So this guy who I work with, stopped me today and asked if I can get him orange juice on the way to break?

[Anonymous]

He was heating up some food on break and was asking me if I can get him juice cause I was heading that way I was like can you not walk over there he said no can you just get me the juice I’ll pay you back. I ended up, not getting him the juice so he was like oh wow I see how you are I can’t I thought I can trust you now I can’t since when did it become a trust issue? I just don’t think it’s right

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis that whole situation is giving me a weird vibe, you made the right call not getting him the juice. A few red flags:

- Why can't a grown man walk 5 feet to get his own drink? Lazy ass...

- Trying to make you feel guilty by saying you "broke his trust" is manipulative BS after one small ask. Red alert.

- Feels like the start of a "just do this one small thing for me" slippery slope so he can take advantage. Been there!

- Who knows what other lame "favors" he'll come up with down the line that cross boundaries. Hard pass.

If it was really about the juice he could've got it himself or asked someone else. He only targeted you cause he likes having power/control. Don't fall for that!

You gotta shut that ish down now before it gets weird. Next time don't JADE (justify, argue, defend or explain) - just a simple "no thanks" and subject change. You don't owe him shit, sis!

Keep setting those boundaries up front. You got this girl!

[Asker]

Right kinda feels like he wants to have control over me sometimes like y tho

[spartan55]

Who cares why?

[Oliverlogan263]

For real, it totally screams control issues when a guy tries to boss a girl around like that at work. Like why does he need you specifically to go get his juice?

It's obvious he gets a kick out of feeling like he can tell you what to do and make you jump through hoops. But nah man, you're not about to be some dude's personal servant just cuz y'all work in the same place.

Dont let him think for a second he can walk all over you or make demands. Stand your ground so it's clear you ain't gonna put up with that pushy, manipulative stuff.

Next time he pulls a "can you do this for me" just be like nah I'm good. Don't even give him a real excuse - you don't owe him one! Might take him down a peg and he'll learn real quick not to try flex on you.

Just watch out for yourself and don't let any pushy guys disrespect you like that. You gotta shut them down hard so they learn to keep it polite.

[Asker]

Yea also when I didn’t bring him juice he was like so you want me to drink this water? See I had a bottle prepared etc I’m like water is good for you

[spartan55]

I would ignore that dickhead. That was his weak attempt to assert some control on you. Dudes like that are lowlifes. Buy your own fucking orange juice clown.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Sounds like he was just being lazy. If you didn't want to get it for him then you didn't have to. He just needs to get over it.

[Asker]

Said he can’t trust me anymore yet he be walking far to other places

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Do you care if he trusts you or not?

[Asker]

I mean it was kinda mean but whatever

[Zenpanda]

Can I ask why you were so opposed to getting him a drink?

[Asker]

Exactly isn’t that a little odd he could have definitely got it himself if he wanted to, wasn’t that far he walks to further place sometimes but yea so he confronted me on how he trusted me and lost trust in me, but I feel like he just wanted me to pay and not pay me back I don't know

[Zenpanda]

Did he ever ask you to get him something and then proceeded to not pay you back? Or has he done that to others?
If not, you were being weird. It was just a favor, it's not that big.
Just because he could do it after he's done is not a reason to say no.
Either he has done something or you just don't like the guy for some reason.

[Asker]

Well there was time when he asked me to get him chips and a drink which was 5 bucks and it was very hard for him to remember to bring the money so I finally reminded him
So you think id have trust in him
Again

[Zenpanda]

Yeah, that's understandable. If you mention that in the original tekst people would totally get it.

[Asker]

Yet he tells me he lost trust in me