Is there a special reason as to why your single? Some of you guys and girls are very attractive from what I've seen but they stay single. What's the reason? Maybe some of you miss you ex love and haven't manage to get over the break up yet so you won't let anyone in I've gotten over my break up but it was so devastating that I have major trust issues towards females so I won't put myself out there, I just admire beauty from a far or as it passes me by. Some of you have low self esteem and don't think your atrractive to any guy or girl in the world, (your dead wrong If you've ever thought that non sense. Maybe some of you are single cuz you don't like the responsibilities a relationship brings and you just like playin the game instead of finding a partner. I'm sure some of you have your own personal reasons, I'd love for you to share some of them with me please? Personslly I'm just afraid of being hurt ever again like that because it damn there drove me insaneand I never want another woman to have that kind of power over my mind again! I'll put up a vote pole but if you wnna share I'd love that part to 😊
I have trust issues
I think I'm ugly and unattractive
Relationships is too much drama so I like being single rite now
The reason why I am single is because I have decided to just focus on myself for now. All I want to do right now is just get out of my 3rd year of high school. When I finish high school for good then maybe that's when I'll start dating again. But for right now I just want to focus on myself, I don't really want a relationship right now. I want to work on improving myself, and being happy with myself. I learned something in my last relationship that I cannot depend on my partner to make me happy, it doesn't work that way. Its not that its to much drama for me or anything, its just that I'm not trying to be in one right now. I haven't met the right person in my life yet, I want to get to know people and see what they are like before I put my heart at risk again. For now, I just want to do me and be me, and focus on nobody but myself and my education. Cause that's what matters most to me right now. My probably is I depend to much on my partner to make me happy, to the point where I become clingy, which is something that I am trying to work on in the future. Because I don't want to scare guys away from me. I have to be more dependent on myself, I can't buy happiness, have to learn how to love myself more.
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For me, it's a mix of low self-esteem (I usually assume guys are either joking or desperate when they hit on me, tbh) and a subconscious pickiness when it comes to dating. I just know instinctively who I can mesh with and who's better as a friend/acquaintance, and the vast majority of guys, regardless of how awesome they are, just wouldn't be a great match for me. There's nothing wrong with them, it's just compatibility.
Making things a little harder, I am shy and reserved. I try to get over it quickly with new people, but guys still need to have some patience if they want to get to know me. It's an obstacle.
You will at least let a guy kiss you and hug you and kiss your neck rite? I mean a man can only wait so long, I'd wait 2 weeks for a kiss max, and you have to bend the rules a bit, Give s guy some incentives
I mean, if we're dating, of course he gets to kiss and hug me. My neck is really sensitive, so we might have to hold off on that a bit, but if I'm dating him for even two weeks then I probably like him enough to get comfortable fairly quickly.
- I'm not pretty enough for guys. This is not my opinion. I actually quite like my looks. But guys simply aren't interested in me.
- I'm shy and keep to myself. Another reason guys don't give me a second glance.
- It's not easy to find girls who aren't straight around here.
- Emotionally, I'm a pretty independent person. Even if a guy or girl did show interest in me, I'd be leery of getting involved because I honestly prefer my alone time and I don't want to feel under pressure to spend time with someone (or worse, have sex with them).
We have been dating for over 2 years now and had a short relationship. However he kept on taking distance and we broke up. He had hurt my feelings several times and tried to make me fit into his image of being perfect. I had to change myself every time and still it wasn't good enough for him, and he kept on hurting me. Now he does still look for me every now and then but I rather keep my distance as I do not want toe be hurt again. When I am with another boy I feel uncomfortable, always feeling like he will be the same.
Do you think that it is possible that you're still in love with this other guy and you feel weird because you feel like you're cheating or something? Just a thought to consider.
I do love him, but I keep it hidden. He didn't talk to me for like 2/4 months during the time I went to some house festival where I met another guy. Ofcourse I felt a bit sad but I loved him so we were dating for a while. During this period I actually felt scared (to be hurt, ignored and not good enough) so actually I became scared of being with him. I still have those trust issues, even when I'm just talking with my male friends.
