What does it mean when dumper is still single after 2 years since we stopped talking?

[Anonymous]

When we were talking he seemed like he’s ready to settle down.

[Anonymous]

it's impossible to know why someone is single after two years. People change, priorities shift, and life happens. Don't read too much into it, as it likely has nothing to do with you or your past interactions.

[Asker]

he occasionally views my instagram stories and he doesn’t follow me. Also in public he looks at me with serious look and he doesn’t look away

[Anonymous]

Why do you care if he has been out of your life for two years? Move on with your life.

[Asker]

Because he occasionally views my instagram stories and he doesn’t follow me

[Opinion Owner]

Then move on and find somebody who will treat you with respect.

[Asker]

But why would he keep tabs on me?

[Opinion Owner]

It does not matter. Are you that hung up on him?

[Anonymous]

He dumped you?

[Asker]

Yeah

[Opinion Owner]

Could be that he just doesn’t want to deal w women for a while. Maybe his relationship w you was to draining. What was the reason given for breaking up w you?

[Asker]

He said it was because of our different life goals

[Opinion Owner]

Do you think that was really the case? Sounds like bs to me.

[Asker]

I also thought that too. What do you think was the reason?

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know. I don’t know what your relationship was like. Were you two together for a while?

[Asker]

We were talking for 2 months abd only went out once. We’re muslims by the way. He was asking me personal things like how many kids I want. Also during our date he asked of I would work or stay ay home when I have kids

[Asker]

During our date he couldn’t look me in the eyes at all which was weird. I don't know was it because of shyness

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. So what were your responses? You still a virgin?

[Opinion Owner]

Could be shyness. Sometimes to look someone in the eyes can be seen as being disrespectful as well.

[Asker]

If I made him shy why reject me? I told him that I want to study more and get my masters and better job. Also I told him I would like to move to middle east in coming years

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. So maybe what you said is the reason he did say our life goals are different. I can see w that said, that that would be a legitimate reason.

[Asker]

But he didn’t told me what he was looking for

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. If he told you he wanted you to stay home, watch the kids, take care of the house, would you have given up going to school to do that?

[Asker]

Maybe if he said it’s really important to him. It seems like after almost 2 years later he still hasn’t found someone to settle down with

[Opinion Owner]

I see. It probably really is importantly to him. Your education not so much. Plus w your age he probably wants children.

[Asker]

Yeah, he’s turning 33 this year

[Opinion Owner]

I’m thinking his answer was a legitimate answer like I said. At your age you have maybe about 13% of your eggs left. So who knows how long as far as dating then marriage then children. By then you may be close to 35. I’m assuming he’d want you to stay home. To a lot of men, a woman’s education isn’t as important when it comes to finding a mate.

[Asker]

But I didn’t say I don’t want kids

[Opinion Owner]

I get that. But like I said your eggs are probably down to about 12%. So to him he figures that if you go to school, may take another two years or so. Again your age is one consideration. Less eggs as well. Getting closer to a geriatric pregnancy.

[Asker]

Then why keep tabs on me 1,5yrs later?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he still cares about you but your goals don’t align. I’ve met women who I felt the same for but things didn’t work out. Doesn’t mean I completely dismissed them. Check to see how they’re doing. Hopefully everything turned out good for them. Maybe you should talk to him. Tell him you’d stop going to school if he matters that much to you as you do to him

[Asker]

He sent me long text when he cut things off that he wishes me all the best and also said ”may god bless you in this life and the hereafter”
He sounded sentimental lol

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like he ares for you. But for some reason I don’t think you want to give up your education.

[Asker]

What makes you think that?

[Opinion Owner]

Something just tells me you won’t. Why haven’t you gotten married or had a child all this time?

[Asker]

I just haven’t found my match. Also I feel that I’m ready to settle down now. by the way would it be desperate to reach out to the guy I was talking about? Usually it should be the dumper who should reach out…

[Opinion Owner]

Ok I had asked previously, are you still a virgin? Something makes me think you have issues going on that’s why you’re still single at this age.
In answer to your question no I don’t think it would be desperate. It might be if he dumped you cause you err crazy or something like that. But like I said I don’t think you’ll give up your education? Are you Americanized?

[Asker]

Yes, I am virgin because in our religion sex before marriage is big sin. Also now I would give up on masters but not only because of him but because I’m too tired to pursue education lol

[Opinion Owner]

Are you sure it’s not that you’re getting old that you’re willing to stop your education now? Because let’s face it the reality is a majority of men want younger women. Especially ones who can give them children.

[Asker]

I’m only 30 lol. I can still have plenty of kids

[Asker]

by the way do you thing this guy really liked since he was keeping tabs on me even 1,5 years later?

[Opinion Owner]

By the time women reach 30, they have about 12% of their eggs left. But as I mentioned as well, men tend to want younger women for a number of reasons. So you’re nearing that door of almost walking out. I’m not saying there’s no chance after that for you as far as children or marriage. Your chances are just a lot less then they would be in your 20s. It’s possible he still likes you some. Is it typical in the Muslim religion for women to be virgins in their 30s? I’m thinking no because even though men may be of different religions, again the one thing men tend to want is younger women. So to me at your age, still being a virgin would raise red flags.

[Asker]

You sound so negative. I used to work in hospital where women came to hive birth. And plenty of women ages 38 were giving birth. Even 42 year olds where giving birth. Also if I’m too old for him why view my stories on instgaram and stare at me in public?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not negative. I’m just giving you the reality of how men think. I don’t understand how women want men to be honest, but when we’re honest the way I’m being right now. All of a sudden it’s negative, or I’m bitter toward women, or I’m misogynistic. These are just facts. Most men want younger women. As for checking you out in public or social media, I already said maybe he still cares about you. Could also be that he looks at those videos to pleasure himself to.

[Asker]

If he cares about me is it same thing as him liking me more than friends?

[Opinion Owner]

It could be. Depends. If you’re cute a lot of men may just like a girl sexually w out having actual feelings for her.

[Asker]

So clearly he’s attracted to me?

[Opinion Owner]

Depends. If he’s not that good looking you may be the only girl who ever ga e him attention.

[Asker]

He’s actually good looking

[Opinion Owner]

So then he should t have a problem finding someone.

[Asker]

That’s why I was suprised that he’s still single

[Opinion Owner]

How old is he? Does he make a lot of mo eu?

[Asker]

He’s 32 turning 33 this year. He has a regular office job. Why are you asking?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m asking because usually women go after money when it comes to relationships. Not all the time but a lot of women look to go up the ladder, not down. So that may be one of the reasons why he can’t find another girl. What country do you live in?

[Asker]

We live in germany but we’re from immigrant muslim background. Most woman want a guy with education , a job and a religious. And he does have all those qualities. The guy doesn’t need to make 6 figures to be desirable or at least not in our community

[Opinion Owner]

I see. But the qualities that he has is it worth the mistreatment?

[Asker]

Mistreatment?

[Asker]

I don’t feel like he has mistreated me

[Opinion Owner]

So you’re ok w being verbally abused?

[Asker]

What? How did he verbally abused me?

[In_Trance]

Nothing