Exactly one week ago we had a very long phone call... about 5 hours. I thought everything is fine and well.
On Monday I sent him a message that an unknown number is disturbing me and I want him to check it for me. He said "I'm busy right now" ... I said fine.
Then a few minutes later I just sent him the number. And then he exploded. Sent me a few hurtful messages and I told him I'm sorry.
A few hours later called him again and he won't respond. I went to see him a t work. He asked me to leave and that he is very mad at me.
I apologized again. Then I left. On Tuesday I asked him "are you still mad?". He said "yes". And I apologized again. He said "I don't want to talk right now".
On Wednesday I messaged him again asking him "are you punishing me... that's all I want to know". He replied "yes" and I asked "for how long". He said "till I'm not mad anymore and till you learn, because I'm very stressed at work and you are making it even worse".
I offered him help and he said "take some rest for now". I said I can't, because I'm very anxious.
Later at night I massaged him to ask if he has watered the plants and I wanted to know if he got his money back from a friend. He was online, but didn't even opened my texts. I called him twice. His phone was on silent. I messaged him again begging for him to call and said "Don't do that to me, if you want me to stop reaching, just say it"
No reply, no call, no nothing. He saw my messages in the morning, but nothing... I decided to leave him alone till yesterday.
Then asked him "am I still punished or you have decided something else... just tell me, please". He didn't even read it. A few hours later I called him. Again no response.
Why is he doing that?
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Okay, I hate to say it sweetheart but it sounds like he's basically broken up with you without actually saying the words. Guys do this sometimes when they want out of a relationship but don't want to look like the "bad guy."
A few things make me think it's over between you:
- He keeps saying he's mad/punishing you but won't give you any clarity on when it will end. That's not how a healthy relationship communicates.
- Not answering or responding at all is a way to stonewall you into backing off without having a real breakup discussion.
- You apologized multiple times but he's still icing you out. Clearly your behavior wasn't actually the only issue for him.
- Usually when a guy ghosts your texts and calls like this, they're phasing you out of their life.
It sucks and isn't fair, but I think at this point you need to accept he's ended things and move on. Don't give him the power anymore by constantly reaching out. Find ways to keep busy with friends/activities so you don't sit around waiting. He's shown you where you stand, even if he wouldn't man up and say the words. You deserve someone who wants to be with you fully!
You should never wait on a guy to do anything. Move on.
Do you think he is playing mind games or just had moved on... and so should I?
Why haven't you dumped him?