Women think men have high expectations nowadays and some of us do but I only raise my expectation bar because I got tired of running into liars and cheaters. An a lot of women are sooo fearful when it comes to speaking their minds that they just lie and keep secrets and don't realize their only hurting theirselves much worse! Pride destroys and some people have soo much Pride they rather just say "oh well fuck him!/her!😤" not realizing their only doing more damage
I don't know about the pride part but its tough to regain trust when you wanted to do your best and you're the one who gets blamed for everything and feels hurted.
I agree. Trust is very hard to regain once you've lost it you gotta walk a straight line for a long time. It's like selling your soul in order grl get it back
I'm single because I got dumped because she chose another guy. I'm not over her, and it feels like I never will be since this one felt different than the others I have dated.
I've been meeting new people and trying to see if there is someone else out there. The problem is I just don't find them that attractive or we just didn't connect.
I'm single because I can't find the right girl. I end up getting discarded despite my efforts to really try to please them. Hell, my last two relationships I ended up being belittled by the girls towards the end. The last one REALLY sent me for a rollercoaster ride and these girls seem to have no interest in being loyal or trustworthy.
It's a real punch in the gut when despite your efforts they just discard you like you're scum. I'm not sure what I deserved to be looked down upon. :/
I can almost completely relate to this post because I'm somewhat in the same boat and even though I'm over her, I just feel Shame as if I wasn't good enough and that's not the case at all... She just chose to be with someone different. That's like me goin to a dealership with you telling you to get a Mercedes and you choose the BMW so I get mad at you for it... It's your choice and I can't do anything but hope the car brings you much joy, no matter how much you hurt my feelings by going against me I have to accept it.. Also your in a state of mind of desperation. How do I know? Cuz I've been there and I'm sorta still there. My relationship ended 2 1/2 years ago but I wanted a girl the next week it was over and I still haven't found one. I pup oddly lowered my standards in women just to find someone to fill that void and empty feeling in my chest but I was setting myself up for failure cuz all the girls I began to let in were trash!!! My perceptions were off as if my radar was broken
I could see the good girls from the bad.. You have to force yourself to accept that your alone or let the stupid bitches in your life to fuck over you. Try kickin with a girl first, don't bring up past relationships. Bitches hate hearing about other girls. Girls like guys who other women want... Don't fall for them easy no matter how badly you want to express yourself and tell thrm how beautiful you think they are to you, give 1 complement and hold back the rest for a couple of days or even a week females like to take your kindness for weakness believe it or not
Maybe because I never ask out anyone straightforwardly. I've implied feelings toward some people, and I get implied rejections back like 'yea, that's what friends are for' or ' oh I have a crush on that guy'. I've also asked out someone in-person to a show, but she declined because of her mom's friend's baby shower or something like that.
After enough experiences like that, I gave up. I'm only 17, but still. The problem now is that my maturity level doesn't match people my age. The problem when I get older will be a lack of assets and financial stability (and maybe a lack of hygeine/cleanliness by extension). It sucks. All I can do is feel resent, but the emotion just sits in a cloud and doesn't rain on anything in particular. I don't know what to blame, if blaming is even the right thing to do.
That picture is the realist thing ever, seriously. I finally broke down managing to confessed it to my boyfriend and best friend. Even if you are in a relationship with someone you love and they love you, that feeling of loneliness can forever loom there in the back of your mind. I try to remember this every time think about heading for the hills ^^ I do have people that will eventually cause me pain, but they are the same who do everything they can to fix my pain. The one truth I've found is that isolating yourself and keeping yourself from experiencing joy/sorrow with another, still gives that person power over your life. Okay, I've said my peace, I hope you are doing well and I hope you will do even better =)
Honestly, the reason why I stay single is because most of the people I meet bore the hell out of me. They are too predictable and in many cases, are not knowledgeable in a wide rage of topics. Ten minutes into a conversation and I get so bored that I just stop talking. So I gave up, taking a little hiatus to work on other things.
