Do you believe you should disclose your sexual history to your partner before marriage?

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D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I voted yes, but I want to make it clear I wouldn't go shoving it in their face either. "But what if they asked?" my mind asked myself. Starting the process of being a liar isn't the precedent I want to set in a relationship.

Now, speaking from experience, I don't get asked that question until I fucked them for months already. It's like they think "Oh this guy is great," and then they start asking questions as if they're now thinking about long-term potential. I don't lie and I have an absurd body count. It's the least of my problems at that phase though. The Job questions and my bad habits are more of an issue... you know... think of a girl that just wants to get dicked down they don't even care or ask at that point.

When conversations steer away from my weightlifting routines or my interest in guitar and I start getting questions about how useful I am in the utilitarian sense... the thrill of the fucking for the fuck of it is gone and I'm usually on borrowed time at that point. Some girls don't care... they judge me for how I've been with them.

Bottom line though... I'm not going to lie and feel morally obligated not to lie. So if I run into a chick that's lying to me about shit... just imagine how low I think of that.

Do you believe you should disclose your sexual history to your partner before marriage?

Horndog_Harry · Accepted Answer

Imagine my marriage partner and I, entwined in our marital bed, whispers of "dirty sanchez" and "fuck her speechless" floating in the air. It's crucial that my future spouse understands the fantastical world that turns me on, from the steamy stepmom scenes to the cosplay escapades that fuel my imagination. But, there's also things I wouldn't share, let's just say, inspiration for fapping sessions that have long been deleted from my browsing history, things involving people's grandmothers for God's sakes!

So, while I'd happily share my predilections for wet pussies and butt plugs, perhaps the nitty-gritty details of every autoerotic session can remain in the realm of private pleasures. It's about finding that sweet spot, where openness meets respect for each other's boundaries. After all, marriage is basically a non-stop fuck session, and sometimes, talking less can keep the fire burning bright. Now, if you'll excuse me, I feel a sudden urge to spank myself.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Well, he knew I had a boyfriend for three years when I was in highschool.

Hey, it was 1970 when free love was still the in thing from the hippie days. So having one stands with a guy was not that big of a deal. I think I may have had one or two.

One thing my husband told me is that if I hadn't made him sleep on the couch for the first few weeks he would have never married me.
That was my reward for being a good girl and I was always faithful to him and any man I was in a relationship with.
It's a good thing!

Aubrey97 · Accepted Answer

If they ask, you should give an honest answer. If they don't, I wouldn't feel like I needed to go out of my way to volunteer every last thing I ever did.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving into the hot topic of whether or not to spill the tea on your sexual history before tying the knot! Here's the scoop: communication is sexy, and honesty is the lingerie of any relationship. 😏 Imagine your past as a collection of experiences that shaped you into the irresistible person you are today. Sharing these stories can boost intimacy and trust, but remember, it's all about timing and comfort levels. No need to share every steamy detail, but keeping significant chapters open for discussion can turn a potential plot twist into a love story for the ages. So, chat it up, lovebirds, and let the connection deepen! 💘

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OlderAndWiser · Answer

I would answer any questions that were asked but I would not volunteer any information about prior experiences. Some people don't want to know everything about your sexual past.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not compulsory. If they ask, I tell whatever they want to know, but I don't volunteer the info.

Apple1996 · Answer

If your partner wants to know then yeah

Haraklus · Answer

In the abstract, it's good to disclose, but I actually still don't know my wife's body count. I'd guess somewhere between 5 and 10.

I'm not totally sure what mine is anymore, but probably around 5-10x hers.

For the both of us, we knew that we were both fairly sexually adventurous people, but it was also quite clear she was the less experienced and less confident in bed -- which suits us just fine.

That being said, if your partner wants to know, it's critical to tell them honestly.

Lliam · Answer

I never asked a girlfriend or my wife about their sexual histories, and none ever asked mine. That's just weird.

Guys who won't marry a woman who, as they say, has been "run through", have serious issues.

If someone did ask me, I would wonder what their problem was.

If they didn't have hang ups and were just being playful, I would be willing to share some anecdotes, but I wouldn't wrack my brain or go into detail about every BJ and every sexual encounter I ever had in my life. And, honestly, I don't want to hear about theirs.

The past is the past. We live our lives and arrive where we are now.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Definitely before getting married. You shouldn’t have to read them all the details from a journal but an overview of your past is appropriate. Wouldn’t confess on the first date however so somewhere in between the first date and walking down the aisle

provokeesmokee · Answer

Not really unless they're super dedicated to knowing it.

I would certainly disclose any STDs or other issues.

I enjoy telling my partners about my sexcapades and stories, and want to be friends with my partners after we break up, so I don't mind.

I also know sexual and physical compatability are very important to me in my relationships. So I'd probs tell them and want to know from them, too.

But I won't press.

