Is it love or lust or playing games?

[Anonymous]

This guy used to like me a lot and rejected him. Fast forward, tables have turned. He made me chase. I lost interest and hooked up. He was very angry. He lied he got a girlfriend while also being on bumble. We didn't talk actively but more so on the sides of he texting me and then silent. Asking me to meet, I go, and he doesn't turn up. He wanted me to take a picture as proof. I was done.

Last time we saw and he didn't talk. But he was uncomfortable with me sitting next to another guy. So he made the guy switch places repeatedly so he can sit next to me.

Last day he texted asking me where I am. I replied after a month uninterestingly and he said 'he is single'. Apart from that no call, message or social media following. I let it slide.

Also he is my colleague and he keeps looking at me from far, try to grab attention or talk but I let it slide.

All what I know is there is a guy who got brutally rejected, can't afford to see me with others but can't commit.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I hate to say it but it really sounds like this guy is playing games with you. The mixed signals, hot and cold behavior - that's not how real feelings work.

He likes the attention and ego boost you give him, but doesn't actually want a relationship. If he did, he wouldn't keep you hanging on like this with no follow through. Actions speak louder than words.

Even worse that he's pulling this at your work - talk about unprofessional. I'd say don't give him another thought romantically. He's made it clear through his actions he's not serious relationship material.

Keep it polite and professional at work, but otherwise I'd cut this guy off completely. You deserve someone reliable who treats you with care and consistency. Don't waste your time on mind games. Hold your head high - his issues ain't got nothing to do with you, sis!