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Waiting for my crush. I have liked him since day one (a year and a half ago) and never thought he would like me. My friend asked him what he thought of me and he said I am nice smart pretty and a REALLY great singer and he half smirked and looked up. Then she asked if he sees us together in grade 11 because so far he's been busy with school and has never dated anyone, even though everyone likes him. He wants to spend his full time on a girl he dates. He answered and said "idk it is a possibility, I am unsure right now because it is so far. It could happen, it could not happen, I am just gonna roll with it." And I have caught him staring at me lately. I soooooooo hope he will date me, just 6 months kore pf waiting haha ♡
It's been like 2 or 3 girls and mYbe like a week almost 2 weeks ago. She just stopped talking. The other girls are still talkin to me about their crushes, their in my pm box. I think I'm just the guy to talk to about this sorta stuff I don't know.. But I tell them all sometimes you gotta make the first move. I don't mean like kiss him or ask him out or somethin, try stsrting a conversation, say hey what's up and ask him about his weekend. Ask him if he has plans on the weekend and if he wants to hang out or grabb lunch or somethin, some girls mKe it soo hard to get a date or even a phone number nowadays because they set the bar soo high and alotta guys don't fit their requirements. Guys just be like "fuck it she's prolly gonna say no anyway"😒 and then we don't even bother to ask or speak, We just admire from a distance. Nobody likes to gdt turned down. Some of you women have to bend your rules a little bit. The more you expect from a guy the harder it is to find a soul mate
Well I dont rmember if it was me, Ill message you in a bit to see. and yeaI try to message him and he will reply quickly but he never messages first. He is always near his friends so I am scared to go up to him. Idont want to embarass myself or something. I have a tendancy to accidentally hold my breath when he is around and I get so nervous haha.
There is not just one reason to explain why I'm single, there are 11 reasons: 1- I'm shy 2- I don't go out much 3- I'm a virgin 4- I'm not skinny (but I'm not fat either, nor I have curves) 5- I wear glasses 6- Guys treat me like I am their friend or their sister 7- I'm afraid of being hurt 8- Guys think I'm unfriendly 9- I'm afraid to talk to guys I consider attractive 10- I'm black and I'm attracted to white guys 11- I consider myself unattractive
Girl, just because you're black does not make you a bad person. You are not unattractive. You are not ugly. You are modest, and you are beautiful. You were created perfectly, so watch what you say about yourself because you are Somebody's masterpiece.
I don't know... I can talk to guys pretty easy and joke around / hang out and so on, but as soon as we pass friend zone I'm just really shy, can't think of anything interesting/fun to say and start overthinking everything. That's why I think staying friends is better, it's not so weird and awkward. I guess I'm an awkward person sometimes
Seems like your too worried about messing up so you overthink things like a scientist or something, lol just try and relax and don't think like a girlfriend, think like a best friend and it might go smoother for you. As soon as you start thinking like a girlfriend you prolly worry about pleasing the guy too much in every aspect
You're so right, thank you, I think that's the case... Hm next time I'm interested in a guy, I'll TRY to stop worrying and acting more like a best friend... Haha easier said than done but I'll try..
Just do what your doing now, say what's up and say chillin and whstever lingo you use, don't be like "I missed you babe" and I wanna hold you and all that stuff lol I personally like it when a woman talks to me sweet like that but other dudes just get annoyed cuz then they feel like a girl is being clingy I guess
Since I broke up with my boyfriend i have been single for 3 years. I dono no guy seems to spark my interest like he did and no matter how hard I try all guys seem the same to me (just meaning I get the same old lines, the same old texts, the same old places, want me for the same old things and it's all very predictable etc.)
I'm so sorry to hear that.. Well, what did he do that seperated him from other guys? Whst made him soo specidk through your eyes? I mean you gotta let a guy in at some point just to get to know you at least... Even if he's got weak pick up lines... I'll be honest it's hard to come up with great pick up lines but I've never had a girl say I was boring or not fun to be around... And I've never had a girl say I wasn't romantic but enough about me, tell me what he did that seperated him from your adverage guy?
