Guys, Why am I still attractive?

[Annason64]

Ok I need answers from you guys for I don't understand something, I was a hourglass petite 110lb before I was pregnant and now I'm still an hourglass shape with about 147lbs after I gave birth a month ago. My husband says I'm even more attractive now than I was, he says it's because I have a little bit of squishy but I don't understand, wouldn't guys like it better if I was thinner? I mean I'm not very fat. I do have some weight, but I don’t know why he finds me more attractive now. I only have a slight stomach and a little weight in the thighs, and waist, my husband says it's because I look much more healthier. I was terribly thin like underweight beforehand, like you can see my skeleton type body. I don’t have a eating disorder or anything just have high metabolism, I only gotten weight once I've became pregnant, so I'm not used to seeing a little fat on me. What do you guys think?

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Update i went back down to 119-120lbs and no longer married for my husband threatened me with a loaded gun twice 😅 and was emotionally, psychologically and financially abusive. Anyway I still think that I'm attractive, especially losing all that weight, still have a little stomach, other than that i still look good. Would you guys consider it good? I'm definitely not chunky or fat in any way I can fit a small or possibly a medium shirt

[Finchie40]

Because to skinny isn’t attractive to some guys’ I prefer a girl with some meat on her bones because she feels softer and better in bed during sex. If a girl is to skinny, it feels like I am screwing a Skeleton , so I prefer a girl with some meat on her bones. I can’t speak for every guy , but your husband sounds like he likes the same as me. When my ex lost some weight and got to skinny , I was actually turned off by it because she didn’t feel the same in bed to me , but she was happy about her weight loss so I didn’t say a word , when she put some pounds back on , and she started complaining that she was getting fat , I said no your not , I prefer you this way instead , and she was like what? lol

[Annason64]

That definitely sounds like my husband, thank you for your input and insight

[NamerOfStars]

Of all the things to complain about...

Okay, first off: I think your husband is probably not the most unbiased assessor of how attractive you are. Especially after you've just given him a baby.

[IrrelevantOpinion]

It's probably just as he says, if you look a healthier weight it's like wearing good quality clothes. The impression of being well balanced and maintained just has a nice freshness about it.

In another sense, big teddy bear, middle sized teddy bear or small. They are all nice to hug, and your husband is probably happy there is more for him to hold.

In your position I'd try and kerb the stress, or communicate your feelings to him. Being a new mother has it's challenges

[Nirmroth]

Lol what do you care what we think. Your husband finds you hot, wait even hotter now that you gained some weight after the pregnancy. For me it sounds like a win-win situation I would glady take.

[Ariesman81]

@Nirmroth Because he's being nice... which to them is reason for suspicion

[Nirmroth]

Them? Its only her rn here. And she doesn't seem suspicious to me just confused bec in her mind only skinny= sexy and was obvious to the fact that some men love having some curves to hold on to.

[Ariesman81]

Not honest men

[Annason64]

I just wanted to understand my husband thoughts, I thought you guys as guys would know what he was thinking. I cannot guess what a guy thinks. My thoughts are overly thought out and complicated and I know for guys it's most likely a simple answer.

[Annason64]

I've tried asking my husband but he has a hard time putting his thoughts into words

[FunkyMonkee]

Because you're only 27 and nature won't start turning you into a wrinkled, old, grey, ugly, hag `til you're at least in your 70 or 80's. Enjoy it while you've got it, honey!! Stop wishing you didn't!!

[ohsheeT]

I'm going to tell you thecsame thing I said on your first question .

[Shiprex]

Maybe it's the idea that you've produced a baby and still have a feminine shape and are in proportion.

[BarryLiverstone]

Do you still have many medium shirts that you wear? It can be challenging getting back into shape. Ig you have to work hard and have a routine

[BarryLiverstone]

I can try to help and give you a guys opinion if you have questions as he sounds dangerous and you may not want to ask him things

[Annason64]

I have high metabolism, so I got back to shape pretty easily just have slight baby fat, I would like to find a gym but they cost money and I don’t have that right now

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya that’s true, gyms offer great deals in January but that’s to get you in the door.

[noohair]

All is good, you can relax. And I do think you had food issues when you were thin.

[Annason64]

Actually I don't I have an eating disorder I have high metabolism, it just slowed down a bit due to the pregnancy

[jahaims]

Most females have no idea what a guy is attracted to. You have been brainwashed by consumerism.

[Adogdog]

You are still attractive because you are lol

[Ariesman81]

How tall are you?

[Annason64]

I'm 5'4

[Ariesman81]

He's being nice because of the trauma you just went through. But yes... he'll want you back the way you were

[Reijen]

More cushion for the pushin.