Why did he do this in the middle of everything?

[Anonymous]

so me and a guy i was dating were kissing. it got intense and when we both kind of noticed was going further , he got up and went to the bathroom. then came back normal almost.

i was confused because he didn’t ask , i didn’t ask but it was there … he just left and didn’t pursue or ask or anything. just nothing.

then when we cuddled he didn’t cuddle fully. he gave me ample space even when i made moves..

what happened?

[bowenw]

It sounds like he went to masturbate. Why he would do that is a mystery. Perhaps he was embarrassed to take things further with you. If it happens again, I suggest you ask him what is going on.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[BarryLiverstone]

He didn’t want to go beyond kissing with you

[BarryLiverstone]

Had you been intimate with him before?

[Asker]

out of respect? or he didn’t like me?

[Asker]

yes ! kissing was his idea !!!

[BarryLiverstone]

Could be many reasons. How long have you been dating? Have you discussed having kids or getting married

[Asker]

it was 6months when all this happened. and the future sort of like our goals yeah but not inclusive of each other. generally

[BarryLiverstone]

Gotcha. So this all happened in the past. Maybe you are not even still dating him

[Asker]

correct. just trying to get an understanding. he broke up w me after this. like a few weeks later. said he needed to get his life together

[BarryLiverstone]

That tells me that he didn’t want to go all the way with you and risk pregnancy. So he decided to take a break in the bathroom and came back out not wanting to kiss anymore

[BarryLiverstone]

But how did you notice things were going further? When you were kissing him

[Asker]

he was excited and started moving.

[Asker]

ahhh ok. so he went to calm down? he just made the decision not to even ask? men do this to avoid responsibility? sorry for so many questions i genuinely appreciate ur help

[BarryLiverstone]

Go ahead and follow me on here and I’ll try to help. As you seem to have lots of questions

[Asker]

ok. thank you.