Got fired for being jealous, thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I had an inappropriate relationship with my boss, not physical cheating, but it was emotional intimacy and flirtation. sorry He’s a narcissist and finally, I see that he was manipulating me. We have a new addition which is another girl my age, and when he first mentioned her, I didn’t react. I didn’t say anything. Then he called me a few days later, the day before she’s about to start, and pushed my buttons by persuading to have her at one of my big projects. I’m in sales. Worked hard for it. I don’t want another sales person at my project, especially when I haven’t met before. He kept throwing her qualifications in my face, it was weird. More team members = more competition. Then the next day at the meeting, of course I was acting jealous. I had resting bitch face which I regret, but I did play nice after that. But then after I went into my office and then I just walked out, so my boss knew I was upset. I then texted him expressing frustration that he pushed to have her on my big project and that it sounded sus. I think he wanted control me to stroke his ego. Well, he got his reaction, which was in front of his wife. SMH. After that I confronted him in text expressing frustration that he pushed me. He denied all of my feelings, I can tell he was pissed that I almost exposed him. After that, everything shifted it’s like a shark smells blood, black eyes. From there, he noticed I was still upset, so he tried to win me over by flirting. Once he knew he had me again he started punishing me by giving me extra/pointless work tasks, giving the cold shoulder, and being mean to me. When I asked him why he was ignoring me/if he was upset with me, he denied it. He’s the kind of manipulative guy who would get jealous that I was talking to other men/yell at me to get away from them. Hed tell me I look beautiful and to tell him that I got dressed up just for him. After that, he kicked me out of the party bc I was talking to his brother - then he let me Go. Thoughts?

[WindAtMyBack]

I suspect if we heard the other side of this it would be completely different. One thing is for certain though, you did not handle this well at all. Whatever role he played, you can't do anything about it. But you also have a role in all of this. That's what you need to look at and learn from your mistakes.

Reading that text is pure drama, which has no place at work. Unlike some people, I am not against relationships at work. But if you do it, you need to remain discrete and professional. You did neither of those things. That is completely on you, regardless of whatever role he may have played.

[Anonymous]

lol he’s a narcissist now after you got burned. Sounds like a lot of women when they talk about their ex. You better willing to engage, but now you got the axe not he’s narcissistic. Take resolute for your own actions. You’re an adult. You let yourself be manipulated cause you were hoping for more.

[Anonymous]

You played with fire and got burned.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a novel.