I don't know what it was either that made him different. I think it was just that he went out of his way to be my friend first and didn't just ask me out right away, he tried to get to know me, he was mysterious and had the most gorgeous eyes i have ever seen and he was social and so nice to everyone. And during the beginning before we had ever talked we used to always make intense eye contact in class and it was like he was looking right into my soul lol sounds so dramatic. But anyways we just had a connection. Now a days the only guys I meet are at a bar or a club I guess and they waste no time asking for my number right away asking me on a date right away, the conversations I have with them is all the same, like I am dating the same guy but with different looks. On top of that I have trust issues so I don't really let guys in either I guess.
Well I don't have much of a solution for that. To be honest if I saw you at s club I'd do the same thing as other men, i'd ask you can I buy you a drink and I'd sit you down and try to talk to you and get to know you a little better. But before you left my sight id damn sure ask for your phone number because there's no telling when or if I'll ever see you again now is there. If I did manage to get your number I'll probsbly text you good mornings or good nights through out the week but closer to the following weekend I'd ask you to have lunch or dinner with me. I would say a movie but that has earned a bad reputation thanks to teenager doing sexual things in movie theaters 😒 ususlky when guys ask to go see a movie girls think they want head or a hand job or wtf ever smh... But I mean how else are you suppose to get to know a girl? The more time you waste, you run the risk of being put in the friend zone or you run the risk of losing her to somebody else to beat you to it
I do at least try to be friends with the girl but if I'm stsrting to like her I don't want her to find another guy and then she tells me I waited too long to ask her out, (that has happened to me before lol) as far as the looks department, I can't really help you on that part either because everybody was made in their own special way and not everybody can be a pretty boy or a beautiful model. And it doesn't sound corny because I've often felt that way when certain ladies from my past would stare at me. I felt like they were looking into my soul. lol
And feel free to message me if you want to talk as friends you seem to have good input. and @cuteguy22 boyfriends are not something I NEED. I am not just going to date anyone for the sake of it.
There are just very few girls that are actually interessting. And when I meet one I don't get very far because I suck at dating. I am the type of guy who gets friendzoned everytime.
Why would you think you suck at dating? There's a trick, think like a girl. Dlnt talk about things you one always talk about things she like and always sound curious even if you don't give a damn what she's talkin about, you have to force yourself to care as if your solving a math problem or studying and preparing for a math test
I am single because I choose to be. I am still a kid and I'm in college, still figuring out what I want to do with my life. I'm still working through issues with my chronic illness. It just wouldn't work with my life. Even if it did, I don't think I would get into a relationship because I'm happy just being a kid at the moment. :)
I never found anyone I particularly click with but I also don't think I'd ever trust myself to be enough for someone. If find it easy to make friends with guys, but I have my insecurities about it ever being more. I know I'm young but that's me at the moment :)
I never really understood why girls have sooo many insecurities at teen years, as if you need to really be a model for playboy or something in order to get a guys attention or somthin.. all you really have to do is say hi and carry on a casual converaation... You can't dress ugly, but then I mean you don't have to dress like your going to a wedding everyday either...
Neither do I and to be honest I wish I didn't have any. There's having a guys attention and having it enough to date him. I guess there's always the thought of she's better than me and why would he go for me if he can have her.
See that's a bad way to see it. Sometimes you may have something she doesn't have. You may not see it but the guy sees it.. That works both ways... One guy may be stupid and ugly and outta shape but height still win the girl. I'll beclike what the hell do you see in him? He has no game or anything so why are you choosing him? lol that actually happened to me before
I personally prefer being single because I like my individuality. For what I have seen, in relationships people tend to lose their essence becoming someone dependant. I don't like the idea of giving someone that much control over me. For me to be in a relationship, a lot of needs would have to be covered for me to make that choice.
@MrLi0n I am not the best to answer this but I will give it a shot. I think being caring and understanding is the key. Respect her life outside of the relationship, good sex and communication.
