the physical trauma on the woman.

[Nerdvana]

Yes, I would care. It would actually affect me emotionally.

[nawtee_me]

Yes it does or it did me when a girlfriend had one years ago.

[OddBeMe]

Probably not as much as carrying it inside your body and losing it.

[NathanDavis]

yes, we have feelings... we care...

[spartan55]

If it's their wife, yes.

[woahhh152]

For me wife comes first in that situation

[thearchjoker]

of course they do

[eagle1951]

very much so for me anyway

[stratford]

Yes, it definitely does.

[zagor]

Only of justice.

[Dongie]

I'd imagine so. Just almost as bad as abortion.

[Maybeyoutoo]

Of course