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I was in an abusive relationship for a while and my father never understood why I never left the guy. I’m no longer with him but when I was, my father and I bumped heads once about it and I remember him yelling “Why won’t you leave him. You’re dumb for staying. The sex isn’t that good.” Which he apologized for. Now, most recently I opened up to him about how I believe that that same guy that I was with is a closeted gay because of things he did and said when I was with him. It was something I just had to get off my mind/chest and my father is a man so why not go to him? and as I was talking to my dad about it he asked “Were you still having sex with him when you came to that conclusion?” I guess that was his way of saying it could have been dangerous and lead to STDs but I was wondering if most girls fathers are this open and straightforward with them when it comes to sex talk.
Are these weird conversations to have with your dad as a daughter?
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I m sorry for ur suffering honey.. n nothing can be more beautiful and honest to seek help from ur dad... thankfully my dad has been my best friend since i was a kid... he always treated me in a way that i opened up to him about everything... my boyfriends, breakups, my good days n bad days including sex... n he even often gave advice n suggestions on how to go about it...
I think all parents should be this open to their children... afterall no one can be more caring n loving n honest in giving u a suggestion or advice or even just a shoulder to cry on... than ur parents as they know u more than anyone
It’s good to know another young woman can relate. My friends always made it seem like that it was weird that I could go to my dad about anything even things involving sex and him giving me a reality check about it. They would make it seem like my dad was a father who had some weird incest feelings toward me his daughter and I hated it because I knew that was never the case. For so long I questioned if it was weird or not because of them. They never said that’s what they thought it but it would be like they would turn their faces up but it’s like what pedophile or sick man who does weird things with their daughter would even be that open considering they would do their best to hide that part of them? Long story short, I’m not so close with this girl anymore So it’s relieving to know you have a similar relationship with your father. Also, my then friends fathers weren’t exactly I’m their lives either so that could account for their reactions to that.
Oh honey i totally understand that... most families are like that... sex is a taboo subject in the house...
To me it has only impacted people's lives adversely... i mean its stupid to assume they dont know about ur sexual stuff... they have had sex n u have had it n u both know how it goes then whats the problem talking about it...
Some people just can't think that way... so u just got to ignore whatever they say n just keep on with ur life the way u feel comfy with
Yup. Few things more dangerous for a girl than fucking a closeted gay guy. Because if he's gay he's going to want to fuck some dudes eventually (and get fucked by them). And that's a GREAT vector for getting a disease which he can then pass on to you. AIDS, Monkey-pox, herpes and more.
Good idea to get tested for everything.
Wait no, I was asking if the conversation with my dad normal conversation to have amongst a daughter and dad.
Oh and I was tested the moment I came to that conclusion. It’s been a heat since we have been broken up and since I figured it out. I’m just now opening up to someone about it and I thought the perfect someone would be my dad. The only guy I looked up to before I ever started dating.
I just was wondering if his response on the sex and stuff was a normal dad response? Like are most men this open and honest with their daughters when it comes to sexual topics.
*been a year
I would guess that he was checking to see if you were safe and protected. But did you feel secure having the conversation and want to keep sharing how you felt with him?
Oh yea. Like I told the other commenter, I was always secure in these convos with my dad. It was always my friends that would make it seem like these conversations were weird or incest in nature when we talk about our parents and the kind of relationship (a) we have with them but I knew it was nothing like that but I’m human. So, I often let their reactions get to me and I questioned it.
Ya I can understand how you are human and your friends reactions may affect how you feel. But he’s your dad and will always be. Not about incest at all. He wants you to be safe and would be worried if you are in a toxic relationship.
Is it because he’s open to talking about sex that makes your friends sus? Maybe their dads are not as open
Like I have common sense so it’s like What man who is doing creepy things with his daughter would straight up ask or say those things? If anything they don’t mention sex. They just sneak and do sick things behind closed doors which my dad never did but my friends didn’t have their dads in their lives like I did so to them I suppose it was creepy and they didn’t/don’t have that common sense.
Ohh ya, if they didn’t have a dad in their lives I can see how they might come from a different perspective. I grew up with my dad and he was wiling to have conversations and help me out
You reminded me of when my dad asked me if I was having sex with my girlfriend. That was some night!