Oh well you did a great job explaining it. I have all of those features covered so I'm kind of in the clear... Thank you for explaining it to me though.
Cuz the guy I'm going crazy over says he's not looking for a relationship right now so we are just friends with benefits :( I'm like in love with him and don't want anyone else... just thought i'd post that since it wasn't one of the above options lol
Lol that's... Damn dude that's not very wise of you but alright... I mean think about it!!! I know you like that guy but why continue to give him action if he doesn't wanna be your bf? Lol that's like saying..
(( why pay $4,000 for a 60" Samsung Ultra HD TV when this guy will steal it out the store for me for $100 bucks?)) hahaha Your basically giving him your love and your body's without him having to worry about you calling him a cheater, he can get sex from you and any other woman he wants without consequences but if your willing to make that sacrifice then damn..😓 it's your choice.. I'm not trying to be a cock blocker and block his game or anything, I'm just trying to make you see the mistake your making and how your kinda humiliating yourself. sometimes we want things we can't have... You have no idea the type of elegant women I've wanted and the way I would've treated them like a queen but they weren't willing to put their trust in me and give me their love. Sux but owell
Well we both agreed that we wanted a friends with benefits relationship and in the begining he told me that, im assuming because he had gotten out of a 4 year relationship some months before we first met up. Maybe he changed his mind? I guess I'm hoping he will come around and want something more with me but I feel like I can't tell him how I really feel because I promised I wouldn't catch feelings for him. I mean, the sex is great, but I do feel kinda empty after we hangout and desiring to connect with him on a more emotional level.
I have a feeling once you open your mouth and tell him how you really feel he's gonna run for the hills, I'm a guy and modt guys do that type of shit cuz they don't like responsibilities or whatever. I personally don't look at it as responsibilities, I look at it as trainning and preparation for the future... Gotta enbrace it sooner or later... 😉 like I said its your life and your choice but if it were me I wouldn't allow it... I don't like that shit and never did. I just said this to another girl last night, I don't do short relationships, 1 night stands, or friends with benifits. Someone's bound to catch feelings and they may not show it but they'll catch feelings as soon as they see you with someone else, some people just struggle to be humble and act like they don't care but best believe they'll be upset or hurt inside. Besides I can't share my woman, when you give yourself with me I pratically own you.
Your body is my body. Your lips are my lips.. I better not ever catch another guy putting his hands on you or I'll break his fingers and I'm going to jail for assault... 👿 there's very few things left in this world that's considered sacret and I'd like my woman to stay sacret, I don't someone sharing my gifts. MaFuck everybody else lol.. Sorry for the agreesion and vulger language but I get worked up about that type of stuff
Honestly I've NEVER dated anyone a lot of guys wanna date me and i really like one guy in particular whose like an exact copy of me but is a boy haha. Dating seems very troublesome... and even if i do date a guy one day.. im not too thrilled by the idea of marriage either.. I just wanna be best friends who love up on each other without having to use stupid labels and having to worry about cheating.. Thats my thing.
Guys and girls get jealous though, you may not care but if you were my girl I'd be mad as fuck if I came to school and saw you sittin on a guys lap or he was grabbing your butt. I'm sure you'd be mad to if I was grabbing a girls butt or whatever. You'd probably care about that whole cheating label then
well not really i have a guy who i like and he flirt with other girls but he really likes me i dont get jealous because no matter what happens he cannot get enough of me being around lol why hate when u have what u want?
I don't know, I guess I just dlnt like sharing my women guess, that means I don't want guys calling you all night, touching you or buying you gifts and shit, showing up to your house dropping you off and shit. It makes me feel like im just another boy apart of your fan club, or a groupie. There's very few things left that are still sacret In this world and I'd want my woman to be one of those special things that no other man has the privileges of enjoying but me. My woman is mine! Her body and lips are mine! Her free time is mine! Her love and soul is mine! Find your own! And I know this is off topic but I'm standing outside at work typing this shit to you and a bird just shitted on m left arm.. WTF!!!😁😡👿 FUCK!!!
