Why some guys are so jealous and some aren't jealous at all? Or they just pretend like there're not jealous?

[celestiika]

I had an ex boyfriend who was jealous at everything. He would get mad even if I commented some guys MySpace or because I had guys on my top friends. So I got used to the idea of guys being so possessive. And then my boyfriend is the complete opposite. Guys could practically come and flirt with me to his face and he wouldn't care. Its not that he don't love me, but sometimes I do miss getting a guy jealous. I miss the attention. Do you really think a guy can't be jealous or he's just pretending?

[Killfest400]

"Sometimes I do miss getting a guy jealous."

I do hope you aren't intentionally trying to make him jealous. If my girlfriend was intentionally trying to make me jealous, I'd be p*ssed at her. While I understand that making him jealous means that you feel desired, it's making you feel desired at his expense. Don't create drama just for the sake of an ego boost.

However, I would say that everyone, men and women, can be jealous. How jealous they get and how much they act on it are two very different things. For example, I don't really get jealous when guys try to hit on my girlfriend, but I do get jealous when my girlfriend likes other guys. Even so, I'm not going to go out of my way to punch the other guys (or my girlfriend) because I'm jealous. If it's really bothering me, then I'll talk to her about it. If she is still out flirting with other guys, then I'd just dump her. If she can't respect my boundaries (which are pretty lenient), then she's not going to be my girlfriend.

[celestiika]

No I'm not trying to make him jealous. But we sometimes go out to the club with a group of friends and guys come up to me and try to hit at me and he just don't do nothing. I've been with guys that make me jealous on purpose and I know its not cool. Thanks =)

[superasker]

No, all men are capable of getting jealous, but our limits differ.

Maybe your current boyfriend would require that another man come and try to make out with you for him to get jealous. It sounds like he is really trusting of you, though, and that's way better than the alternative.

[celestiika]

Yes he's way too trustworthy which is great but maybe is a girl thing but I would like him to care more sometimes.

Thank you for your help =)

[superasker]

You should ask him - "why don't you get jealous?"

That way, you'll know for sure. Guys like answering these types of questions. Makes them feel manly.

[Anonymous]

You should be happy! my fiance is just like ur ex even worst he made me delete my MySpace so guys doesn't see my picz and doent try to hit on me, and now he find out that I have a Facebook and his going crazy wanted me to delete it. honestlly you are right its nice to have a guy that shows how much he cares and love you by those little jealousy things lol :) evey men is capable of getting healous but they each one of them is differ . like what superaskar said

[celestiika]

Oh I understand you on the deleting MySpace stuff. But yea sometimes it feels nice to feel like your only theirs and he don't want anybody to take you away. Iol

[Opinion Owner]

No homo lol. are very pretty he should be jealous. haha

[zk5201]

Just because he doesn't seem to be jealous doesn't mean he doesn't care.

I tend to be mildly jealous, the majority of which I don't actively show because I try to be understanding, not make big deals of something minor. Some aren't jealosu because they feel completely secure with their love. Sadly girls tend to hate that and cheat just to make said guy jealous. Another thing that happened to me.