Guys, does he still like me?

[Anonymous]

So there’s this guy I’ve been talking to. We met irl and started messaging each other. He’s called me stunning and pretty and cute and all and paid for me whenever I visited him at work. Suddenly he ghosted me, but for a good reason (I asked him about it, he’s dealing with some personal things). He still pays for me whenever I see him at work and we have great chemistry when we see each other (his work place is one of my favorite hang outs and was even before we started talking) but it’s been about a week or two since he ghosted me and still hasn’t replied. We have seen each other in person though and it was just like it was before he ghosted me. Does he still like me?

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I forgot to add: my friend told me he blushes whenever he sees me.

[Alex-Snow]

He paid you when you visited? Why was that? Were you sexually involved with him? How old is the guy and is he single?

[Asker]

He paid FOR me. As in he took care of the bill for me

[spartan55]

He thinks you aren't really into him.

[Asker]

I keep messaging him but he hasn’t responded

[Asker]

And I tried to plan something with him and I gave him a sticker

[spartan55]

Forget that. Have you done anything to let him know you are interested?

[spartan55]

Gave him a sticker? Wtf?

[Asker]

I told him I was interested and that it was ok if he wasn’t, to which he told me he was very interested

[Asker]

Like a water bottle one that costs like $5

[spartan55]

You shouldn't have said it's okay if he wasn't, but I don't understand what the hold up is here? Maybe too much online communication and not enough irl?

[spartan55]

I guess I don't get the sticker thing.

[Asker]

He works at a drive-thru coffee stand so I’m not sure how much talking we could do

[spartan55]

Then what's the point of all of this?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[spartan55]

If you can't/don't/won't talk to him in person it seems like a waste of time don't you think?

[Asker]

I talk to him when he’s there and I’m there. We’ve talked about hanging/going out together before he ghosted me but haven’t actually planned anything quite yet due to a personal issue he’s having (I know what it is but I won’t go into specifics to respect his privacy).

[spartan55]

Like I said, neither of you seem like you are serious. Waste of time.

[Asker]

I want to be, I’ve just got no idea how to start that.

[spartan55]

Uh... ask him out

[Asker]

He’s asked me out twice and then didn’t plan anything when I said yes both times.

[spartan55]

Then he isn't interested.

[Godihateyou]

He thinks you don't like him.

[Asker]

I keep messaging him but he hasn’t responded

[Godihateyou]

Imagine if a man messaged you over and over again. How would you feel. Blowing up his phone doesn't show you like him. It shows you are a pain in the ass. Show up where he is at things he likes to do. Let him come back to you.

[Asker]

I don’t mean I blow up his phone, like I’ll text him once like every few days and I try to show up when I can but he hasn’t told me his exact work schedule so often times we just completely miss each other.

[Godihateyou]

Maybe I misunderstood. You are probably right. He doesn't care about you