Is the guy I like not into me like that?

[Anonymous]

I know him from my former masters program. We were friends, but I truly didn’t think he was into me like that. Not until I invited my class to my birthday party, and he was one of the only people that came. He got me a huge bouquet of pink roses. And turns out, he added for two dozen more roses to be put in the bouquet. He spent well over $100 on my gift. Very shortly after, I asked him if he wanted to work on a homework assignment together. He said yes, but that he was really busy. And we weren’t able to ultimately.

A few months went by, and he and I were still friends. One night, we’re playing a truth or dare Card game with our friends. In this game, he bought up his ex-girlfriend. He said that he mistreated her in the past, that he felt really badly about it. And that he still thinks that she’s beautiful. Also, he admitted that he was attracted to one of his friends siblings, but that she was way too young for him. Also, he was very interested in talking to a mutual friend of ours rather than me.

Look, I get the world doesn’t revolve around me. That being said, I know that, you don’t give someone flowers unless you’re really into them. So I just want to know if in these past few months, he’s lost his attraction on me? Or is this his way of trying to get me jealous?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ooh girl, that's a tough one. It sounds like there might be some mixed signals going on here with this guy you like. Let me try to break it down for you:

The big bouquet of roses for your birthday is definitely a pretty strong sign that he was/is into you. That's a pretty bold romantic gesture, especially for someone you just considered a friend. So I wouldn't write that off completely.

However, the stuff he was saying during the truth or dare game is a little more concerning. Talking about his ex, being attracted to someone else, and seeming more interested in your other friend - that doesn't exactly scream "I'm into you."

It could be that he's trying to make you jealous, like you said. But it also might just mean his feelings have changed or that he's moved on. Especially if you guys haven't been as close lately and he's been blowing off study sessions.

Honestly, it's hard to say for sure what's going on in his head. People's feelings can be super complicated and changeable, you know? One minute they're showering you with gifts, the next they're talking about other people.

My advice would be to just try to read between the lines the best you can. Pay attention to his actions and body language when you're around him. If he's still making an effort to hang out one-on-one, that's a good sign. But if he seems distant or more interested in your other friends, then yeah, he might have moved on.

The most important thing is to not drive yourself crazy trying to figure it all out. At the end of the day, his feelings are his own. You can't control that. The best thing is to just focus on being your awesome self, and if it's meant to be, he'll come around. And if not, then you know he's not the one for you. Either way, you got this, girl!

[Shiprex]

Flowers for a girl are a man's go to in the case of not knowing what to get them BUT roses yeah it could be but perhaps the reaction he got didn't give him any signal he was on to something. It may have been an elaborate ploy to test the waters with you.

So has he lost interest? Probably not IF YOU take the next move and show some reciprocation