A guy can marry a ghetto, stripper cleaning lady but wants to play me and I’m educated? What does she have that I don’t?

[Anonymous]

I feel less than because I liked this guy and I thought he liked me… it didn’t work out he wanted nothing to do with me and basically rejected me… I was really depressed just to find out he was married and the girl is just okay…. I don’t understand

why do I feel so insecure about this

[Anonymous]

Depends on what you’re like. Yes a lot of men will marry down, women not so much. Education isn’t on the top of most men’s priority list of a partner, nor is her career. Maybe your education has made you more argumentative, maybe you act like you’re better than everyone else. Hard to say w out actually knowing you personally. A lot of women who are educated tend to have the mentality they don’t need no man, I can do it on my own, etc, etc. So men are like ok well if you don’t need me why would I want to be w you. You’re independent so that tells me you don’t need me, I’ll go somewhere else where I am needed. But this may not be your mentality. Like I said it’s hard to say w out knowing you personally.

[Finchie40]

First off. It’s his wife if they are Married? so if he loves and cares about his wife, he is n’t going to choose you over her , if he didn’t really love and care about his wife then he might choose you over his wife , but that’s a 50/50 chance on whether he would stay with you or just get off on you?

[Asker]

They’re getting divorced and he should have never talked to me if he was married..

[Finchie40]

Well that’s weird if he was flirting with you and showing interest in you and then all of a sudden change his mind, so if I was you , I wouldn’t take it personal, I would just realize it was their loss not mine and then go find someone else that wants to choose me like I choose them

[Asker]

No he made it seem like he was single and in reality he just wanted to sleep with me

[Finchie40]

Unfortunately that type of shit happens a lot these days with guys’ and girls’ that just want sex and nothing else. Overall most guys’ don’t really care about a girls’ profession , whether she makes good money or not , Most guys’ don’t care if she works at McDonalds etc.. , he mainly cares about her beauty and her personality. Now if he is just looking to get laid , then all he cares about mainly is her beauty mainly , let alone some guys’ will just fuck anything with a hole. Girls’ on the other hand , care about his profession and care about how much money he makes , and cares about his status and the way he presents himself , he can be a bad boy that she finds attractive and be all about him , but overall attraction isn’t as important to her like it is to a guy That’s pretty much one of the differences between guys’ and girls’ for the most part , I can’t speak for everyone, but that’s pretty much how it is. Bottom line everyone has their own preferences of what they like and don’t like , So in your case it sounds like you want more than just sex with someone , which isn’t a bad thing , it just means you have good moral values and want someone that is on the same page as you. I am like that as well , it takes more than just attraction or getting laid for me to want to be with a girl , I prefer girls’ with good morals that are on the same page as me when it comes to relationships. My intentions is to have her keep coming back for more and more hoping she wants more than just sex with me , we aren’t mind readers so that’s the chances we take when meeting someone new , that we are into. Unfortunately it’s an50/50 chance on whether they are on the same page as me or not , especially if she is lying to me and not being completely honest with me. So all we can do is try , and keep trying until we find a good seed instead of a bad seed

[DishLady]

Yeah, same happened to me. He described me as "amazing" and talks about me with the highest regard to anyone who asks, but he claims a major bimbo (who has literally been with all his friends) as his girl. She's a good bang and guys tend to get very caught up with that. Go figure.

Try to just move past it. He'll want to fill the void in his life by "being friends" with you. Don't allow it.

[Asker]

The crazy part will always be that they are married… and I feel so inferior.

[DishLady]

No no. Please don't do that to yourself. It's just going to taint your next relationship. Don't give this loser so much of your space and time.

[Asker]

It’s so hard not to… I wanted to be with him.

[DishLady]

I know. Same in my case as well. But some guys are just the sum and total of whatever their dicks think will make them happy. There's nothing you can do or say to change that. Just hold your head up and move on, even if you still don't feel like it... ESPECIALLY if you still don't feel like it.

[Asker]

Okay 😓💔

[DishLady]

You'll be ok sweetie. I'll keep you in my prayers.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

She has a better pussy than you, and she also doesn’t question him as much as you did. Get over it and move on. It’s just a man. There’s like a thousand others just like him in your general area. Men are always replaceable,

[spartan55]

You don't even know when he got married. It may have been after your brief week long deal.

[Asker]

No he was married before that

[spartan55]

How do you know?

[Asker]

Because they’ve lived together for some years

[spartan55]

Okay, that doesn't mean they were always married.

[Asker]

I’m sure they didn’t just get married either

[spartan55]

You don't know that.

[Asker]

Probably did so he could get citizenship

[spartan55]

You never have facts, just speculation and spin.

[Asker]

It’s just a speculation

[spartan55]

Or just call it 'making shit up'🙄

[Asker]

I didn’t make that up…. He was having trouble with his visa

[spartan55]

Having trouble with his visa = he got married... uh... no?

[Asker]

Getting married gives you citizenship if you’re not a citizen

[spartan55]

Yeah, I understand that. But we don't know that's what he did. I DON'T KNOW and YOU DON'T KNOW.

[Asker]

I CAN READ! STOP YELLING AT ME

DUHH I SAID IM SPECULATING

[Asker]

You’ve called me unstable even after the firefighter story remember that?

[spartan55]

Of course, and I stand by that opinion.

[Asker]

Why?

[spartan55]

We've been through this ad nauseum. Don't pretend like we haven't discussed it backwards and forward 100s of times.

[Asker]

You’re trying to say I’m unlovable

[spartan55]

Uh... UNSTABLE. Never said unlovable.

[Asker]

I’m not unstable!

[jahaims]

Guys don't care about a females education or finances as long as she doesn't have Hella debt. Males and females want different things. Females try to become what they are attracted to thinking a male wants the same.

[slatyb]

I don't know, but forget about it and find someone worthy of your interest.

[Darklydarkened]

Define educated. What are you educated about? What? You do particle physics or something?

[Pohjolan]

Would you have preferred for him to cheat on his wife?

[Asker]

He did tho by talking to me…

[Pohjolan]

Wait what? You expect married men to communicate with etch a sketch or something?
Also that didn't answer my question.

[Asker]

It’s hurtful regardless wtf you’re talking about

[Pohjolan]

What's with women being unable to answer yes or no?
Also you haven't explained WTF you mean by cheating by talking when he rejected you?

[Asker]

He was married while dating me! When sex wasn’t on the table soon enough he bounced

[Pohjolan]

Yeah well you previously wrote that he didn't want to have anything to do with you and didn't mention anything about dating.

[Asker]

On our date… he asked me when I last had sex.. and other stuff… but ultimately he said he didn’t want to invest time in anything if sex wasn’t involved

[Asker]

I’ve already harrassed and embarrassed him for playing me and finding out he likes trans women too.. then to find out he was married… he gave me legal warnings and had the police call me but now I see why it didn’t go through… he was preparing for his divorce

[HusamRocks]

You have a brain 👍🏻