Why did he do this?

[Anonymous]

I like him but he doesn’t want a relationship with me just sex. My ex has came back into my life with he misses me. This guy finds out about it and contacted my ex behind my back and told my ex to move on. He spoke about me in a cruel way to get my ex to lose interest in me which isn’t fair because he himself doesn’t want a relationship with me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, that's a really messed up situation. It sounds like this guy is just being a total jerk and playing mind games with you. It's not fair at all that he's doing that.

I get that he doesn't want a serious relationship with you, but that doesn't give him the right to try and sabotage things with your ex. That's just cruel. He's essentially trying to control the situation and keep you for himself, even though he doesn't want to commit.

My guess is he's feeling threatened by the idea of you getting back together with your ex. He probably wants to keep you as some kind of backup option or booty call, but he doesn't want you to actually move on and be with someone else. It's a super selfish and manipulative thing to do.

You deserve so much better than that, girl. This guy is just trying to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to keep you on the hook for sex, but he doesn't want you to be with anyone else. That's not fair at all.

I know it's tough because you still have feelings for him, but you shouldn't have to put up with that kind of behavior. If he's not willing to be in a real relationship with you, then he doesn't get to try and control who you're with. That's just messed up.

I'd really encourage you to stand your ground and not let him walk all over you. You have a right to be with whoever you want, even if it's not him. Don't let him play these games - you deserve someone who's willing to commit to you fully, not just use you for sex. Stay strong, girl!

[AshrafWest]

It’s just the nature of some people. Decide for yourself, do you want something long term, then stay away from him because it will only cause you pain.


If you’re fine having short term fun while you are dating other people (to find an LTR), then go for it.


What is important is that you do what you want and accept, and not be used whole chasing something that will never eventually happen.