I rejected a guy, now he is talking shit about me to everyone. I don't know why he is doing that? He actnice infront ofme but backbiting me?

[Anonymous]

HELP ME!! I don't know WHAT TO DO?:/ PLEASE READ THIS. I met a guy who was acting nice , geniune, friendly sweet. He texted me first. We talked, we became friends. then bff's. Initially I liked him too coz of his nice nature , he likes me too but after sometime, I lost feelings for him. But he wasn't understanding this , and keep texting me and pushing me to date him and come in relationship with me. He was emotionally pressuring me to date him. I rejected his idea and said I can't date anyone rn let's stay friends not more than that. I already have severe mental issues from my past. He said -" okk I got it "and replied to me in a nice way. After some days, one of my friend (I mean my girl bff) texted me and said" that guy is talking shit about me to everyone and making false stories about me. She sent me ss. I was shocked coz that guy literally backbiting. He was saying shitty things about me to everyone that we (me and him) are in a relationship from 6 months and I cheated on him with another guy, I'm a lier , s**t and he is heartbroken blah blah blah, he was saying bad stuffs about me to everyone , even a random stranger. Literally spreading fake rumours , Wtfff I never dated anyone in my life 😭, so how can I be in a relationship. What relationship? Bruh we never dated each other so how can we be in a relationship? After seeing this , I was shocked and feeling sad. I confronted him, but he was acting nice and trying to be a victim and said - "we shouldn't hate each other , if I didn't date him , and didn't come in relationship with him, he will do the worse".
Wtfff He said those words to me and it was scary. My mental health is worse rn. I can't think properly. I thought he was really a nice guy after seeing his reality , I think I can't trust no one. He is pressuring me with different social media accounts rn and I don't know what to do?

[HollyK21]

I’ve dealt with this situation in the past and I would say to not let it get to you.
Fact of the matter is that he’s upset, hurt. I’m not sure what his intentions were for befriending you but in most cases men don’t invest their time building a “friendship” with women. Sure they may naturally develop one with like a schoolmate or coworker, but actively investing (texting, hanging out, etc) in most cases is because they are interested in her to some extent. Personally I don’t feel like that’s fair to the woman, because how were we to know they secretly like us and were disingenuous about being a friend?


In any case though, that’s just what it is. So for him, he feels like he invested his time, thought he was making progress (since you did fall for him at one point), and had the rug ripped from under his feet. The effort didn’t pay off, and now he’s salty about it and wants revenge. It’s petty and quite ridiculous but to me it’s equivalent to him stomping his feet and crying.


I’d say that if the gossip is fairly harmless (accusing you of cheating) then I wouldn’t worry about it. You know the facts of the matter and anyone who cares enough will come and ask you directly. I wouldn’t even care what guy he tells because you don’t want anyone he has direct access too anyway. Keep doing what you’re doing, blocking him and live your life. Baseless words should mean nothing to you when you know the truth.

[MasterKS]

@HollyK21 some good points here!

[HollyK21]

@MasterKS thanks I try☺️

[MasterKS]

@HollyK21 your try is on point here!

[Ms_Facesitter]

Because he's an A-Hole, fake person, and the reason why the saying "Nice guys finish last" exists.

[Anonymous]

Where he made his mistake was when you said said, "let's stay friends" he should have dropped you flat, cut you off an never dealt with you again. He'll learn eventually or he'll keep having this problem with women like you. You both sound pretty terrible. That's probably what attracted you to eachother to begin with.

[Asker]

I'm not interested in him , he knows too then why tf he is spreading fake rumours about me.

[Asker]

I never dated anyone in my life. I told this thing to him. Coz I date to marry. Rn I can't date coz of my career

[Nikki1989]

Live and learn, some men are easily triggered.

[Anonymous]

Be honest and speak up. Don't tolerate that shit

[Asker]

Yess, I blocked his fake accounts.

[scott04sa22]

What a asshole