Sounds like he's genuinely interested in you and wants to let things play out gradually rather than rushing into it. As long as communication is happening at a somewhat regular pace, I'd say just keep going with the flow and trust your instincts.
I'd also suggest figuring out how/when to discuss sex, so that you both know what each other's expectations are with timing. Does that make sense?
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You completely confused this guy. First, you ask him to spend the night (meaning you want to have sex) and then, a few days later you turn him down. He said he wanted to take it slower and then changed his mind. Why are you reminding him to take it slower. Is that really what you want? He wants you. Enjoy!
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Well he wants sex for sure, he's a man so thats that. He doesn't want a relationship either but he wants the booty. Im not sure about the long pauses in communication but either he's really busy, which no one is, or he's giving u space to see what u do
He wanted to take it slow, then realised that that may have put you off, he then sped up and then you backed off per his original request; now he's trying to fix all that by speeding up. Basically, he wants you for sex, isn't sure about a relationship but he's hoping that being intimate with you will make him want you more. He probably isn't intending on being a jerk, but you are his test subject whether he knows it or not.
He said he doesn’t want a relationship but keeps pushing for sex. Decent chicane help disappear after he gets what he wants.
If you want a relationship. Stop any fooling around. Then definitively state. Sex it’s off the table for several months.
Then you’ll see if he likes being around you or is just looking for sex.For one, if you didn't have any sexual contact, you didn't hook up. Seems like he's interested in you, both sexually and interpersonally. Don't hold out on him forever, if you're interested.
What exactly are you waiting for? This is a giant red flag IMHO.
If you don't know what you want or you don't want sex, you're not really ready for dating. PERIOD.Yep, it sure sounds like that and he will likely keep trying. But to be honest, your actions are confusing him.
I CAN'T read EITHER of you! Just get it out of the way and DO IT ALREADY! STOP PLAYING MINDGAMES with each other!
What does hooking up and no sex mean? I thought hooking up was sex.
(Sorry; I'm old.)He wants sex, I don't know what else might be going on.
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