Why some guys are like this?

[Anonymous]

I have an older brother. He is in early 20s. He had one relationship back when he was 15 or something. It was short and I remember him being pretty fine after that. Recently he was seeing one girl. She was crushing on him for a long time. He really likes her. Things were looking really well and many people including me and my parents thought they are already dating. But all of a sudden she turned him down. It really hurt him and i have never seen him this much without a life. He is definitely better now. But. He doesn't want to hear about dating and such a things a word. When one girl said to his friends she likes him and they told him to go to ge to know her he just laughed. He says things like he likes himself too much to do this again to himself, it wouldn't work out anyway and that he is not a relationship material. I get it when you get hurt it is hard. He has always had this care free attitude to things. He often looks he doesn't care about anything. But i know when he cares he cares hard. I know he really liked this girl. He is not that type that would date around and have many girls even he could have. I would say for him is pretty hard to find someone he really likes and cares for. Why are guys like this?

[Anonymous]

It's important to note that not all guys are the same and everyone has their own unique experiences and ways of handling relationships. However, in general, some guys may have a fear of getting hurt and may be hesitant to enter into relationships because of past experiences. It's possible that your brother may be feeling this way after his recent rejection.

Additionally, societal expectations and stereotypes about masculinity may also play a role in why some guys may be hesitant to pursue relationships. Some men may feel pressured to be independent and self-sufficient, and may view relationships as a potential source of vulnerability or weakness.

It's important to communicate with your brother and offer support without pressuring him into anything he's not ready for. Encourage him to take things at his own pace and remind him that it's okay to be vulnerable and to take risks in relationships.

[boggboss]

Like what lol he got hurt and he isn't healed whilst his friends are trying to push him back into dating whilst he is not ready