He ended things so weirdly?

[Anonymous]

So me and this guy were seeing each other for like a month we spent a lot of time together I even met his daughter. He did something that i didn’t like and wouldn’t take accountability for it so I pulled back because I wasn’t sure how else to handle it. So the next day he was being super moody with me saying I needed drop everything I had to do to go look after him because he had been burnt from the sun but I had other plan. He continued it all day saying he wasn’t happy and I needed to go home. So I told him “ if he was going to be like that I’m gonna leave him to it”. So after this we don’t talk for a day. He messages me saying you alive and I explained why I wasn’t talking to him he said I couldn’t take a joke and I obviously didn’t understand him.

he ends this day because I don’t take a picture for him and apparently I’m selfish. I try to call him to talk to him he won’t answer. But I was so confused because he was just so casual about ending things.

[Anonymous]

Please be smart and cut your losses. This is a lot of drama to happen within only a month and it’s not going to change since it’s part of who he is. Why would you want a man who can’t take accountability and acts like a child? How did you not feel completely turned off by him basically having a tantrum because you wouldn’t send a pic? Don’t you see how manipulative that is in general to end things because he didn’t get his way? I mean look at you chasing after him when he’s the one who overreacted, he wants you to beg for his forgiveness and then send him pictures like he asked. It’s gross behavior. You can do a lot better than being that woman. Let him go.

[Asker]

Yeah I did I walked away with grace and blocked him. I just was so confused by his actions. He never acted like this until the end

[Opinion Owner]

To be fair, you’d only known him 3 weeks prior so you didn’t have good reference points in the first place as to what is and isn’t his normal behavior. If it seemed easy for him to walk away, that’s how it should’ve been after a short time. In fact I’d say the first 1-3 months is the window where you should leave immediately if it’s not a good fit rather than trying to stay together and work things out as if it’s been a long term relationship.

This guy is strict about protecting his boundaries, whether you agree with them or not. For example his boundary was that you “couldn’t take a joke” (it wasn’t a joke in my opinion it was him being dumb but again, that’s his boundary), along with you not sending him pics which also is stupid as hell but that’s he thing. He was willing to cut you off the moment you weren’t abiding by his boundaries and didn’t care to give you closure or clarify simply because he didn’t care enough about YOU. There wasn’t enough time to have built that sort of connection.

Going forward you’ve got to act with the exact same tenacity because men don’t involve emotions in their decision making at the capacity that women do, so if they don’t care enough then why should you? Why should you rationalize and work through things, or accept actions that were wrong for the sake of staying with someone you’ve known 1-3 months? Men don’t do that, so you shouldn’t either. Like if I were you, that first time of him not taking accountability would’ve made me do more than fall back I wouldn’t been done completely. He sure would’ve been.

[Alex-Snow]

Maybe it was meant to be. He sounds kinda weird. Were you two sexually involved? If so how did that go?

[Asker]

Yeah things moved pretty fast with us. We seeing each other like 3-4 times a wek

[Alex-Snow]

Hopefully the sex was/is good?

[leahzrc]

Is his name josh lol

[leahzrc]

guess not

[Asker]

Nope lol