He stopped replying because I go to Shisha lounges. I never hide it but he said I’m there everything around dirty people?

[Algerianprincess]

I explained sometimes it’s once per month or once per week and I don’t do anything bad as I’m dressed modestly and always with girls. He said girls who go there are all the same. It’d be better if I was sleeping around then posting stories in Shisha lounges. I said I didn’t know it was important to him and I could stop. He said he’s only advising me for my next partner and I’m no longer his type. He said that I’m lost and I don’t know who I am. I explained that I’ve never done anything bad to him and he agreed. I asked why he’s advising me for 30 mins does he care? He said no. And it’s better to hurt me now so I can improve for someone else. He hasn’t blocked me and still watches my stories. Why?

[osmanthus]

He has a certain idea about these women. Maybe personal experience with an ex. Maybe he's a prominent person who has a reputation to keep and he doesn't like people thinking that whoever he's dating is a certain way because she visits the lounge. Heck we don't know if maybe he does drugs and these lounges and the people recognize him, so he doesn't want you knowing that he's doing all that. There are so many possibilities.

[osmanthus]

Could just be the simple case that he has a low opinion of these people and based on that alone he just assumes that you will become one of these people. He doesn't want to be connected to that.

[Algerianprincess]

But why would he not give me a chance? And yes he has a good reputation

[osmanthus]

Then that's probably why. Somebody of very high repute probably doesn't want to tarnish that.

[osmanthus]

It's hard to understand when you're not a person who has a reputation to keep. Persons of high repute usually have some benefits or privileges that other people don't based on whether that's wealth fame or both. If either of these gets affected because of the fact that he's hanging around with somebody of ill repute then it makes sense that the man might not want to have his repute affected. He might not have cared that he dumped you but he probably doesn't want to see you as somebody who he considers less than decent.

[osmanthus]

Your opinion is probably different. And that's fine you can live your life. Just understand that he didn't give you a chance because there was s chance that his repute was in danger.

[Algerianprincess]

Thank you for sharing. I do understand it. But I offered to stop going there and I do have a good reputation so I just found it strange

[osmanthus]

Well, unfortunately, he already decided for you whether he wanted to stay or go, so, it's not something to keep in mind anymore.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

He “cares” in the sense that he wants to see if he can convince you to do things his way despite having no real commitment to him. I wouldn’t worry about it, those lounges are nice places to hang out and if he thinks that’s dirty then maybe he should go back to church.

[Algerianprincess]

Thank you. Yes I wouldn’t advise anyone so much if I didn’t want anything with them which I found strange. I’d only advise to improve the relationship. But as I said I asked him to give me a chance if it bothers him, I’d stop. But he didn’t want to give me one so I was confused. And said he doesn’t care about me. Apparently I made him sad it wasn’t about his ego. And I’ve been to lounges with people of a high status and it wasn’t really a problem.

[Algerianprincess]

But it’s sad that when I cried because I’m not used to people being so harsh he said I cried because I felt guilty and it’s better to hurt me now so I can change for someone else

[RavVid]

Well you and everyone else is entitled to do what you want. But everybody else is entitled to reject you for what you do.

I don't see what the issue is but it is his call.

[Decoded93]

It sounds very closed minded, women are more complicated than little sweet housewives in waiting

[avery58]

Just move on, it's over. He made his decision. It's fine if he has a type, but he shouldn't really tell you to change yourself just for a man either. Unless you want to make that change yourself.

You're better off finding someone you're compatible with.

[Algerianprincess]

I wanted to change but he didn’t want to give me a chance.

[avery58]

How long did you know him for?

[Algerianprincess]

Two months and I have told him to always be honest and direct with me. I said I can’t read anyone’s mind unless isssues are addressed.

[Algerianprincess]

He said that he was upset to see me posting photos in those places but at the same time he said he doesn’t care about me? And he said he was talking to me for a few months for a reason. So it doesn’t add up

[avery58]

He sounds kind of manipulative tbh

[slatyb]

Why do you care? He's not the man for you. Haters gonna hate.