Would you also be irritated if your dad reached out to you this often?

[Anonymous]

My dad and I didn’t talk for about three years he lives in a different state. We rekindled early last yr and he used to call maybe once a week or every few weeks. As of the past few months, he reaches out 1-3 times a week to check in or call about random shit. I limit to answering only once a week, I’m almost 30 and not a little girl anymore where I feel I’m obligated to answer or explain myself lol. My mom can reach out whenever quite frankly and it doesn’t bother me but something about my dad irritates me

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

Have you asked him to call less? At least for you it’s only been 3 years but my dad has been basically out of my life since I was 14. If he hasn’t been very involved in your life then one thing to consider is that your dad does overbearing things because he doesn’t know you. In your dads mind he probably doesn’t think that 3 times out of 7 days in the week is that much, especially if you communicate with your mom often. But he won’t know it’s too much unless you use your voice and tell him. Be irritated once you tell him he’s doing too much and he disregards your feelings.

[Guy13]

Perhaps, he is not well. Have you taken an interest so that this can be addressed. How old is he?