Why are guys like this?

[throwmeaway1111]

I went out with a dude the other day for the first time. Before I continue I will remind y'all that this is first time I’ve went out with this man. Anywho he kept trying to hold me from behind with his arms around me shoulders, tried holding my hand, and so on. I’m not a touchy person and especially hate this when I don’t know you. I also think it’s pretty weird to do on a first date. I did stupidly go back to his house but did not do anything sexual despite his attempts. He kept trying to make out with me and even kept putting my hand on his member and asked me “what I want to see of him” 🤢. He also tried picking me up and putting me on his bed and tried to pick me up when I was getting off the bed. And wouldn’t stop staring intensely at me while we were watching tv or mind you I was watching tv. This guy is 32 by the way but this kind of behavior is what I’d expect out of teenage boy who’s never been around a girl before.

[RavVid]

The simple reason is he wanted to have sex with you. More the question is why he thought it would work?

Maybe because it has before? We repeat what works.

I think you should make physical skin contact as early as possible too but I would do it more subtly and less objectionable way.

I think you are right it is about teenage boy level but even then we know hand on knee first and gradually migrate it up to under the skirt. Don't go straight for the pussy.

[bowenw]

I'd be worried he is a player that wants sex quickly so he can move onto his next conquest.

[throwmeaway1111]

I’m really trying to not to be mean but he’s not the most attractive and he’s very awkward and goofy so I highly doubt he has the ability to be a player

[bowenw]

He may have figured he wasn't going to have another chance with you and decided he had better make a move.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Staximus]

Did you just fall off the turnip truck? Never go back to a guy's house after the first few dates unless you are planning to have sex with him.

[throwmeaway1111]

Yeah I know it wasn’t smart to go back to his house. I also feel like people shouldn’t expect sex just because someone goes back to their house though

[Danny_dan92]

It’s clear that all HE wanted… was sex.




It’s not that complicated

[throwmeaway1111]

And that’s fine but he should have communicated that and asked before touching me

[Danny_dan92]

You should’ve known based on his behavior

[throwmeaway1111]

I’ve never had a man put my hand on his penis without asking first even if he was acting like that

[Danny_dan92]

How do you not know what he’s hinting at what he wants when he does that? Are you that naive?

[throwmeaway1111]

I’m not saying that wasn’t a hint enough. When we were talking and hanging out before that he didn’t make any indication that he was just trying to get laid

[Danny_dan92]

He was trying to get you to touch his dick… again. I’m struggling to understand how tf you didn’t think he wanted sex

[spartan55]

Was this your first date like with any guy ever?

[throwmeaway1111]

Nope just the first with a weirdo that doesn’t know how to take a hint or ask for consent

[spartan55]

Try using your words, hinting doesn't work with guys. You should have learned that about 20 years ago.