Does he want to break up since he didn’t reply?

[Anonymous]

I asked my boyfriend did he want to go ahead and be single because of the way he’s acting he read it yesterday and said nothing he’s been distant

[_Maya_]

There is no way for us to know that. We can't read people's minds. We also know nothing about him or his personality or if he would be inclined to do such a thing. Sounds like you are going to wait it out. My question is why make such an offer? You just gave him an easy way out if he does indeed want to break up. That isn't the smartest of moves in my opinion. He may have not even been thinking about that but I can guarantee you that he has now. He may have just wanted space for whatever reason. You give no context to the way he was acting or why so hard to say. I think the biggest mistake here is you voluntarily opening the door for him to leave.

[Asker]

He’s been distant and not replying and that’s why i asked

[_Maya_]

Perhaps there is something going on that is causing it. Stress... job... family... there is always a reason.

[Asker]

Well why didn’t he just say that instead of ignoring g me

[hahahmm]

Sounds like he is fed up with you testing him/playing games/accusing him of stuff. If you really want him then you need to apologize in person/over the phone. stop the text stuff. OR if you are ready to dump him then just do.

[SuperJJ]

I'm not sure. Maybe he's busy or feeling sick. There are many possibilities he can't or don't wanna reply. Not all of them are to split your friendship.

[hahahmm]

Here's a tip... don't say everything on your mind to men. We don't communicate that way and it's annoying to us. At best we will ignore you saying it. Worst case we decide to take it on face value EVEN THO WE KNOW YOU ARE JUST BSing but it's less work to dump you than to get hit with psycho accusations 5x a day.

I think most women know this which is why women tend to be less serious about the dude early in a relationship but 'forgot' to mention it to him.

[Asker]

But if he’s not responding then what am i supposed to assume

[_Maya_]

I am going to give you the exact same reply that I did yesterday when you asked here.

Does he want to break up since he didn’t reply?

There is no way for us to know that. We can't read people's minds. We also know nothing about him or his personality or if he would be inclined to do such a thing. Sounds like you are going to wait it out. My question is why make such an offer? You just gave him an easy way out if he does indeed want to break up. That isn't the smartest of moves in my opinion. He may have not even been thinking about that but I can guarantee you that he has now. He may have just wanted space for whatever reason. You give no context to the way he was acting or why so hard to say. I think the biggest mistake here is you voluntarily opening the door for him to leave.

[Asker]

Why wouldn’t i give him an easy way out? I don’t want a hassle in breaking up

[Staximus]

Give it a fucking rest already, how many times you going to ask this goddamned question? You asking him if he wants to break up is going to make him think that you want to break up, genius.

[hahahmm]

There was some other poster who used to ask the same question over & over again. I felt sorry for her the first 20 times but eventually I had to just block her to keep from contracting some of the insanity myself.

[Anonymous]

Yes. You've asked this a dozen times. Stop spamming PLEASE

[Anonymous]

How exactly is he acting?

[Asker]

Distant not replying to anything ignoring messages

[Opinion Owner]

Just because he’s acting distant does t mean he wants to be single. A lot of times when a man is distant it’s cause something is going on. Could he be that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship w you anymore? Sure. But there’s also a million other reasons why he could be acting this way. Men tend to retract to their corners when they have something going on that they need to figure out. I would t jump to conclusions the way you are. Maybe he has financial problems going on. Family issues. Problems at work.

[Asker]

But he’s barely responding to me not trying to. See me

[Opinion Owner]

It you’re assuming he wants to be single. Has he done anything else to make you think he wants to be single? Like I said when something is going on men usually stick to theirselves.

[Asker]

No he hasn’t he just hasn’t been responding or trying to see me or tell me what’s wrong

[Opinion Owner]

Well that’s one thing you need to understand about men. We don’t always share what’s going on. Men most of their lives have never really had someone to go to or talk to about what’s wrong. As a boy growing up you’re told to stop being a big baby, that no one is going to save you but yourself. So like me I never talk to any one about what’s going on if there’s problems, not even my girl of 16 years. Maybe once I can think know that I’ve talked to her about what was wrong. But as a man I have to figure that out, to take care of my family. To not put that burden on her.

[Asker]

But he’s completely shut me out how do i know whether to wait or move on

[Opinion Owner]

How long has t been?

[Asker]

A week

[Asker]

He said his phone broke last Friday and ever since then it’s been hard to see and contact him he opens my messages and don’t reply when i try to see him he says we can meet up but doesn’t out effort in the time to meet

[Opinion Owner]

So before all this did you notice anything? You don’t know of any problems he’s going through?

[Asker]

No we went on a trip everything was fine … then he stopped responding to my messages and said his phone broke

[Asker]

Then he told me he’d get a new phone on Monday … it’s way past Monday

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing happened on the trip? No arguments?

[Asker]

Not really after the trip we were texting he didn’t say anything. I told him last Friday i missed him and he said he missed me too

[Asker]

I asked could we go get seafood a day after the trip he agreed

[Asker]

That’s why this week i asked if he wanted to break up he left he on read at first then he replied hours later

[Opinion Owner]

I see. Well something for sure going on. can't say if it’s cause he wants to break up or not. Like I said could be a million other things. I’d give it a little more time. How long have you two been together?

[Asker]

4 months i think his phone is broke and he doesn’t have any money

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe. I’d make sure first

[Asker]

What else could it be?

[Opinion Owner]

Financial problems. You said his phone is broke, he doesn’t have money.

[Asker]

Why is it so hard to say that then

[Opinion Owner]

Because as a man you’re expected Ted to be the one to take care of things financially. To men a big part of being a man is having finances, taking care of your loved ones. If you don’t than you feel less of a man, a failure.

[Asker]

Doesn’t he know if he doesn’t respond or call or see me i should assume he’s ghosting me and leave

[Opinion Owner]

No. Not always. How old is he? Does he live on his own?

[Asker]

He lives with his family he’s 29

[Opinion Owner]

So has he actually done anything w his life? He’s almost 30 living at home. Why?

[Asker]

I don’t know why

[Opinion Owner]

Who knows maybe he’s realizing he wanted a good amount of his life. That he should be further along in his life compared to others. I’m not sure. I don’t see how he’d be able to take care of you if he asked you to marry him. Maybe he feels like a failure.

[Asker]

Maybe he’s using his cell phone as an excuse not to speak to me

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe. Like I said could be a lot of reasons. Maybe it’s not an excuse. Like you said he broke his phone, doesn’t have money. So how is he going to get a phone if he’s broke? It might be the truth. I kind of think you’d be better off meeting someone else.

[Asker]

So why not break up instead of ignoring me and leaving me in the dark does he expect me to get the message and leave him be

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t know. How to say. You could help up w him.

[Anonymous]

That makes sense to me.

[Asker]

If i ask him does he want to break up and he doesn’t say anything or answer me an i safe to assume he’s done

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I think so.

[Asker]

But he replied later and said no

[Opinion Owner]

I think you need to have a heart to heart chat with him

[Asker]

I don't know what to say we went on a trip and ever since then he’s been acting funny towards me

[Opinion Owner]

That’s weird.

[Asker]

He said his phone broke

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah right.

[Asker]

He responded to me on social media but isn’t texting me

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know what to tell you.