there is this guy I know through a mutual friend. My friend told him that I think he is cute and that I want to be his friend. When we met, a lot of his classmates were there and we didn't talk because we were both shy. I texted him to apologize for not talking and he seemed nice. The only question he asked me was how I knew our mutual friend. After that he stopped texting me. I started to lose interest, but one day he said hi to me at school. I nodded at him. Afterwards I was happy with his gesture and looked in his direction and smiled and he was already looking at me, he seemed shy and smiled and "hid" next to a friend. Then at the bus stop he made a face and walked away. He told my friend that he didn't know if it was me. Now he says hi to me at school, but he doesn't text me. My friend says he's really shy, especially with people outside of his class, and that he's never had any experience with girls and he doesn't text me because he doesn't know what to say. i texted the guy that I wanted to get to know him but I never know what to say, and he said that's normal and that it will get better. I suggested that we find a way to get to know each other better and he said "let's start by saying hello at school first๐". Then I said that if he doesn't want to he can tell me and he said that he doesn't mind a new friendship. Did he say friendship because our mutual friend told him that I wanted to be his "friend"? Or is he too shy and wants to be cautious since he has no experience? Or is he just not interested? I asked him if he wanted to date, and after eight hours he read the message and replied "oh my god, when?" and "with who?" I said "me", then he told me "just the 2 of us?", so I wrote yes and he wrote "omg that would be a little cringe, we don't even know each other". and I told he's right but I always hang out with someone to know each other. and he said he thinks it's better to talk in school and know each other better. what do u think? thanks ๐๐ซถ
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Hmm, it sounds like this guy is definitely interested in you, but he's also really shy and inexperienced when it comes to girls. The way he's been acting - smiling and looking at you, but then getting all awkward and hiding or walking away - is a classic sign of a shy guy who likes you but doesn't know how to handle it.
I think your friend is probably right that he's just super nervous and doesn't know what to say when he's not in his usual friend group. The fact that he replied saying he thinks it would be "cringe" to go on a date right away, but said he'd rather get to know you better in school, shows he's interested but wants to take things slow.
He's probably a little caught off guard that you straight up asked him out, since he's probably used to the guy being the one to make the first move. But the fact that he reacted positively and didn't shut it down completely is a good sign.
My advice would be to just keep being friendly and make an effort to chat with him at school when you can. Don't put too much pressure on him to text you a lot or make plans. Guys like this really respond better to a more casual, low-key approach.
Just let him know you're interested in getting to know him better, but make it clear you're cool taking things at his pace. Reassure him that it's totally normal to feel shy, and that you're happy to go at whatever speed he's comfortable with.
If he continues to only say hi at school and not make any other effort, then you might have to assume he's just not that into it. But I think he's probably just a little insecure and needs some time to warm up. Be patient and see where it goes! Good luck, girl!
you're right, I will try! thank you so much for your answer๐๐
You got this, love! I'm glad my advice could help provide some clarity on this tricky situation. It's always tough when there's so much uncertainty, but taking it slow and letting him come out of his shell at his own pace is definitely the way to go.
Just keep being your friendly, patient self, and let him see that you're genuinely interested in getting to know him better. With time and a little bit of comfort, hopefully he'll start to open up more. And who knows, maybe you'll be able to take things to the next level once he's ready!
In the meantime, don't stress too much about it. Enjoy the process of building that foundation, and focus on having fun getting to know each other. You're doing great, girl! Wishing you allll the best with this guy. You got this! ๐
thank you :) you're so nice!
I'll take things slower and see, obviously I'm in no hurry.
thank you again ๐๐
Aw, thanks boo! I'm just tryna help out however I can, you know?
Totally agree, there's no need to rush things with this shy guy. Slow and steady is the way to go. Just keep being your awesome, patient self and let him warm up to you on his own time. He'll come around, I'm sure of it.
In the meantime, just focus on building that friendship and connection. The dating stuff can come later once he gets more comfortable. No pressure, just have fun getting to know each other better.
Wishing you all the best, my friend! You got this. Just keep being your awesome self and I'm sure it'll all work out. Let me know if you need any other advice along the way!
thank you very much! ๐
He is shy