What made you invest your time and effort to a woman? Do a woman have to do something extraordinary to be noticed? Or just simply be herself?

[Anonymous]

What made you invest your time and effort to a woman?

Do a woman have to do something extraordinary to be noticed? Or just simply be herself?

I'm awkward and weird and shy. That's just me. And mostly, that was only frowned upon or laughed at. What makes her to be interesting on Men? Personality-Wise.

[Anonymous]

I have to be extraordinarily attacted to her. It has to be her actual self that makes her stand out. I just want someone I can be myself around and be with for a long time. I've been described similarly to what you have described, and that can all be looked at positively from the right perspective.

[exitseven]

She was just different from anybody else I ever met. I thought that we were just friends until one day I realized that I was in love with her,. I really did invest a lot of time and energy to get her to like me.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[DishLady]

<3 <3 <3

[Summeroflove]

Finding someone who genuinely wants to also invest in me. Now genuine relationships are transactional to a extent meaning both people have to be investing into one another. That doesn’t mean financially or anything like that necessarily but giving one another time, effort, etc in the ways you both have agreed on assuming you’re compatible.

The phrase “be yourself” sounds cheesy but it’s true. Because you know what? Yes you will repulse people away who don’t genuinely like you for you. But at the same time you’re attracting the kind of people who genuinely see you and want you. Rather then pretending to be something else and forever having to keep that mask on. That can lead to major issues down the road.

Also overdoing it trying to do too much from the wrong person can result in you being used. If your effort is one sided then either they’re not that interested or on the second hand are using you. You don’t want to be investing in a man whose refusing to put any effort to you expecting you to do everything. Because that’s how the rest of that relationship will be.

You always text first. You always plan the dates. Pay for the dates. Ask for the next date. That should be a team effort between the two of you. If someone’s refusing to put effort forwards. End it…

[Lliam]

Be your genuine yourself. "Weird" is unique and cool. It's an asset.

But try to look cute. Practice smiling and being fun to be around. Laugh at jokes. You can't be sullen.
Try to learn how to initiate and carry on a conversation.

Guys like sweet girls. There is nothing wrong with being shy and quiet in the beginning as long as you are not completely inaccessible. But guys don't know how read extreme shyness and might mistake it for disinterest.
All you really need to do is tilt your eyes up at them shyly and give a hint of a smile.

Even if you are shy, guys want a hint that you are sensual and have a desire for romance. They want to imagine that you are a sexual tiger waiting to be unleashed.

[Vevv123]

Always be yourself. Always. Imagine realizing the person you’re in a relationship with is an entirely different person to what they once showed you and imagine their real personality is something you don’t match with. Everything you mentioned makes you unique and someone will notice that and like that.

[StevenMcGarrett]

Be pretty, talk to me, and show me that you are interested.

[DishLady]

Meh... That only gets a gal so far with a guy. There certainly IS something particular that will get a guy to connect and invest in a gal beyond what he'd do for other gals.

[StevenMcGarrett]

@DishLady well that will get the ball rolling and see if he likes you or not.

[DishLady]

🤷🏻‍♀️ in my opinion it’s a bit subjective.

[StevenMcGarrett]

@DishLady totally understandable. Every guy is different. What might work on one guy might scare the other guy off.

[DishLady]

For sure.

[jahaims]

My wife was being herself. She is bubbly and wears her heart on her sleeve.

[Ariesman81]

Just remember that your weakness is your strength

[IHateBeingaMan]

another enraging reminder