How can I get my guy friend to understand that I DO NOT LIKE HIM?

[Anonymous]

I’ve explained to him that I only like him as a friends just like I told him back in high school. He’s asked me out at least 20 TIMES! He said he understood but he keeps sending me flirty morning text messages and saying how beautiful I am.

He said his feelings for me never went away and it won’t.

I’m getting annoyed and I called him out for telling people that I’m his girlfriend.

He said, “Well your uncle why I didn’t have a girlfriend and then I nervous said you’re my girlfriend. Besides your dad said I got myself a good woman and intelligence is sexy. So I can say that you’re my girlfriend. I hope you’re not seeing other guys because you ARE my girlfriend.”

NOBODY considered asking me how I felt pushed into his arms. I’m so angry! 😡😡

Even my late dad said in the past that he likes him, I don’t pick the best guys and he’s boyfriend material and the more good looking men are the worst.

My uncle asked who I was talking to on the video chat (so annoying) and was I walking to my guy friend and I said no it’s my best friend.

[Anonymous]

I get that he’s you’re friend, but you aren’t his, and he has told you this multiple times. To him you’re his girlfriend, and he is not changing his mind about that. So unless you’re ready to conform then you can’t be his friend anymore. You’ve already been blunt, already told him you aren’t interested, there’s nothing else you can do to change his mind.

[Opinion Owner]

And if that’s an option you refuse then what else are you going to do? In a way it’s like leading him on if you continue because you already know and have been told that he won’t accept anything less than a relationship.

[Asker]

I’m not LEADING HIM ON!!! I don’t text him back when he texts me. People keep saying I’m the bad guy.

[Opinion Owner]

I never called you the bad guy, I’m saying that IF you continue this connection knowing how he feels, then it’s either going to be as his girlfriend or you would be leading him on because you know he doesn’t see you as only his friend. He has literally called you his girlfriend. Maybe if you give each other some space then he can get over his romantic feelings for you and you can be friends again in the future.

[Abbycado]

If he is that persistent, you’ll probably have to cut ties.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

He's not your Freind, he never has been.

He's a potential intimate partner, whom you are not intrested in, that's it.

[Asker]

I don’t understand why my uncle and dad say he’s boyfriend material.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Because he is...
Just not Freind material.

If you don't like him then, fair enough, just stop kidding yourself that he is your friend, he's not.

[Asker]

He can be boyfriend material to other girls but he won’t date other women, he only has eyes for me and I told HIM SO MANY TIMES I DONT LIKE HIM. I ignore his texts

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

You need to send him a text saying please do not contact me anymore, it is harassment, if you continue to do so I will be reporting it to the police.

Then do not contact him again

I think that you have been leading him on in terms of still being friends / nice to him.

He has made himself clear, now with that information, you must make yourself clear.

[spartan55]

He is not your friend, time to stop the charade. You need to cut him off.

[Agape93]

At this point you can't. Cut him out

[Asker]

I can’t just cut him off. He’s my friend. I will have to tell him the blunt truth. He isn’t listening and he’s being disrespectful to tell everyone I’m his girlfriend. I told him he will tell the truth

[Agape93]

Friends don't do that and try to manipulate those around you. If he hasn't listened to no 20 times now, he won't listen to a blunt 21st.

[Asker]

I’m going to have to be! He isn’t listening!!

[Agape93]

Exactly. He's not listening to you and he's manipulating those around you and disregarding your wishes. Cut him out.

[Asker]

I don’t even respond to his text messages everyday. I’m just afraid he’s going to throw a fit at me because he said I’m the only woman he wants. That’s his problem not mine

[Agape93]

Exactly

[brayden2010]

just tell him