Is he attracted to my mother or is she trying to ruin my chances?

[Anonymous]

My mom would always mention that this guy I’m attracted to gives good hugs and he smells good.

The story is my mom goes to her boyfriend’s church and her boyfriend wanted to find me a boyfriend. I never had a boyfriend or really got male attention… my mom on the other hand had many love stories… her boyfriend bought her roses every Wednesday when she 16…. Whenever she told her MANY stories I would get sad. She is more attractive. I don’t really look like her…

So he recommended a guy at church… he’s very attractive and a lot of girls like him… he has brought women to church…(I live away but I come visit from time to time)

He has been close to a woman in her 40s at church.. he was into her. my mom is in her 50s..

But I was so excited bc I thought he was attractive and I would dress up … whenever I talked to my mom about him she would get quiet. She also said that I should wait until I get my weight down. I remember “talking back “ to my mother before going to a church picnic to see him …she said “he deserves a girlfriend who is respectful “ … I didn’t go… I felt self conscious and decided not to like him

I do remember finally being introduced and he did glance back at me before walking out the door.

My mom is more attractive so…

im going to get some work done

He’s attracted to her

He’s into you

Mom is trying to ruin it

Other

[Anonymous]

Honestly it sounds like there’s a whole lot to unwrap here. Sounds like your mom just likes attention. Like she has to be the center of things. I’m not sure I believe that her boyfriend bought her roses every Wednesday. Maybe he did but she sounds like she’s trying to compete w you. No offense here but I think you’re in the situation you are for a reason. Meaning you haven’t had a relationship at your age almost 30 years old. To me she’s a part of the reason why. I don’t know you but I kind of wonder if you have a lot of issues. I say this because most women are swept up by men right away, especially the good ones. So when you’re much older it tends to throw up red flags. Because I’m sure you’ve wanted a man for a long time, but just exactly why hasn’t it happened?

[Asker]

Maybe I don’t look good enough

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not sure I couldn’t say w out seeing what you look like. But honestly even if you weren’t the best looking there’s always a man willing to date pretty much every girl. It’s just most women won’t date most men even if she was on their same level.

[Asker]

It’s all good. I’m doing onlyfans now

I can never be a man’s first choice.

[Opinion Owner]

What does that have to do w this?

[Asker]

Ig bc im almost 30 and im still undesirable.

[Opinion Owner]

If you’re undesirable I don’t see how that’s going to make you money on OF? Unless you have a nice body. Maybe a descent face.

[Asker]

I’ll figure it out. There’s a lot of average people on OF

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Good luck w that. I’d the OF worth seeing?

[Asker]

Sure

[Opinion Owner]

How does one find it?

[Anonymous]

Your mom sounds awful like she wants him for herself with her boyfriend! It would be weird hugging the mom and wanting you!

Like I'd never hug the mom when I wanted to date the daughter!

Your mom saying he needs a girl to respect him yeah she killed your feeling on purpose!

Knowing you feel so bad about yourself and her making you feel worse!

Go ask this guy out take his attention and hugs from her! Show that evil mom your a woman who can get what you want and need!

[Asker]

Im not confident enough lol … if I wasn’t what he wanted the first time forget it lol

[Opinion Owner]

Then forget it and look for someone maybe on bumble or someone safe you can play around with and enjoy.

Who chose you first!

[Asker]

I’m good lol I’m going to start an onlyfans account.. I just want attention and validation

[Opinion Owner]

Well just talk with desire on here and you will get lots of attention.

Haha funny you think only fans will be validation! What are you doing going to be eating on there?

Sitting on submissive guys

[Asker]

Thank you

Onlyfans is for unlovable women

[Opinion Owner]

More for prostitutes and ugly ones

[Asker]

Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you have a degrading kink? It gives you validation just getting naughty attention! 😜

Well I won't lie I'd say how you really look! 😉

[morganherrel]

It has nothing to do with your mom. Just eat much less food, which will help you become prettier and more attractive (and also smarter, in some cases). Improve your confidence. And go get what you want.

I'm sorry, girl: If you feel bad about your attractiveness and you're NOT slim, then you know exactly what you need to do.

[Wise4myage]

It sounds like she is into him, but focus on your self and continue to do things that make you feel good about yourself.

[blondfrog]

This is really sad and your mom sounds toxic. Don't compare yourself to others cause if you do then you will never be happy.

[Asker]

Yeah and the most hurtful part is everyone is cheering her on and saying that I should let her be happy with him… but I do feel like shit lol

[blondfrog]

That's terrible. I'd move out ASAP if I were you. But I don't' know your income situation either so...

[Asker]

I don’t live with my mom but I live with her sister and she sides with her a lot ofc

[blondfrog]

Yeah your aunt is also toxic.

[_Senorita_]

I think your mom is a narcissist

[Asker]

She is

[_Senorita_]

Just ignore these types of people and don't share your achievements to her or anything

[Asker]

Nope I learned the hard way… he probably was attracted to her tho

[woahhh152]

Looks like your mom is jealous of you

[Asker]

She looks better than me

[woahhh152]

That's why she's jealous cause you have the guy's attention

[Asker]

Barely

[woahhh152]

She wouldn't do what she's doing if she wasn't jealous. Can I see how you both look?