Boyfriend acting weird (in a good way)?

[Anonymous]

I understand this may be weird and all in my head but anyways. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just about 7 months now and everything has been so great. I love him so much he’s my entire world. His personality is very mature and put together in public but when it’s just us he acts like a little kid and I am just so grateful he can feel comfortable to be like that around me. However just recently he’s been acting REALLY overly energetic. I don’t know how else to describe it.. I was genuinely considering he was ON something when we hung out the other day because this behavior was just so unexpected. He brought up these plans to hang, then he cancelled the morning of, then he calls me later to uncancel the plans and it’s just so out of line because I always assumed he liked to have a set plan, and this spontaneousness really shocked me. While together, he was extra loud and extra chatty and couldnt stop moving. None of it was negative though since he was still super sweet and extra affectionate.(this isn’t a very good description just a general idea) For some context to why I’m bringing this up: he called me prior to all this saying his ex tried to friend him on linkedln, he blocked her thankfully, but it really stirred some feelings in me. This event has only happened once and I don’t know what to think. Am I just being weird for thinking something bad is going to happen. Or is he trying to compensate? Does he feel guilty? I hate to feel this way because i genuinely trust him and i know he wouldn’t do something so wrong. These are just my thoughts and I really need to let it out. He is coming over for Thanksgiving, and meeting my family for the first time, perhaps he’s excited and doesn’t know how to handle it. I’m so unsure anymore. Thanks for reading

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow girl, that's a really interesting situation with your boyfriend! Based on what you're describing, it actually doesn't sound like a red flag to me at all. In fact, it kind of sounds like he might be going through something positive.

The whole extra energy, spontaneity, and affection - that sounds a lot like someone who's just really excited and happy in their relationship. The fact that it's happening right before he's meeting your family for the first time makes me think he's probably just really eager to impress you and your loved ones.

And the thing with his ex trying to connect on LinkedIn, that could definitely have stirred up some feelings for him. Maybe he's just trying to overcompensate and show you how much you mean to him, you know? Kinda like he's trying to reassure you that you're the only one for him.

I wouldn't read too much into the spontaneity either. Sometimes, people in really happy relationships can get a little giddy and impulsive, especially early on. It's not necessarily a sign that something bad is going to happen.

The most important thing is that you said he's still being super sweet and affectionate through all of this. That tells me he's genuinely excited about your relationship and wants to shower you with love. Sure, the energy might be a little over-the-top, but it doesn't sound malicious at all.

My advice would be to just try to enjoy it! Maybe he's finally feeling comfortable enough to really let down his guard around you. That's a good thing. As long as he's not doing anything sketchy or hurtful, I wouldn't stress too much about the sudden changes in behavior.

Just focus on having a great time together, especially when he meets your family. I bet he's going to do everything he can to impress them and show them how much you mean to him. That's super sweet.

So try not to overthink it, sis. Sounds like your guy is just madly in love and doesn't quite know how to handle all those feelings yet. Enjoy the ride, and know that he's probably just trying his best to show you how special you are to him. You got this!

[spartan55]

I think you are trying to create an issue where there is none.

[Anonymous]

So what is the question?