Guys, what can a woman say/do to change your mind if you stated you aren't looking for a relationship or isn't ready?

[Anonymous]

[Yannae]

This question is difficult. I usually do not change my mind on things like this. Two things you can do.

The ridiculous thing. Be so awesome, that I feel forced to change my mind. But that's not her trying super hard to hopefully change my mind. It's her being herself and ending up being exactly the kind of person I am searching for.

Second thing. Ask me how I feel about you. If I'm not looking for a relationship, it's probably not going to happen. If I am not Ready for a relationship, it means I have things to work on before I feel like I can be a proper partner to someone, but that someone doesn't mean that it will be you.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

S e c o n d e d !
On all accounts :)

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

If taking myself as a test subject, a woman certainly shouldn't try to change my mind, I would take it as forcing which would throw me seriously off. Because it would tell me that she's lacking in psychological skills as well as telling me that her vision of me is misconstrued. If she's interested in me, then strategically, she should try to stay in my vicinity and wait for the right time to move, I would notice and appreciate that :)

[overlord337645]

honestly your wasteing your time i realize that is a little blunt but i put it bluntly cause i learned that the hard way chaseing someone who was minipulative so while its not idea i would say be grateful he is honest with you about not wanting to date right now and move on you can still be freinds but I don't know your comfort level or his so thats up to you all and if you can handle it but i really wish you good luck :)

[Shiprex]

That you're leaving for someone who will settled with them.

I think this query comes out of the hook up culture that's prevalent and that people are generally fearful about commitment. Also I'm not one to string someone along so this wouldn't be a query I'd experience.

[ProbablyClueless]

The only thing would be to stick around for a while if I needed time for my life circumstances to change.

I wouldn't say something like that to a woman unless there was a foreseeable reason/chance things would change. I'd give her a definite time frame and tell her when I would be able to give her a proper answer.

[Asker]

It’s interesting you say that because I remember he did say he can say this now but he doesn’t know if tomorrow his mind can changed and he don’t wanna say things won’t change… but he’s just not looking for a relationship right now

[ProbablyClueless]

In that case, I think you'd be foolish to stick around. Because if he had even the slightest intention of taking you seriously, he'd give you clarity about exactly what's going on in his life, what needs to change for him to go steady with you, and a good idea of when he would be able to give you an answer.

What he's giving you now is super unclear and wish washy. He's telling you that he's just kinda feeling things out right now. That's guy speak for "I'm comfortable where I'm at right now. I see that you benefit me, but not enough to make any changes for you, so I'll keep you around on the off chance something changes that I don't have any say in."

[Asker]

Thanks for keeping it real. But sorry can you explain more kinda feeling things out about me and him or him with others including your last comment to keep me around that the guy don't have any say... "I see that you benefit me, but not enough to make any changes for you, so I'll keep you around on the off chance something changes that I don't have any say in."

[ProbablyClueless]

Pretty straight forward and simple. It just means that he gets along with you, but he doesn't like you enough to change his life for you. He's keeping you as an option

[OneViewpoint]

Not the answer you are looking for but the answer is NOTHING. You can't force another person to conform to some timeline you've made up in your head. If you try it will generally end badly. So settle in to be a good friend. If that doesn't sound like something you want, move on.

[KrakenAttackin]

Anyone who says they "aren't looking for a relationship", means they just don't want a relationship with you. If the perceived right person comes a long they will enter a relationship.

[slatyb]

Probably nothing. It could be his way of saying "I'm not ready for a relationship WITH YOU"

[Orion84]

Nothing

If I say I don't want a relationship, then I don't want a relationship. If she continues to try and convince me, all it will do is upset me.

[AviatorTom]

She can do nothing to change my mind right now. Best she can do is stick with me, let our relationship grow, and then maybe, I might change my mind... later.

[Miristheiss]

Probably nothing.

If he says thatbit probably means he really doesn't view you as wife material.

If he did he'd be more open to it.

[Asker]

Does a guy not when he kept sayin how he thinks I’m a really good person and beautiful person… but then still say he wanna do him and not be in a relationship?

[Miristheiss]

Did you have sex with him? That is probably all he was trying to get, he'd say anything to get that.

[Asker]

Nope no sex. He said that to me when he told me that he didn’t wanna mislead me because he’s not looking for a relationship but he also admitted that he is interested in me but couldn’t tell me that since it won’t sound right as he isn’t looking for a relationship

[Anonymous]

Convincing us you're not going to break our hearts. Most men who hit that point have had a lot of negative experiences.

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

We don't want to be in love with you I'm feeling better if you are interested in the 1st episode of your warm body against mine and let me and you can remember to get naked and fuck each other loudly and choose to make sure we are going to fuck each other loudly until they get back from their house and they don't want to be in love with me and you can get naked and fuck with my ex and you are going to fuck me occasionally and I will be in touch casual for the fuck ING.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

normally, nothing, if they aren't ready, they aren't ready.

[Staximus]

If somebody is not willing to commit then they are not the right person for you. Stop wasting your time with somebody who is not willing to commit.

[Spencer10]

Honestly... nothing. Timing is everything. If he is not ready he is not ready.

[Anonymous]

She can wait and stop bugging me about it. Then when/if I become ready I may still consider her an option. (Wouldn't expect this of her, I'm not the only man in the world she is free to look for relationship elsewhere instead).

[SolitarySolace]

Nothing. They’d be better off with someone else. I’m sick of being cheated on and used and told how to live by women.

[HungTexan]

Invite you over, and meet you at the door wearing a very seductive, barely there, lingerie. I think that should change your mind.

[RingOfFire]

Nothing. If I'm not interested I'm not interested.

[dragoblack]

#1 reason men are not wanting relationships, is because we are not being treated as people by women who only see us as a convenience.

[princeofromance]

There is nothing she can do to change my mind. I will not get involved with someone until I am ready for a relationship.

[Nightmoon23]

I would say just show that you want to be around no matter what, show how much you care be there for him when things are bad just be the person he can’t stop thinking of also make sure you are what he wants in other ways too.

[Anonymous]

The same thing a guy can do to change a woman's mind when she says she's not interested.

[IFdyourmom1]

Prove to me why I should be in one.

Show me the positive aspects of one. Because right now, relationships to me, suck, FUCKING GOD DAMN, BALLS

[Wise4myage]

Invite him over to your place and answer the door naked, lol.

[TonyMetal___86]

She have to understand or find a solution if there's a problem...

[grega239]

Nothing. Why would i want to enter a relationship anyways?

[236color]

Honestly, nothing.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Lay a b. j. on me !!!

[In_Trance]

nothing