Help! Husband doesn't love me anymore?

[Emmdk]

What should I do (F28, M30)

Hey you guys, I have a question for you about what the heck to do in this situation.

I have been together with my husband for 6 years (married for 3). He's 30 and I'm 28. We've always had a wonderful relationship, sharing deep and genuine love. We found out that I have PCOS 3 years ago, a disease that makes it hard for me to conceive a child. We got married a little after my diagnosis, and it turned out I was 4 weeks pregnant at our wedding. We were both overjoyed and grateful because we dreamed of being parents together. The pregnancy was easy and so was the birth.

When our girl (2 years old now) was born, she would not stop crying. And we consulted with medical professionals and even though we did everything we could, she screamed for 9 months straight day and night. Our families promised to help us out, but they never did, so we were all alone in the living hell that is constant crying and screaming (iykyk). My husband would get so angry/frustrated with her crying that he would scream at her. Therefore I chose to do all the nights by myself, so he could get some rest and so she wouldn't be screamed at (he yelled at her and called her things). I believe he was hurt by the fact that she rejected him and only wanted me. I have always done all the house chores and he would be in charge of mowing the lawn. This pattern continued, so I was so overwhelmed that I started self harming. Cont*

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When our daughter was 6 months old, I finally broke down completely and sought help. I got antidepressants and have been in therapy ever since. Today, I'm remarkably better, and all the house chores, and taking care of our daughter is done by me, because he "can't handle it". Truly, I've always been okay with the fact that I did everything around the house... but I have been very mad at my husband for screaming at our daughter when she cries so resentment has built over time. Believe me when I

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say that he would scream at her every single time she was in his care. For almost a year, I couldn't shower or eat without being stressed out about him being angry at her.

When our daughter was 6 months old and I got help from the doctor, we decided to sell our house and move in with my husband's parents for a short while. The town we live in is veery small (300 people) and we wanted to move to a slightly bigger town (1500 people) 10 mins away so our daughter could go to preschool and have her

[Anonymous]

So in a nutshell you struggled to HAVE a kid and now that you have one you're both stressed -- and he's particularly cranky and distant, you feel unloved, unsupported, and tired af bc you're doing everything by yourself.

I have news for you... it's called parenting and you should both get over yourselves. Parenting is the HARDEST job you'll ever have in your life. There will be NO ONE to do it for you... You won't know what you're doing half the time... It's pure stress from dawn to dusk for at least 21 years... give or take a college loan, a bunch of scraped knees, endless PTA meetings, etc. There are a few lovely moments peppered in between, obviously, otherwise all of humanity would collapse, however it's not easy for anyone... and anyone who tells you it IS is lying.

You're self-harming? That's no good to you OR to your kid. If you're willing to self-harm that's a sign that you're willing to do other things as well, possibly detrimental to your kid. It most certainly won't get you any positive affection or attention from your spouse or child. It MAY grant you a nice little vacation for one in an asylum and possibly a visit from child protective services.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

That's why people with anger issues shall not plan to have kids or even get married. Your baby is a human baby, she's not some plastic doll for display— well of course, crying is natural.

I feel sorry for the situation. That's very hard to basically—raising child on your own. 🥺 Communication is very important. You should have a really deep talk with your husband, sit him down, rekindle that spark between you two, and tell him that his participation is very important. Tell him that you really need his help. If he cannot cooperate with you then, goodbye. Both parents are required to meet the child's basic needs. Him making money is not enough. Having a baby is a lifetime work and I hope, I really really hope.. things go better between you two as a couple and for the child.

[lightbulb27]

daughter has stopped crying now?

Stress has taken everyone down. It's amazing how strong and resilient humans are... they can climb mountains freezing cold and scale giant walls. But if they get tiny drop of water on their skin over and over... they will go crazy! We are all fragile.

I can only say that you are normal human beings, God loves you, and wish the best for all of you. The daughter needs her father it's just she needed her mom immediately and something was wrong she couldn't express other than cry. Easy for me to say...

I think ear plugs and escape were in order a while back.

Hope you all make it!!!

[Finchie40]

Your husband needs anger management classes and he needs to understand that’s his daughter as well and that he should be stepping up helping you raise your child together , not putting everything on you , unfortunately you married a boy not a man whatsoever. Your daughter is constantly crying because she realizes who her father is 😂

[AI Opinion]

Oh honey, my heart goes out to you 💔. You're in the thick of it, and it's understandable that you're feeling so much weight on your shoulders. First off, the fact that you're opening up about this is huge, and I'm here to guide you through. It sounds like you and your husband could benefit from some heart-to-heart conversations and possibly professional counseling to explore these feelings further. Emotions can run high after such an intense period, and it's crucial to figure out a way through it together. Remember, you're not alone in this journey 🤗.

[Jackblue]

Ultimately this probably isn't the best place to look for answers to such questions. You need a family therapist, not one of those quacks who blames children for marital problems and acts like because the wife puts a child first she is a bad spouse. Someone who is actually skilled in understanding these matters.

[Crankor]

Always good to find out if both future parents can really handle a child. Sounds like he may need some therapy. You wouldn't want that turning into a physical abusive behavior

[wkhan_87]

Don't worry,,
You just need some space