Hot and cold? Is he trying to pull away?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been speaking to this guys for about a year he mainly turns everything sexual and only txts after sunset.

Recently he has been hot and cold, left me on delivered for 5 days then was txting last night but today he said “speak soon” what does that even mean? Does it mean don’t reach out to him?

[SueShe]

It sounds as if he is slowly pulling away and that HE will be the one initiating the next text when HE feels like texting. In other words, give him space and don't contact him until he is ready for you.

I would get ready for some bad news although you don't mention what kind of relationship you have with that guy, whether it is something solely platonic as normal friends would be or if he is the one you are in, let's say, a deeper relationship.

It is indeed a red flag that everything he talks turns out to be sexual. Personally, I would never tolerate that and I would have given him a piece of my mind a long time ago.

[Asker]

Yes he can be so lovely though but at the same time I have my suspicions.

Evening txting makes me think there is a wife or something in the mix, as I don’t really hear from him weekends etc

[Nikki1989]

Based on what you've described, this situation raises several red flags for both of you, with the biggest one being the pathetic texting habits.

[Jay-_-]

"He mainly turns everything sexual" was the first giveaway

"Only texts after sundown" was the second

I don't need to read anymore, he's not into you for a relationship, he just wants to you know.

[spartan55]

Why are you even bothering? Work on your self esteem.

[MadinaHasABensheer]

he only wants you as a fuck buddy. don't waste your time on him unless you are also using him purely for sexual purposes.

[EmmaMary]

For fuck's sake just ask/beg him to give you a damn good fucking... Simples.

[Jay-_-]

Damn Mary