We talk every day, game 100+ hours, but…am I just a friend?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this guy every day for 3 months, and we’ve gamed together for 100+ hours. I really like him and saddled up for the long game after he said he wasn’t ready for anything serious (sad boy vibes).

spreading democracy 🥰

I don’t connect with people often, so this is really special to me. Last month, after a cute outing, I asked him if he’d like to cuddle sometime… and he said maybe (I cried, he doesn’t know that lol). There’s been no physical intimacy, but he keeps showing up, playing video games, hanging out, and we know each other’s routines inside and out. I care about him, but I’m frustrated and sad. I can see the progress we’ve made in our friendship but he can still be a little closed off.

Also just for context he’s a complete nerd pc gamer type n I’m absolutely enamored by him.

Am I in the friendzone, or is there still a chance for more?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Girl, you haven’t even asked him on a date. Of course you’re just a “friend” if you don’t have enough courage to actually change that yourself.

[Asker]

I asked and we went that was the cute outing I was talking about 💕

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

In the game?

[Asker]

No, weve hung out multiple times n went to a pumpkin patch our last outing

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

And you made it clear it was a date? You held his hand and kissed him?

[Asker]

No we’ve never been physical. Nothing past hugs

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Then initiate it yourself, if he rejects you, move on

[jahaims]

He has too much unhealed trauma to be a good partner. Probably an avoidant attachment style too while you sound like an anxious attachment. One of the least healthy combos possible

[RHK36]

Move on to someone more available. You're only punishing yourself.

[Asker]

Not being sought for my goods is refreshing. I think I’m just so used to guys pulling it out the first night that this is a bit foreign to me.

[ChicoFromThe305]

This game is following me everywhere

[Asker]

For democracy lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Indeed so lol

[Danny_dan92]

Yes. You are

[Asker]

Do you send morning texts and talk to girls you friendzone everyday?

[Danny_dan92]

He’s probably just lonely. It doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you.

[Danny_dan92]

I personally had my fair share of experience with women. So I don’t need to speak to girls to feel happy.

[Asker]

lol interesting

[Danny_dan92]

Very