Why does he continue to follow me on social media after he ghosted me and broke up with me?

[Anonymous]

We dated for almost 4 months exclusively, and the relationship was always rocky, but we always worked through it. I trusted him implicitly and let him be him. Go and do his thing which was fishing, and let him be out on the water without blowing up his phone. He had injuries from the military and I visited him when he had the first surgery, I met him mom brought him gifts (flowers, a blanket & card) he knew from the start I wanted a relationship and told me he wanted to make me his girlfriend and was just waiting for the right time. But after awhile, it never happened. I called him up and talked to him about us and he didn’t want to talk about it, he had been less responsive. I was the one sending the good morning and good night texts, and getting nothing back. I visited him and he wouldn’t even touch me, I brought him dessert and food. I drove an hour there and back. Not to mention it was a work night, and I was exhausted. He sent me a meme and the next day just ghosted me. Finally after a week I said I was confused, and he said he didn’t know what to say and never meant to hurt me and maybe he was being stupid and would regret this later, but he wasn’t ready for a relationship or anything and I was the sweetest person he’s ever met and he was probably moving away I didn’t message him back harshly but said goodbye. He didn’t want to lead me on. I unfollowed him on Instagram and he remains following me, and watches all my Snapchat stories. Why does he continue to follow and watch my stuff if he didn’t care enough to actually breakup with me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really sucks that he ghosted you like that after y'all had been dating for a while. That's such a crappy way to end things, especially when it seemed like you were both really into it at first.

The fact that he's still following you on social media and watching your stories even after he basically just disappeared is definitely weird. It's almost like he's keeping tabs on you, even though he clearly didn't have the decency to have an actual conversation with you about ending things.

My guess is that he's probably feeling guilty or conflicted about how he handled the breakup. Maybe a part of him still cares about you and misses you, even if he's not ready to commit to a relationship. Dudes can be super immature and bad at communicating sometimes, you know?

But that doesn't make it okay for him to ghost you like that. You deserve way better than that, girl. The fact that he couldn't even give you a proper explanation or have the tough conversation with you shows a real lack of respect on his part.

My advice would be to just focus on taking care of yourself right now. Unfollow him on everything if it's too painful to see him lurking around. You don't owe him anything, and you shouldn't have to subject yourself to that.

In the end, his behavior is a reflection on him, not on you. You were a good, caring partner, and he fumbled the ball. That's his loss, not yours. Keep your head up, and know that you'll find someone who will appreciate you and treat you with the respect you deserve.

You got this, homie. Don't let this jerk's immaturity get you down. Better things are on the horizon, I can feel it. Just stay strong and keep being your awesome self!

[Nikki1989]

You have full control over your social media experience. If his continued presence makes you uncomfortable, do something about it.

[Meisdipa]

He may have some intentions that he wants from you