Guys, Why would he always be looking for me?

[xcheerleader_jessx]

... if he already had a girlfriend? If he wouldn't have looked for me, I don't think I would've developed feelings... (feelings now i'm trying to get rid of). Every time he'd see me, he'd find a way to say hi. All of a sudden, he stopped. He already had a girlfriend (which i found out through other people). I feel sad and left out to dry. He is younger than me if that makes any difference.

[jahaims]

You aren't emotionally healthy if you get that attached so easily

[xcheerleader_jessx]

You are probably right. I was sexually abused as an 8 year old by my uncle and my father was not in the picture. I plan on doing therapy after the holidays but still seeking the right counselor.

[Wise4myage]

Does he have a crush on you?

[xcheerleader_jessx]

I don't know. I shop there. He is an employee at a grocery store.

[Wise4myage]

If you find him attractive than give him your number.

[xcheerleader_jessx]

I tried once. But i made the mistake of making it about me having available mulch in case his dad wanted it (his dad is into landscaping)

[Wise4myage]

You can always try again

[xcheerleader_jessx]

ok but he no longer looks for me like he used to... doesn't that happen when guys lose interest?

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, but don’t let that stop you

[Wise4myage]

Thanks.

[Summeroflove]

If he has a girlfriend let the feelings pass if you got too attached allow yourself to grieve him. Look if he really wants you he will break up with his girlfriend and choose you. Otherwise unless he later becomes single don’t pursue it and if he’s willing to cheat with you. Then forget him altogether

[xcheerleader_jessx]

I have moved on. I like someone else now.

[Summeroflove]

That’s great to hear

[xcheerleader_jessx]

Thanks. I met him totally unexpectedly🥰

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome but I would definitely make your move now and not wait until it’s too late.

[xcheerleader_jessx]

Yes! We have exchanged numbers and social media. He invited me to see him play piano at a local event.

[Summeroflove]

Nice! Is it a official date? And wish you the best

[spartan55]

What do you mean 'looked for you'?

[xcheerleader_jessx]

I noticed he'd tried to find a way to approach me. He would always say hi every time. He himself told me he talked to a few other regulars but that i was his "top dawg". Now, It's so weird. When he is in a position where he can't get away (like bagging my groceries or being in an aisle where he is helping someone already) he will say hi. Otherwise, he won't unless i approach him then he'll talk.

[spartan55]

I don't get how this is any sort of big deal. Some guy says hi to you. Okay...