How to get past this awful feeling?

[Anonymous]

I never want to date again…. I talked to a guy who ghosted me.. I was upset by how he ended things… I still had feelings.. comes to find out he’s downlow and it really upset me… Ik he’s downlow/bi because he follows a explicit trans woman on twitter.. and there’s a possibility he could/ wants to sleep with her bc she’s in the same city…

I sent him a text about how I really felt even mentioning that he’s closeted.. no reply..

I hate him for everything he is and isn’t. I hate that I allowed myself to catch feelings

[teamvic]

Hmmm well

If you want a over night remedy, it doesn't quite work like that

But I will say just think about how you, knowing all you knew about him, knew it wasn't going to work out in the long run anyway. I'm not talking about marriage but I'm saying all the things you don't like about him and all the things that you hate that he isn't. Will always be with him

So you can look at it this way, you either lose him now. Or lose him months or years later. If you ask me I'd take the sooner than later. Less wasted time

Also just think about him just because he didn't work out. Doesn't mean every guy won't work out either

My friend if finding love and being with," the one" was so easy. Everyone would have one. But unfortunate for us all. We do not

You just need time is what I'm trying to say. I've been trying to find a remedy for hurt feelings. And I'll let you know if I ever find something

I chose to get my feelings hurt later rather than sooner. I'd switch places with you

[teamvic]

There's a part that doesn't make sense. Ignore that part

[Asker]

Yeah you’re so right…. There’s so many layers to why this hurts… the dl part just adds salt to the wound honestly…

I feel like he made me feel safe then played me honestly.

[teamvic]

Yeahh that's unfortunately not uncommon

Besides the down low thing

[Asker]

Could I share the story… bc I don't know if I was played or not