Why does he wave frantically when he sees me at times and seems happy at times to say good morning If he doesn’t ask me out?

[Whitndj]

If he doesn’t ask me out?

my coworker is older than me I really liked him for years

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[Iron_Man]

He’s probably shy deep down and you just don’t know about it. He’s probably afraid of rejection and by him asking you out there’s a 50-50 chance of yes or no and he just doesn’t want to risk it. A lot of people are like that.

[Whitndj]

Should I keep making eye contact through the day in passing to show I notice him? I used to avoid it mostly due to shyness but I’m getting more comfy.

[Iron_Man]

Well, if you like it and it makes you look forward to going to work sure why not but as far as him making a move, that’s a longshot because he hasn’t done it already and how long have you known him?

[Whitndj]

Like several years. But I thought you said he’s just shy and not sure I like him that’s why he isn’t making a mov?

[Iron_Man]

Well, he’s probably shy and you’re probably gonna have to make the move. If not, it’s going to continue on like this with smiles and hand waves until one of you quit.

[Whitndj]

We are getting more comfortable lately like he recently took a box I was playing with and he helped me with it cause I was trying to do something with it. He just came up and did that. It was so amazing cause it was totally unnecessary. :3

[Iron_Man]

Well good you have a chance but make sure this doesn’t get closed out with two people never say anything to each other. Somebody’s got to make a move and if it’s not him, then it should be you

[Whitndj]

I’ll wait for him. I wanna keep making eye contact more like across the room when he passes by. Do you think he will respond to that or get the hint? I just wanna show him that I am curious about him and like to look at him. What will he think?

[Iron_Man]

Well do more than just look smile at him then he should definitely get the point by then I would

[Whitndj]

Hah I can try to smile with the looks haha I’m shy but maybe i can muster to smile a bit slightly too thanks. How many times should I do the smile with eye contact during the day before he gets it?

[Iron_Man]

do it a couple times in the beginning of the day but not all day

[Whitndj]

lol okay! I guess I don’t wanna seem desperate! I can definitely do it a few times in the morning after we greet each other if I see him walking around again.

[Iron_Man]

Yes that’s good it should make a big difference I know with me it would

[Whitndj]

Thanks haha. :D I can’t wait to try it hopefully tomorrow. He’s a little older than me so he’s so mature I love it

[Iron_Man]

That’s awesome. Have fun. There’s nothing wrong with being older.

[Iron_Man]

Let me know how it goes

[Whitndj]

Okay I’ll try to let you know. Thanks man ! :D yes older men are awesome. I can learn from them. Love that.

[Iron_Man]

Yes that’s good to hear from a female good luck

[SweetPi]

Wlel he probably sees you as a fun friendly girl! If you don't show him you like him then you will stay in his friend zone!

Older woman was so friendly and just really crushed in her. Few nights just hinted a being bi or curious and she brought me out of her friends zone.

Try talking dates and hit you want one!

[Whitndj]

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[SweetPi]

Then just ask him out! 😜

[Nikki1989]

Perhaps he simply enjoys your company and finds you pleasant to be around. Don't overthink it.

[Whitndj]

Ok. He sees me making eye contact more lately. Will he think anything of it? He has to be looking at me too to catch it so it’s actually revealing of him as well.

[spartan55]

So, because he waves at you and says hello means he is required to ask you out? How are you showing him you are interested?

[Avicenna]

Because he’s your co-worker

[Whitndj]

So? Why would he sometimes even go out his way to say hi even if I’m in a nother room or not even facing him? He’s hit on me before too

[Avicenna]

he's not asking you out though.

[Whitndj]

Why not? Don’t you think he will soon? He’s been making eye contact with me more lately and seems more comfortable too

[Whitndj]

He told me months ago that my new hairdo at the time would get one of us in trouble.