DishLady · Answer

Yes, I believe in being very direct and open about these things, though I recently also noted that certain details might bother a boyfriend/so/spouse, which makes it important to disclose the details in a way that will spare his/her feelings as well. Be honest -- and encourage honesty in return -- but also keep in mind that a little empathy goes a long way.

hahahmm · Answer

Only if it impacts or is likely to impact the relationship. So if you have some disease then that should be made known. If you have kid (s) out in the world, that should be known. If you made porn seen by thousands/millions of people that should be known as when it becomes known to your spouse later on it would be a shock.

HaleyWalker · Answer

Personally I don't think so because I don't want to know, I have no history but I imagine as I get older that will probably change and I wouldn't want to tell them either. Unless like I catch something but I don't think I'm going to be doing everyone left and right I was raised Christian even though I don't believe in it the values have still been instilled in me. Lol

strawberrybaby3 · Answer

Not necessarily. If I was really in love with someone and I’m about to marry them, I’d imagine I wouldn’t really be thinking about my sexual history enough to want to bring it up. But if they asked me a question about it? Sure, I’d be totally honest about whatever they’d want to know and I’d expect the same honesty in return. However it’s not something I’d really want to talk about all the time because it doesn’t matter.

Roxy0050 · Answer

I hope that the person I choose to marry will accept me for who I am, while recognizing that everything that happened to me and the choices I made in the past have brought me to him now in the present.

normalice · Answer

That's between you and your partner. Personally, I have no such requirement. If I'm introducing a girl my age to anything she's never experienced before there's got to be something wrong with her.

osmanthus · Answer

I wouldn't mind disclosing, if they asked. Vise versa. Would depend on what they're asking about like the preferred sexual positions? Number of partners? STD?

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I think it's a necessary thing to do far before marriage. It is an important thing despite whatever modern society tells you.

It displays their impulse control, morals, decision making, and many other things. I've said it many times I'm not looking for sex anymore I'm looking for a wife to raise a family with. A role model for a son and or daughter. A girl with a "phase" as they call it likely will not be a suitable role model, even if she can be a caring mother

Berethor · Answer

Sure as I don't want to marry a ho, I think that only virgin women are an wife material. :)

Nikki1989 · Answer

Coming up to 10 years of marriage, and we haven't discussed that, not even once. Your past is your business and yours alone.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I think it'd be best to. They should know if you're clean or not, but that should be discussed way before marriage.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

LONG before that. You should disclose before you have sex. That’s part of the sex discussion, unless you’re a sociopath.

Kelly6 · Answer

As @apple1996 Said, If your partner ask then yes, don't hide. Otherwise no need to

diversethought · Answer

No, the hell is that any of your business what they did before you? You're about to get married, you love them for them, all of who they are. After the fact. But hey let's focus on someone's past and leave room to judge.

Bricealan · Answer

Yes, I always tell a prospective date that I have screwed 2,000 women...(Like all the men on GAG)

avery58 · Answer

If they ask you or you open up the topic, yeah

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yes but I’ve also learned not to ask if i wouldn't be happy with the answer

Surely · Answer

Unless you have some contagious disease or children out there. Or. If you have a deep dark secret that probably will surface sooner or later. Probably best to leave things in the past. Not saying to lie about anything if asked.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

No exceptions. Sorry, but either partners history could impact the relationship.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

If they ask then be upfront and honest about your body count and sexual history otherwise keep things to yourself if the topic never cums up.

madgoat · Answer

In round about terms, yes. He needs to know what he's getting into and this is one of many aspects.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Who wouldn't have already asked if concerned? I'm sure there are people who would rather not know.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

By all means: yes. And right after: avoid marriage in general :)

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Open your pants I will let her blow me and in that it's her experience to decide how many have drunk went pass by this water pipes.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I think it is a good idea to get things out in the open beforehand

Booklover_90 · Answer

I’d like to know. I don’t want to be compared to other women and/or expose myself to STDs.

Wise4myage · Answer

I think honesty is the best policy in this situation.

Wiredone · Answer

If they ask, yes you should. If the topic never comes up, don't bother

msc545 · Answer

No of course not. What's done is done. Telling somebody else about it will not change what happened or didn't happen.

TerrySilver · Answer

Yep, I'd want to know what I'm getting. So I'd be honest about mine, and expect her to be honest about hers.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. Their sexual background can affect you so you should have a right to know.

DreamLife7 · Answer

No lol 😆. Please tell me y'all aren't out here doing that !

dudewithnoname · Answer

If my s. o. wanted to know id tell her but to me its dont ask dont tell situation

nawtee_me · Answer

Absolutely especially if it involves same sex stuff. They should know before marriage.

Asian-male · Answer

I think no need to mention it until it's hard to hide..

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

F-CK YES. I’m a celibate until marriage and I’d prefer she be as well

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

If you have a sexual history there will be no marriage

erin_over_there · Answer

I did but I dont think you have to.

Awantika03 · Answer

No need till he or she ask

ApplePie409 · Answer

Only if they ask.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Trust and honesty is very important

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes, of course I already exposed it anyway

RebeccaSJ · Answer

Hubby and I know each other's.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

If both want to. Id say no

Chelsdope0 · Answer

For what?

Angie03 · Answer

Only if asked.

mayurr · Answer

Yes.

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

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