Why are older men obsessed with me?

[Puppystarfish23]

Before I was married and had met my now husband, men wanted nothing to do with me, especially men my own age and I was kinda seen as a joke and not taken seriously when I'd try to date a guy my own age.

I think this is because I'm the stereotypical, good girl. I don't wear much makeup, I don't have tattoos, I'm come from a good home, I don't party, smoke or do drugs. Men my age say they want a good girl but they really don't. They want someone they can fool around with in there youth and then come running to girls like me when they hit 30.

I was very lucky to have met my husband on a dating app. I think he's one of the rare ones who was pretty similar to me as well and just wanted someone good and pure hearted. I'm not saying the type of people I described are bad people it just seems to be fashionable to be a fuck up with our generation. I understand no ones prefect and life is messy at times though and I try not to judge but so many of my friends do drugs or cheat and I feel sorry for them.

Men aged around 40 to 60 are obsessed with me and constantly try and flirt with me and go our of there way for me. Me being very innocent I just seen them as my "work dad" or just a sweet innocent old man who wants to be a gentleman and grew up in a different generation were men were raised but it wasn't seen as creepy to tell a girl she was pretty or flirt with them at work and it's just harmless.

But then others have picked up on these men's behaviour and called it out and tried to protect me from these men. There this one guy Scott. Single man with no family but his mum whose just turned 50 and he doesn't leave me alone, he follows me around everywhere at work and wants to know my every step it's getting to point were it's annoying. He'll wait outside of work for me just to talk about his life and I'm to polite to ignore him. That's just one example

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I even get men on this site pretend to be my friend messaging me and months on they try and ask me sexual questions. It's really disgusting and unsettling when I'm a much younger married woman old enough to be there daughter.

It just makes me think there's not many people out there with good intentions anymore. You think you can trust people and be friends but they you find out there just looking to use you.

My husband is 5 years older than me at 31 but I wouldn't say that was that big

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What also makes it unsettling is I look very young even at 26. Even the other day I got ID at a bar and the bar tender was shocked at my age and said he asked because he thought I was 16/17 years old.

My husband is very traditional as I'm I and he's been raised to be a gentleman and is very respectful of women. I've been raised similar were we don't talk about sexual stuff outside of relationships and you respect your partner by keeping that stuff private.

[glennos89]

Men overall are attracted to younger woman. Its nothing personal and it has absolutely nothing to do with how you dress, wear your make up or anything else woman do to attract men. The only thing that could be related is that you probably look good and/or look young to them

[Fireguy17]

let's see, you are a female, you have boobs.
Yep.
Case closed.

[Jennz6]

You must be beautiful

[Puppystarfish23]

Thank you, but I don't believe that to be ture or I'd have more age appropriate men chasing me not but I want that either

[Intheclouds00]

Well you don't party, smoke or do drugs so count this older man out...

[eagle1951]

gee are they, how do you know

[Puppystarfish23]

The fact they seem so interested in my life to the point where they follow me around, constantly want to know my every move, flirt with me and tell me I'm beautiful and even ask me out.

Like how clueless are some of these men but they think a 26 year old married woman would want to date a single 50 year old single man who rents a bed sit and lives off tinned food

[Puppystarfish23]

No offence but it's obvious why some of these men are single and some aren't that's worse. There's one guy called ollie and he's 40 with two sons and a girlfriend who keeps flirting with and asking me out. Then there's Dean who is 55 and married who tells everyone he's in love with me and I'm the most beautiful girl at work. Then there's my friends dad whose 46 who wanted to leave

[Puppystarfish23]

His wife and family to be with me, I didn't know how to react and just laughed and called him stupid. Ever since I've never spoken to that friend and he thinks it's something personal towards him

[Puppystarfish23]

When I was in high-school my male art teacher always let me hang out in his classroom and watch movies with him and gave me some art work from his collection and would tell me about his personal life and this was a very common thing growing up in school were older men at my school or college students wanted to "get to know me more" it wasn't until I got older I realised how inappropriate some of these relationships were