Why is his indifference hurting me? what does all this mean?

[Anonymous]

I told this guy that he’s deeply closeted, likely interested in men or trans women, and that he uses women as a cover to hide his true desires. I also called him a sexual predator. At some point after that, he blocked my number, though I’m not sure exactly when. I never followed him on social media, but I checked his followers list, thinking he might have a girlfriend, and ended up discovering these other things. After blocking my number, he proceeded to follow another explicit page of a trans woman.

His indifference toward me really stings. It’s hard to deal with the fact that after everything, he seems completely unaffected while I’m left feeling hurt.

I don’t understand why I can’t let it go.

[_Maya_]

I think at this point you need professional help. You have been talking about this for nearly a month.

How to get past this awful feeling?

I told this man that he was downlow and deeply closeted out of anger…he unfollowed the trans woman he was following?

The latter link you have are harboring some fairly nasty feelings towards a person. You are in your mid to late twenties. You need to grow up if you can't learn to let things go. I can assure you that you are going to have more disappointments in life than just this. If you can't learn to work past them then your whole life is going to be consumed by disappointments. It has been 21 days since I can find a post from you complaining about this guy. That is a long time to be upset over someone ghosting you. Move on. It is over. You clearly have some issues if you feel the need to post online for over a month about this. That is why I said it might be to your advantage to get professional counseling.

[Asker]

I need to grow up because a 37 year old man wasn’t honest or decent enough? Yeah okay. Tell that to him too because I took the high road and the honest road and he decided to do me dirty after the fact.. so no.

[_Maya_]

You took the high road?

"I said your soulmate is probably a tranny or a man” called him a f^gg0t ass man.. and a month ago I said something similar but less worse."

[Asker]

No , I’ve taken the high road long enough. Some people need to be reminded that you’re not soft.

[HelpfulWoman]

Needs SO MUCH HELPP its unreal. Whack jobs be whacky ey Maya XD

[Anonymous]

We don't understand why you can't let it go either. You've spammed us enough with it.

[Asker]

Too bad. Free therapy

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"I don’t understand why I can’t let it go"

Hate is a powerful engine, hate will not let you go when you don't negotiate with it.

[boggboss]

Because u clearly got attached and still care to some degree where as he was able to discard u which adds a layer of hurt

[Asker]

What do I do to hurt him?

[boggboss]

U can't he doesn't care about you which means u won't be able to hurt him from being petty and any higher form of trying to hurt him will just get u in trouble with police u need to be mature and move on

[Asker]

I’m getting a lawyer just in case… I don’t understand why he hates me so much before all this happened.. I really don’t understand

[boggboss]

Getting a lawyer won't help u if your are harrasing him now that he has blocked u any court would accept u going out of your way to hurt him makes u the one in the wrong as for why he hurt u I wouldn't be able to know without knowing his side of the story also

[Asker]

Someone can pressure or manipulate you without involving physical intimacy by using emotional tactics, such as guilt-tripping, manipulating your feelings, or making you feel obligated to meet their expectations. They might also use threats, ultimatums, or leverage personal information against you to control your decisions or actions, all while not crossing the boundary of physical involvement.

[boggboss]

And most of this is not illegal its shityy but not a crime u trying to do stuff yo him after he has cut contact is harassment

[Asker]

I’m crashing out bro.. it hurts

[boggboss]

Again being obsessive isn't going to help u if anything its only going to get u in trouble u are acting unhinged which makes sense because u are hurt but u will end up getting more hurt with how your thinking

[Asker]

Yeah… I had exposed him and even posted the tranny he follows that looks like a straight man. And I tagged him in it

[Asker]

I deleted it

[Asker]

How am I acting unhinged when he’s the one who hurt me?

[boggboss]

Again these actions will and can be classed as harassment

[Asker]

As long as I hurt him that’s all that matters

[boggboss]

And how will u confirm that he gets hurt lol

[Asker]

Well I was blocked so that’s step one

[boggboss]

Lol being blocked don't mean he is hurt I know your mind is fucked but thats not even close to a show of being hurt

[Asker]

How to know he was hurt then? And as a man how do I get back at him? Ik I can’t hurt him because he doesn’t care.. what to do?

[boggboss]

Lol I just asked u this because I can't think of anyway to know if he is hurt let alone hurt him when he doesn't care enough to acknowledge u

[Asker]

So he’s not hurt.. who cares.. I want his reputation and embarrassment more

[boggboss]

Lol so your posting stuff then deleting stuff and u think people won't catch on that he has a stalker

[Asker]

No , I explained everything. I was not stalking him but I was trying to gather information to see why he was so sneaky and for my safety why could I not find any information on this guy.. when he ghosted me I thought he had a girlfriend and I was going to find her and tell her.

I think a true stalker is someone who is following someone and knows where they live etc.. that’s not me

[boggboss]

No u are just trying to find out information on a guy that hurt you so u can hurt him after he blocked u that is still pretty stalkerish

[Asker]

Well how else would I find out to hurt him? lol

[Asker]

He popped in my people you may know

[boggboss]

OK...

[Asker]

I think he’s trying to see if I posted it lol he cares

[boggboss]

No you are hoping he cares so u are putting value on nothing

[Asker]

Nah bc ik he doesn’t but he never pops up on my page.. so I think he’s making sure I didn’t post it on social media

[Anonymous]

You told him he’s gay and a sexual predator, and now you're hurt that he wants nothing to do with you? WTF?

You need to stop posting about this and get some professional help.

[Fanfare690]

You are just trolling now lol

[Asker]

How?

[HelpfulWoman]

fuck off already troll

[LiamJHayden]

Let it go. You can be happy if you do.