I don’t love my husband anymore, how to force him to stop loving me?

[Anonymous]

I met someone else, who’s not worth it but to show respect to myself I’m rejecting him.
He’s the man i always wanted and pray for but he told me a year ago that he was only looking for a friends with benefits relationship. I have ignore him multiple times even though I abreast told him how I feel.
My husband 2 years ago treated me really bad but now that I want to leave him he’s acting like a b- giving me gifts money paying my bills whatever to keep me with him. We both been through rough times including his cancer but now I’m the one who has an illness and I’m done. I feel guilty because he’s acting like a kid who doesn’t want to be abandoned by his mother I can see it it in his eyes that he will suffer if I leave him and that makes me want to just leave this world but I’m only staying because I’m helping strait animals. I’m not a good perdonan but at least I tell them how I feel and he still is doing what ever it takes. I’ve done everything to make him stop loving me including stop doing household chores and told him I like other guys but my bad is that I show him who I really am and that’s why they become attached to me.

[ohsheeT]

Okay time out look you guys have your up and downs it's between you both he's treated you in all different ways it sounds like good ways bad ways but why are you doing it to yourself you can't do that you have to be really you why you're there with him in that house you have to be yourself if you care you have to care if you make it him dinner and you make him a plate make it don't be rude don't make him try to hate you because you're hurting yourself in the long run what you need to do is be cool be kind be you you don't have to try to hurt him by telling him things like I've been in another guy that's just rude that's wrong you said one time and one time only if he didn't get the message he will one day that you if you are kind and if you were loving and if you were caring you have to be that way always you don't turn into somebody else because that's manipulation and that's bullshit... you don't love hime anymore.. and that's the bottom line right there you still have to love yourself and when you love yourself you're going to teach him something people get so caught up in what they want and in roundabout way being selfish I mean I know you're not but in a way you are stop you need to love yourself you need to treat yourself with respect and you need to be who you truly are whether you love him or you don't you don't have to verbally destroy him or verbally be a b**** because you don't want him to love you it's never going to happen that way his heart is his heart and he's not going to change his mind until you walk out the door it's that simple. you're so caught up in the moment you're not thinking about the future you're not thinking what this is truly all about there's more to it than what you think it's deeper than what you think

I've always said you cannot make somebody love you and why would you want to because then it's fake it's manipulation

Same thing goes you can't make somebody stop loving you until they want to it's not up to you it's up to them.. do you know how many men or women would love to be in your shoes and have somebody say that they want them but they don't want them the way that you want them to want you so you stay strong and you stay wise and independent because that's who you are there's so many people that wish they had the strength to do that b you could walk away with dignity you can walk away still being that friend that you were in the very beginning with him it doesn't have to get ugly not unless he makes it that way and still even then you don't have to go there

You don't force him to do anything that's his choice the only thing that you can do is walk out the door being kind respectful on how you would want somebody to walk out on you


When I was through with my marriage I didn't try to force her to hate me I told her it was done it was over I didn't love her anymore and you can't make me love you we were way too young when we got married it was a mistake but we tried or at least I tried I tried and I tried and I couldn't do it anymore I hated doing it because we had a kid.. but I did the right thing I did it the right way

But don't lose yourself by making him get angry at you or making you change who you truly are you can still be strong you can still be a good person it's just you're done you're tired and you never know something might happen in life that makes you want to go back and if you burn that bridge and you burn it down it ain't going to be rebuilt so be kind be respectful and just say look I can't do it no more I'm sorry you know I'm sorry that's all I can say and I got to go I don't know what's going to happen from here but I got to go

[Anonymous]

"I promise to love you in sickness and in health, in good and in bad"

Do you remember saying these ^ words?

What has happened to today's women that has caused such a complete collapse of commitment in marriage. More than half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of them, and the #1 reason for divorce is lack of commitment.

[Anonymous]

He pays all your bills and had to deal with cancer and a bunch of shit. He's a good hard working man and deserves a woman that is worth his time you should leave him, so you don't keep wasting his time with you.

[LukeAurelin]

Instead of doing all those just straight out tell him how you feel and what you want. If uou want out convey why and let go

[LukeAurelin]

But u can’t force someone to stop caring for u. U just have to convince them it is not what you want now.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Divorce him, it's honestly the best choice for him so he can start that moving on process and find someone else

[slatyb]

Filing for divorce should do it. Don't torture yourself or him by staying married.

[jahaims]

You're a terrible human

[spartan55]

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