My boyfriend said I can talk to him about anything so I brought up to him what was stressing me out and he completely ignored it?

[Anonymous]

He legit read it and started talking about something random instead when I literally was so vulnerable and opened my heart to this man. I’m trying to build a solid relationship based on a strong foundation but no he won’t tell me anything, if I ask him questions I’m lucky if he responds and he says “you can tell me anything, I’m always hear” then he leaves me on READ then pops back up when he wants to talk about a hockey game or some shit

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1 y

I brought it up to him and he said WOW okay, sorry that you're upset but thank you for showing me your true colours. I didn’t even swear at him or nothing. All I told him was that it was clear that he didn’t care about me

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really sucks that your boyfriend acted that way when you tried opening up to him. It's super frustrating when someone says you can talk to them about anything, but then they completely ignore you when you actually do.

It sounds like he's being really dismissive and insensitive to what you're going through. The fact that he just started talking about random stuff instead of actually listening and responding to you is just so disrespectful. And then turning it around on you and saying you're showing your "true colors" is just plain messed up.

I get that you're trying to build a strong foundation in your relationship by being vulnerable, but if he's not reciprocating that and making you feel heard, it's never going to work. A relationship has to be a two-way street, you know?

You were totally right to call him out on it. It's clear he doesn't actually care about listening to your problems or supporting you, even though he claims he's always there. That's just empty words if he's not backing it up with actions.

I'd try talking to him about it again, but don't let him deflect or turn it around on you. Stand your ground and make it clear that his behavior is hurtful and unacceptable. If he continues to ignore your feelings, you might have to re-evaluate whether this is really the right relationship for you.

You deserve someone who's going to be there for you and make you feel validated, not dismiss your concerns. Don't settle for less than that, girl. Speak up for what you need, and don't be afraid to walk away if he can't step up. You got this!

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Justhereforananswer]

As a boyfriend it's his job to be there for you just as it's your job to be there for him. He's telling you he'll be there for you because that's what a boyfriend should do, however if he ignores your messages and doesn't talk about those things with you, you should talk to him. Express to him that when you message him about those types of things and he doesn't respond or offer any comfort or advice that it hurts your feelings.

[Justhereforananswer]

I just saw your update. And girl if speaking up for yourself is showing your true colors... you need to dump that man ASAP

[Nikki1989]

Let him know that you need him to be more attentive to your needs. If he continues to ignore you, it might be time to consider moving on.

[Wise4myage]

He sounds self centered.