Are these dangerous red flags in a man?

[strawberrybaby3]

- A man who says to your face when he’s angry “you’re my property”
- says I’m already his even though we aren’t together and that he can take anything he wants and I have to just sit there like a good girl and take it
- says there was an invisible leash around you when we weren’t talking for a period of time
- says he’s very possessive
- gives you silent treatment when something goes wrong and doesn’t talk for days or weeks, pretty much waiting for you to beg
- calls you a whore, slave, bitch , even if it’s said sexually

Some of these things seem like they’re just sexual fantasies and not being said maliciously, while other things are questionable.

[hahahmm]

You keep talking to the guy so you are giving consent in some way to the contact whether you realize it or not. When telemarketers call me I say 'no thanks' and/or hang up. I don't beg them to call me or treat them like friends. You have described a situation where you BEG the guy to talk to you sometimes. That's on you.

Sounds like he has a fantasy... and that you enjoy it but also want to complain about it.

[oldpigg]

Obviously yes, and any woman who agrees to have a relationship with such a man is a hybristophile who deserves any negative consequences of that relationship.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I wouldn’t be thrilled to be with someone who called me their property, regardless of if it was in the bedroom or not.


Here’s a good litmus test to figure out if what he’s doing is wrong or if you’re just sensitive: Would Gomez Addams treat you this way?

[itsannalee]

You know what is it.
And don’t be someone’s property, so people can’t insult you.

[Blunky]

Like I told you in your previous question... get the hell away from him. These are behaviors of a abusive control freak.

[OneViewpoint]

That sounds like personality disorder more than immaturity. Like borderline dangerous. Dude needs psychiatric help.

[bowenw]

They are all dangerous if you have not consented to them. If not, you probably want to find a new man.

[Alex-Snow]

He sounds like an ass. You are no guys property. I would dump him.

[Staximus]

If you don't already know that these are red flags then you are dumber than a box of rocks

[BarryLiverstone]

Less likely red flags and more likely he’s immature

[Jerre]

It’s time to dump this so-called man. It’s only going together worse!

[Anonymous]

Could be a kink , but if you don’t like it he should stop

[PaleDale]

He calls you "his property"? Red flag. Yeah.

[Ironco]

At 34, you know the answer already...

[slatyb]

Yes. Run away!

[nawtee_me]

Yes for sure

[CubaPirate]

Very much so