Don't think this the wrong way but your really pretty so it's definitely gonna happen soon trust me. I just hope your not one of those girls that mske guys jump through hoops just to get a little bit of your time
nope i dont make guys jump through hoops because i dont wanna do any silliness like that. My thought process is treat others how u wanna be treated and im 15 i dont like playing games with relationships its so.. immature and ik im NOT ready for a relationship so its just like... lets be good friends but not date because its too much for me to honestly invent 100% in you know? And I've been an open book about liking my crush and he was too shy to tell me but i finally got him to admit it lol.
But yeah even guys whom i dont like im very friendly and understanding i dont play with peoples emotions or make them have to work for my "Attention" im not "easy" but the whole notion of having to be difficult is really stupid after a certain point like we're young adults here lol
I've never had a boyfriend. The main reason is that I don't want to have any serious relationships (at least for now) because it's really hard for me to get really close to somebody to the point where I can say I really like them. Tbh, I don't think I'm capable of loving aaybody. I don
I'm convinced I'll end up just being friends with benefits with someone.
I fucked up my post (stupid "send it!" button-.-) but yeahh even if I do like someone, I'd only be interested for a hook up but nothing more but they're usually the "wrong" guys that I'm not even supposed to be involved with, anyway.
Well I can answer that, usually females that are under 18 are the females that like the bad boys. A lot of batboys attract nice and kind females so that's probably why you're only interested in hooking up with people you're not supposed date. The only solution to that is age. As you get older your taste in men would elevate and you'll get tired of being with the bad guys, you'll begin to want someone who's smart, intelligent, and has a game plan in life
So basically your telling me you don't think your attractive enough for the type of guys your attracted to? And how are you socially awkward? There's a reason for everything and sometimes you just hsce to explain your actions in greater detail, like if we were on a date and I asked you some shit like... What's your favorite food, and you said snails, imma need you to explain how and why in great detail, I don't expect you to say snails and change the subject. And what's wrong witb relationships? It's suppose to be a bond between two people... But you have to let someone inside your circle and learn to trust them If you ever wanna see that bond
Probably a lot of reasons. Guys aren't interested in me for some reason. I only seem to attract women. I'm terribly shy. I do have some trust issues, which I'm getting over finally. I want to wait until I love the person to have sex. I'm also getting my life together right now, so I don't really have a lot of time for a relationship. I also haven't really tried yet and I haven't been approached either. ^^
Mainly because I'm not happy in almost every relationship I've been in. I used to say yes to any guy who asked me out to give them a chance, and I thought that over time I would start to love them, but I never could so I would end up breaking up with them. I really hurt the last guy I dated (over a year ago) so I've sworn off dating anyone until I find someone who I have a strong emotional connection with.
What's the readon your unable to fall in love? These guys have to be lacing something your really looking for in a man, what could it be? Ask yourself and think really hard what they all seem to be missing
I have commitment issues that stem from realizing that girls that I like aren't the girl that I love. The main problem is the fact that the girl I love is a fabrication that only lives in my head. I am aware of this and I cannot change it, I'm a terrible person, I pick girls apart and it's really better for them that I be alone.
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I'm trying to find a person who I can have conversations with and not have them think I'm conceited if I use 'big' words. I also want someone who wants me for more than just the sex and I'm not willing to settle for less.
How does big words mske you sem conceited? If anything, big Words shouls make you seem more intelligent than the average female. Every guy wants sex but you just have to learn to put a limit on it. Maybe dress less appealing cuz I know if I date a girl and she shows up in short shorts or a mini skirt or a low cut shirt, then we probably won't be on time to wherever we were going. lol
Well most of the guys who show interest in me tend to dislike the fact that I don't speak completely in slang or text lingo, and I don't dress provocatively at all.
I do think I'm unattractive, which is probably one of the reasons I'm single, but there are probably between 100-150 people my age in my town, 95% of which I grew up with and about 75% are already in relationships. So the dating pool is really tiny.
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