Here are my thoughts on whether you should stay in this marriage:
1) Love is the foundation of any healthy relationship, so if your husband no longer loves you, that poses a major problem. Feeling unloved and unsupported by your partner is no way to live.
2) The fact that your husband hid his feelings from you and was planning to divorce you without even telling you is a huge breach of trust. Open, honest communication is essential in marriage.
3) Your husband criticizing your weight and body in a disrespectful way is unhealthy relationship dynamics. He should love and support you regardless of your size.
4) It's questionable whether your husband's feelings will genuinely come back at this point. He seems fairly set on divorce, and trying to "fix" things when one partner no longer loves the other is usually futile. Love is not a switch you can turn back on.
5) You have only been in this country for 5 months, away from your support system. Going through a divorce in a new environment would present additional challenges.
6) Overall, staying in a marriage where you feel unloved, disrespected and deceived is unlikely to bring you happiness long-term. You deserve a partner who loves and cherishes you as you are.
In summary, while I understand your desire to try and make things work, I do not think this marriage is salvageable based on what you've described. I would recommend considering separation or divorce and focusing on building a support system where you are now. You have so much life ahead - don't settle for feeling unloved. I hope this perspective provides some clarity. Please feel free to follow up if you have any other questions.
Here are my thoughts on whether you should stay in this marriage:
1) Love is the foundation of any healthy relationship, so if your husband no longer loves you, that poses a major problem. Feeling unloved and unsupported by your partner is no way to live.
2) The fact that your husband hid his feelings from you and was planning to divorce you without even telling you is a huge breach of trust. Open, honest communication is essential in marriage.
3) Your husband criticizing your weight and body in a disrespectful way is unhealthy relationship dynamics. He should love and support you regardless of your size.
4) It's questionable whether your husband's feelings will genuinely come back at this point. He seems fairly set on divorce, and trying to "fix" things when one partner no longer loves the other is usually futile. Love is not a switch you can turn back on.
5) You have only been in this country for 5 months, away from your support system. Going through a divorce in a new environment would present additional challenges.
6) Overall, staying in a marriage where you feel unloved, disrespected and deceived is unlikely to bring you happiness long-term. You deserve a partner who loves and cherishes you as you are.
In summary, while I understand your desire to try and make things work, I do not think this marriage is salvageable based on what you've described. I would recommend considering separation or divorce and focusing on building a support system where you are now. You have so much life ahead - don't settle for feeling unloved. I hope this perspective provides some clarity. Please feel free to follow up if you have any other questions.
Here are my thoughts on whether you should stay in this marriage:
1) Love is the foundation of any healthy relationship, so if your husband no longer loves you, that poses a major problem. Feeling unloved and unsupported by your partner is no way to live.
2) The fact that your husband hid his feelings from you and was planning to divorce you without even telling you is a huge breach of trust. Open, honest communication is essential in marriage.
3) Your husband criticizing your weight and body in a disrespectful way is unhealthy relationship dynamics. He should love and support you regardless of your size.
4) It's questionable whether your husband's feelings will genuinely come back at this point. He seems fairly set on divorce, and trying to "fix" things when one partner no longer loves the other is usually futile. Love is not a switch you can turn back on.
5) You have only been in this country for 5 months, away from your support system. Going through a divorce in a new environment would present additional challenges.
6) Overall, staying in a marriage where you feel unloved, disrespected and deceived is unlikely to bring you happiness long-term. You deserve a partner who loves and cherishes you as you are.
In summary, while I understand your desire to try and make things work, I do not think this marriage is salvageable based on what you've described. I would recommend considering separation or divorce and focusing on building a support system where you are now. You have so much life ahead - don't settle for feeling unloved. I hope this perspective provides some clarity. Please feel free to follow up if you have any other questions.
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If he doesn't love you then NO. ᅠ
tbh i suggest u to go to a couples therapist.. maybe he is going through things,, you've been married for 3 years and you never changed but he stopped loving you now? i think it's weird.. .
also why did he decide to divorce you after a year? why one year and why without you knowing? i think you should seek professional help and then act after you understand the situation more
Ugh I hate that you're going through that. See it's very possible to rekindle your relationship but it takes two to dance tango. Both of you would have to be very committed to work things out. I'm not the biggest fan of therapy but I feel that considering your circumstances a therapist could be very helpful.
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If he acts like that, I wouldn't stick around
Here are my thoughts on whether you should stay in this marriage:
1) Love is the foundation of any healthy relationship, so if your husband no longer loves you, that poses a major problem. Feeling unloved and unsupported by your partner is no way to live.
2) The fact that your husband hid his feelings from you and was planning to divorce you without even telling you is a huge breach of trust. Open, honest communication is essential in marriage.
3) Your husband criticizing your weight and body in a disrespectful way is unhealthy relationship dynamics. He should love and support you regardless of your size.
4) It's questionable whether your husband's feelings will genuinely come back at this point. He seems fairly set on divorce, and trying to "fix" things when one partner no longer loves the other is usually futile. Love is not a switch you can turn back on.
5) You have only been in this country for 5 months, away from your support system. Going through a divorce in a new environment would present additional challenges.
6) Overall, staying in a marriage where you feel unloved, disrespected and deceived is unlikely to bring you happiness long-term. You deserve a partner who loves and cherishes you as you are.
In summary, while I understand your desire to try and make things work, I do not think this marriage is salvageable based on what you've described. I would recommend considering separation or divorce and focusing on building a support system where you are now. You have so much life ahead - don't settle for feeling unloved. I hope this perspective provides some clarity. Please feel free to follow up if you have any other questions.You're 75kg now, what were you when you two met? If you put on 2kg and he's not attracted to you that's very different than if you used to be 50kg. Also I don't know how tall you are, so that makes a difference.
Like it or not, there's a physical component to attraction. So how you answer the above matters. On top of that, you admitted that you used to take care of him and now you don't. What did you expect to happen?
Run while you can.
He is toxic for you.
Holding on to a relationship when someone treats you the way he is, is similar to holding onto a wild animal trying to get away from you. The more you hold on the more hurt you are going to find yourself suffering.
I’d never stay with someone who isn’t in love with me. How can you love someone that feels that way about you, you’ll only grow to resent each other and be miserable.
If you really, truly believe that he doesn't love you anymore, then you probably shouldn't remain in the relationship.
The most important thing you can do to save your marriage is to lose weight and get in shape. He explicitly told you as much.
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